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Am fedup!
Well, i go too high school. At high school we have populars and well geeks and i really, really hate this! No one has the right to tell you who you are or name you.
Populars think they can boss me about for example 'get out of this room', 'go away, you can't hang around here'. Am really fed up i just want to answer back but then everyone will hate me, and my friends are scared because they don't want to be hated, and everyone eles sucks up to them.
i would really like to know how can i stuck up for my self without being hated by people.
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Be yourself, choose a clique that best represents you, or don't. Either are good. Highschool is a short, 4 year popularity race, a race which you don't have to run. Don't care what they have to say, they don't know you. Look at your character and personality, or their any aspects that you can improve on? If your happy with who you are, please, don't change. Your going to be hated by someone sooner or later. Man... looking back on my freshman year I must have been in a couple of fights every month. Toughen up, I don't meen fight people... just get used to the idiots and do your own thing. You'll have much more fun that way.
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Hi.
First of all, dont suck up. Thats all the respect theyll ever have 4 you gone and you'l have 4 urself. If they tell you to go out just say its a free country.
Keep standing up 4 urself and theyll realise ur not like ur friends and mite actually have a backbone!!
xx
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ok im extremely confrontational so maybe this wont help much, but honestly running and hiding never helps, ok would you rather be disliked at school by the populuars or have a sucky high school experience and believe me no one else but the populuars will hate you theyll all think your awesome for breaking the mold, seriously the next time they boss you around like saying get out of this room say... i belong here just as much as your stupid fancy as$ does so go bug someone who cares
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in high school there will always be some group or some person that doesn't like you, no matter what. it doesn't matter if you're like Lindsay Lohan in Mean Girls or if you're like Mandy Moore in A Walk To Remember. so with that in mind, you should do or say whatever you want to any punk that decides that they're gonna act out to seem cool to their group. in high school it's more important to find yourself rather than sacrificed your individuality to fit in.
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theres no way the worl dosent work liek that anymore hunny hahah
you just have to be a bitch if they treat you like that and stick up for ur self dont be a kiss up like ur friends are if they tell you to do somthing say no. os sumtin people will be surprised.
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I used to have the same problem.The thing about high school is your hardly ever treated like a person,more like just a face in the crowd.And your feelings about it?They most likely mean shit to the "populars"My advice is to get through all that and just stand up for yourself without getting too violent.(im sure you wont want a fist fight lol)But dont give them a sob story.(you want some self respect =]) So if they try to boss you around just tell them that you dont need to be told what to do,especially by people your age.Just be confident,and have dignity.And if that doesnt work,ignore them completely.Theyre not worth your aggravation.
good luck =]
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Eleanor Roosevelt once said "Do what you feel in your heart to be right- for you'll be criticized anyway. You'll be damned if you do, and damned if you don't." That quote totally relates to your situation. It doesn't matter in this case what you do since obviously you'll be criticized for every action you make.
Honestly what I'd do is just not brush this off and let it go. If they go to say something to you like "get out of this room" say something back to them like "why should I get out of this room? I have my right to stay here and do as I please." Might seem silly, I know but stand your ground. If they say something which will somehow contradict who you are as a person, call them on it. They say, "go away, you can't hang out here" you should say "why should we all just stop doing what we want to do and revolve our lives around your happiness? Why can't you realize that you're just like the rest of us and in 10 year none of this will matter."
Truly not one bit of what's going on will matter when you're older. Keep remembering that. The best advice I can give is just to stand your ground. You'll be damned if you do say something since people will judge, and damned if you don't since the populars will keep at it. When you stick up for yourself do it in a sense that they won't know what else to say to you. Especially if you make honest mature points, guarenteed they won't know what to say.
Good luck, and I hope this helps you. If you want contact me about anything else. I hope everything goes well for you since bullying is such an immature thing. It's truly the most pathetic part of high school.
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Just tell them you have the right to anything and everything else like they do. They'll feel threatened but once they see that you don't stand around for that bullshit they'll end up respecting you for it.
I know that sounds so stupid, like something you'd see in a tv show but that was what my first weeks of highschool were like and once they saw I didn't tolerate that shit they backed off.
Good Luck.
Just walk with your head held high.
Confidence is Key :)
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Honestly? If you stand up to them the only ones who will hate you are them. Everyone else will LOVE you. Because you would be doing something that they don't have the guts to do. The only people who would hate you are ones that don't even matter.
EDIT: If your friends are really your friends they won't hate you for sticking up for yourself.
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