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Hey,my names Cassie and im 15 years old.I live in Brooklyn,New York and i really cant wait to leave >.< The things that keep me sane are my friends and music.Im not sure what id do without them.Im pretty good at giving advice,as long as you dont expect to hear what you want to and for me to sugarcoat things because thats not how life works,and its not how im going to give advice.I've always wanted to be a writer but im not really sure anymore.I cannot stand stereotypes,so if you use them,dont use them with me.I wish there was more people out there who arent fake,but what can you do?Anyway,ill be happy to answer most of your questions,so feel free to ask =]

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I'm on my friends myspace pg and I just noticed right near where it says "view all of bla bla blas friends" there is a button that says "mutual" what does mutual mean? And how come I don't have it?

mutual mean the friends you have in common
like lets say you both have "bob" added as a friend, he is a mutual friend
you might not have it if you arent showing your friends on your profile.

i like this guy and i think he likes me back, but we only talk online. we go to different schools (freshmen)

how can i ask him to get together without sounding to anxious? or how can i get him to call?

please be as detailed as possible!!!

i was in the same situation before.just ask him to go somewhere really casual like a movie you guys both might want to see and pizza afterwards.you wont sound anxious,as long as you dont jump down his throat if he cant make it.play it off as casual as possible and hell like the lack of pressure being put on him.just because your asking him doesnt mean your desperate.usually guys your age an be really shy or awkward in those situations and dont know how to ask.just take control and be yourself.

I have a boyfriend that I've been going out with for about 9 months now and things have been kind of crappy lately 1. our relationship isn't sexually exiteing enough that kind of sounds bad but out of nine months of going out I've been fingered once and I've given him hand jobs countless amounts of time and was thinking about giving him head 2. we've been fighting ALLL THE TIME over really stupid things he will piss me off i get mad then he makes fun of me being mad and BAM EXPLOSION * we got in a huge fight yesterday and I was like how come you always have to make me feel like crap (his sense of humor him "joking around" is kinda aggravating me lately) I told him about it before and i told him its getting worse and I'm sick of fighting with him all the time .. we cant even talk on the phone anymore without getting in an arguement (btw WE NEVER USED TO FIGHT BEFORE) but on the other hand he's always there for me and when i'm upset he's always there to help me feel better but i'm sick of fighting and i can't like change who is his because his sense of humor that aggravates me is basically who he is; i'm losing patience with him..
AND I'm kind of really attracted to another guy and he's becoming more appealing to me lately

what should i do.. should i breakup with him?
=/

i am very sorry for how long it took me to answer this ...ive been really busy lately
anyway you seem a little more mature that your boyfriend,mostly because he doesnt act like he knows when to be serious and when to joke around.My advice to you is break up with him if you feel that you cant make it through your fighting and the whole sexual frustration thing.I mean how long can a relationship really last if the major part of his personality aggravates you?plus..its not like you need to tie yourself down to one person just yet,your young have fun!On the other hand if you really want to work things out and you think that maybe he deserves another chance,you NEED to stop fighting.Try just talking to him without yelling or screaming just say "i understand that your sense of humor is who you are and i would never even think of making you change your personality but sometimes you need to act a little more respecting towards my needs and mature,especially 9 months into the relationship" and about the kid your attracted to...he should only be in the picture if your decision is to break up with your bf for YOU.if you do it for some other guy,your expectations will be too high for him and if he lets you down,youll regret breaking up with your boyfriend in the first place.Just remember whatever decision you make will make you happy.
good luck!

Cassie

I have a habit of biting my nails. I hate it because I really want pretty nails. I see all these other girls with long, pretty nail, but I just can't do it! I gotten my nails semi-long but then they break and I will just bite the others off. I have decided I don't want nails longer than the end of my finger because I think that is what would work best for me but right now they are for sure shorter than that. Does anyone have any ideas for how to quit biting my nails? I usually do it when I'm bored and don't even realized it until I have started tearing them. Also when I put nail polish on I usually won't bite them because of the taste and looks but I usually don't wear polish because doesn't it look bad to put polish on short nails? I don't want to attract attention to my ugly nails but if people don't really care than I could keep doing that.

i used to have this problem too,its a pain in the ass lol.
you should buy a bitter tasting solution that you put on your nails to keep from biting them( i suggest "THUM" it works well)and put it on every day and before you go to bed.when you use it make sure to wash your hands with soap and water alot before and after putting it on...and keep gum or candy with you so when you get fidgety you dont freak out if theres no nails to chew on.
good luck =)

So...it didn't exactly go all that well..like I tried my idea but it didn't work really..there were only like 10 of us..mmm yeh..and 5 guys..so ermm yeh..i tried it but it didn't work...but we danced a bit..slightly grinded not much..then at one point when we were sorta..we didn't exactly have the right music to really get into it..he had his arms around like neck when he was behind me..and yeah...i tried to get to it..but it didn't exactly fall through..if we had more time..i probably could have really done something to set him off...but there is always next weeks party. hahah :)

yea definatley alot of this stuff takes time so jsut be patient and keep trying
i hope everything works out =)

I know this may sound really stupid. I have this friend, we are really close and what not. He's a guy and I'm a girl. Well, he doesn't believe me that I can be really girl. He mentions how I don't go after guys and I don't show my "sexy" side and I don't really act sexual. We are both going to a party tomorrow night. 2 weeks ago he said I better dance with him. Which means grinding and what not. Do you know any ways to show him that he is wrong and I can be someone I don't exactly show easily. Maybe somehow turn him on and loosen him up. He's been messing with my head lately, he admits it and says he loves to do mess with my head. I'd love to get him back. Any ideas?

When you go to this party,be as social as you can.Talk to other guys,dance with them,and make it known that you dont NEED him...and that you can be a girl.Try to look really nice (not trying too hard or anything) just better than you usually look when you guys hang out.This is going to sound pretty cliche,but play hard to get and finally dance with him.Dance your best..show him you can be sexy and that you can turn HIM on.And after you dance its your choice whether you want to do..although i suggest leave him wanting more.show him you can play head games too.

good luck =)

is there tracker on myspace to see whos looked at your profile?? i rate high

yea just join trakzor.com
its supposedly the best one

good luck =)

I really would like a new hair cut. What I'm looking for is something in between medium-length and short. I guess I want the hair to be razor cut at different lengths. Can anyone locate me a picture? I want funky, something megaly funky! Thanks!

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http://s202.photobucket.com/albums/aa62/opheliax89/Hair/?action=view¤t=25.jpg

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i know that when you french kiss you put your tongue in a guyz mouth but i dont know how to do it like an expert. cuz im 17 and guyz still say i suck a it and ive been kissing sice i was in 7th grade! does any one know how to french kiss like an expert?

well,you can twirl your tongue around in their mouth (sometimes doing it really fast) and bite/suck their botton lip (it feels amazing)and remember to open your mouth enough to get enough tongue action,but not enough to eat their face off lol.
good luck

what is a "titty fuck" ?

sorry about the language, but thats what it was called

To thrust the penis between a women's preferably large breasts and ejaculate on her chest and/or face.

Ok. ive never had a boyfriend before and ive also never felt this way about a boy. the problem is that we havent EVER talked to each other and i think he likes me. Hes at my bus stop and i will always catch him glancing at me. But i REALLY want to talk to him but im the really shy type especially when it comes to a cute boy like him. he lives on the street right behind mine. does anyone know what i should do to talk to him. and since its summer, i dont see him and all i do is think about him all of the time. Please help me

I think you know what im going to say...you HAVE to talk to him.If you like him this much,you should have a chance with him.The only way you can have that is if you try talking to him.Think about it whats the worst that can happen?Its not like youll really lose that much if hes not interested,theres plenty of fish in the sea.Just casually stand next to him the next time you see him and ask him a question.Just something stupid like ask him what time it is.Then tell him your name,ask him whats up.Who knows? you guys may hit it off.I understand how it is to be really shy,ive been there,but trust me your not going to get what you want if you just stand around and wait for him because he could be shy as well.Work up the courage and go for it!
hope it helped.=]

15/f

i'm kinda obbessed with khleo thomas [the kid from holes, zero] like i've watched holes 20ish or so times. i'm literally like inlove with him. no, obbessed, but whatever. its starting to like get annoying, like how do i stop?

lol dont worry about it
its completely normal to have an infatuation with someone on tv.
for example, if youve ever seen "confessions of a teenage drama queen" i LOVEE that british rock star >.< its really no big deal and you shouldnt worry about it at all, especially being a teenage girl.these actors get PAID for you to love them so dont sweat it.
ohh and btw holes is a great movie
hope it helped =]

how do u gie a guy a lapdance!!!!???????????

theres a lot of different ways to give a guy a lapdance,but the most effective way i think, is to tease him like crazy.For example, sit him down in a chair,bed,couch etc. and stradle him.You can dance on top of him along to music or w.e and like get really close to kissing him,but dont go all way or while your dancing rub up and down his upper leg alot.it makes em crazy >.<
hope it helped =]

Hey. So for a while now my mom has been drinking alcohol a lot. She has been moody and when she dinks you can tell. She gets all fazed and dosen't understand or react well to things that you say or ask. She knows it is a problem and went to meetings for it but that she just stopped. She hasn't been going. When I was little she was never like this. She rarely ever drank. Now with stress from work and my sister and I she just changed. My sister and I did softball and she came to about 1 to 3 of the games, and made my dad go to the rest or dhe would have another person drive us home. She hasn't been involved in anything that my sister or I do, and now she is even working on my sisters birthday and won't be home all day even though she has that power to ask her boss to have her work another day. When my mom drinks my sister yells at her and is really hard on her which makes her drink more and when I try to confront her i never know what to say and if I do say something her only answer is that shes working on it and that she doesn't want to talk about it. Please help! What should i say?

i know it must be hard seeing your mom like this, but you have to talk her when shes completely sober,and dont yell at her like your sister did.Shes vulnerable right now,and yelling,as you saw makes it worse.This is going to sound so dr phil/soap opera lol but tell her how you feel.Gently.Explain to her that its ok to drink a little ,every adult is entitled to it.But when she is drunk and you se her it makes you feel bad , like you cant help her and its making you unhappy.Listen to what she has to say and be very careful not to insult her.Im not going to lie, theres a possibility shell tell you not to tell her how to live her life.But just try to get to her the best you can.
sorry about the situation your in
good luck =]

why is your mom soo gay i dun undersatnd she is seperating u from me...i dun uunderstand why she can't just let us be...we've knwon each toerh for four years and now she tells you you cant see me anymore its not fair i miss you mucho any advice on how to get over cassie withdrawal

because she hates me =[
and because she enjoys seeing the both of us suffer ... lmao
btw next time you should ask me about a real problem
hence, why this site is called ADVICEnators.com
;]
ily man

15/f

my mom makes me crazy!!! we used to be bestfriends and now we fight over everything! she screamed at me for about 45 min today cause i took a shower in her bathroom and she always tells me to get out of her face and stuff. and she loves my bf more than me. she sides with him on everything.

my dad is just a jerk. he works so much hes barely home but he always yells at me when he is. he tells me im stupid and worthless... im an only child so it doesnt help. concrete angel by martina mcbride is my theme song.
someone please help me... i hate this

Wow,this sounds just like my situation.What you have to do is,tell them how you feel but dont start a big screaming,crying,emotional scene.Its not fun.Just walk up to them calmly and say "I understand that your my parents,and yea, i screw up but everyone does soemtimes and im sick of you disrespecting me and treating me like dirt"
Make sure its known that it hurts your feelings and brings your self esteem down.You dont deserve that kind of treatment.As for your boyfriend,tell him that you have enough problems at home and the fact that he sides with your mother doesnt help the situation,it creates more of a problem.He should be there for you when your feelings are hurt, not sit there and make you feel worse.Stand up for yourself and keep your dignity intact.
Good luck,hope it helped
- Cassie

so there's this girl and she is absolutely perfect for me, nobody could even understand how great she is. she's a year younger than me, her parents are divorced llike mine, she's small, she has dyed black hair (always with colors like blue or red), she loves going to rock shows, her favorite bands are metallica, pantera, and tool, she always wears black, nobody can even understand how perfect she is for me. so here's the story: we started talking online about halfway through the school on aim(she started the conversations sometimes and i started the conversations sometimes).we had really good long talks about life in general about 3 times a week. one time she invited me to go to a fair with her and some of her friends but i had to be somewhere. we kept talking online and started finding each other in school and talking face to face. i burned her my nirvana cds and i gave her a ride home once after school when she had to stay after. she visited me at work once(arbys) and we talked. one time after a good chat online i asked if she wanted to just hang at the mall and she said "definately" and was enthusiastic about it. so i looked her number up in the phonebook and gave her a call and asked her if she wanted to hang out on that day and she was like "no i cant hang out today" but she was real brief and didn't go into any detail, it was like she didn't want me to talk to her at all(and btw she cant go online anymore because her mom grounded her for something, this happened before the phone call) so we didnt talk at all after the call. so yesterday she came into arbys and i ignored her and gave her her food and hid off in the back til she left because i dont know if she wants me to leave her alone or not. i'm really regreting it now and i dont know what to do. i know i will see her again before summer's end because she told me she's going to the same concert i'm going to. i really need some advice badly. i really like this girl alot. i have fantasies of me and her laying on top of my car listening to the deftones holding hands and just looking up into the sky. any advice would be appreciated greatly.

There must have been a good reason she was very brief on the phone with you, especially since #1 shes grounded and #2 she seems very interested,why would she randomly not want to talk? You should definatley find a way to talk to her soon, before she thinks you dont like her because of the misunderstanding at work.Tell her how you feel but dont put too much pressure on her.Tell her youd like to go to the movies or something sometime with just the two of you.And dont sweat the whole hiding in the back of arbys thing lol.Just explain to her you were confused on her feelings and didnt want to come on too strong.If shes half as great as you say she is, shell understand.Give it a shot,who knows it might turn into a great relationship.
Hope it helps,good luck =]
-Cassie

My boyfriend has been a jerk lately.. You see, I barely get to see him and we talk mostly on the phone for about a good 15min a day.. Which kinda bothers me a bit because I wish to see him more often, but he has work and when he does have a break.. he'd rather hang out with his own friends first.. then when it gets to me, he'll tell me he's too tired to hang out.. I let this go for awhile, but now it's just getting to me.. 2 days ago I called and asked him if he wanted to go see a movie and what do I get? A "I don't want to hang out with you.." Me being usually cheery when I talk, my voice lowered in an instance and I just kept quiet for awhile.. He then asks why I'm upset, ...HA! like he doesn't know.. Then he starts saying, "If you're going to cry, I don't want to hear it. I'd rather hang out with my friends and I'm telling you in the nicest way, I DO NOT want to hang out OK?" My heart sank.. It's the first time he's ever said that.. Like that.. And of course, the tears came out and I had the sniffles and guess what happens? He tells me to call him back when I'm done crying.. I do call back, but this time I was pissed. I told him I never get to see him and if he even notices that.. Notices that I needed him.. And what a total jerk he's being.. All I get is a "Don't talk to me if you're going to be like this, you need to grow up." *click* ..so here I am today, wondering what to do. He hasn't called, so I guess it's my job to. But.. should I even bother with this? ..we've been going out for almost 2 years.. should I just throw all that away.. I don't know what to do.. I don't want to be alone.. Help please? :(

Hun,do not call him.Its HIM that made the mistake of disrespecting you and treating his girlfriend like shit.Im sure hes a great guy or w.e but noone can make you feel like your a toy to be played with and discarded whenever he feels like it.Wait till he calls you,if he does,make it known that you dont stand for being degraded like that and if he gives a shit about this relationship he better start treating you like a real person.The fact that he likes to hang out with his friends is fine,but they cant just be his only priority.Dont be gentle,dont butter it up,and make your feelings known without sounding completely dependent.Stay strong.If he either doesnt call you or doesnt improve the way hes treating you,break up with him.Trust me,i know its hard because you guys have been together for so long, but think about it this way,you might have a chance with another guy that will treat you well.I bet your an amazing person.You deserve someone who appreciates you enough to notice it.
keep your head high.
good luck.

Well, i go too high school. At high school we have populars and well geeks and i really, really hate this! No one has the right to tell you who you are or name you.
Populars think they can boss me about for example 'get out of this room', 'go away, you can't hang around here'. Am really fed up i just want to answer back but then everyone will hate me, and my friends are scared because they don't want to be hated, and everyone eles sucks up to them.
i would really like to know how can i stuck up for my self without being hated by people.

I used to have the same problem.The thing about high school is your hardly ever treated like a person,more like just a face in the crowd.And your feelings about it?They most likely mean shit to the "populars"My advice is to get through all that and just stand up for yourself without getting too violent.(im sure you wont want a fist fight lol)But dont give them a sob story.(you want some self respect =]) So if they try to boss you around just tell them that you dont need to be told what to do,especially by people your age.Just be confident,and have dignity.And if that doesnt work,ignore them completely.Theyre not worth your aggravation.
good luck =]

okay so im 15 and a girl

usually im pretty good with these things but there is this kid steve. and it was basically an immediate attravtion. we would talk for hours and he basically knows me better than anyone else. well we never made it "official" and its been off and on alot and i broke up with my boyfriend for him. but like two days later he said we were better off friends. now you might consider him an ass hole for this but truly.. he's basically the sweetest, and most caring person i know. if i explained it to you fully, it would be pages. i think that i really love this guy. and now he started talking to me again.

im 15 too,guys are a pain in the ass arent they ? =] Anyway, this guy probably doesnt want to ruin your obviously amazing friendship if you guys start seriously dating.What you should do is tell him how you feel.Dont come on too strong,like saying you love him yet because that might scare him a bit.Especially since he said its better "being friends".Make it known that you are interested, but wont go crazy if he doesnt see you that way.Just make sure the reason he doesnt want to go out is because he truly only likes you as a friend, not because hes scared.Worst comes to worst,youll have to move on and find someone else,but youll stil have a great friend.
hope it helped,good luck.

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