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What should I do about my boyfriend...
My boyfriend has been a jerk lately.. You see, I barely get to see him and we talk mostly on the phone for about a good 15min a day.. Which kinda bothers me a bit because I wish to see him more often, but he has work and when he does have a break.. he'd rather hang out with his own friends first.. then when it gets to me, he'll tell me he's too tired to hang out.. I let this go for awhile, but now it's just getting to me.. 2 days ago I called and asked him if he wanted to go see a movie and what do I get? A "I don't want to hang out with you.." Me being usually cheery when I talk, my voice lowered in an instance and I just kept quiet for awhile.. He then asks why I'm upset, ...HA! like he doesn't know.. Then he starts saying, "If you're going to cry, I don't want to hear it. I'd rather hang out with my friends and I'm telling you in the nicest way, I DO NOT want to hang out OK?" My heart sank.. It's the first time he's ever said that.. Like that.. And of course, the tears came out and I had the sniffles and guess what happens? He tells me to call him back when I'm done crying.. I do call back, but this time I was pissed. I told him I never get to see him and if he even notices that.. Notices that I needed him.. And what a total jerk he's being.. All I get is a "Don't talk to me if you're going to be like this, you need to grow up." *click* ..so here I am today, wondering what to do. He hasn't called, so I guess it's my job to. But.. should I even bother with this? ..we've been going out for almost 2 years.. should I just throw all that away.. I don't know what to do.. I don't want to be alone.. Help please? :(
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That is so hard to do.well i would suggest you do is when the next time you hangout with him is you need to talk to him make shure noone is there and its sumwhere where tehre is no distractions. and start off asking him stuff and be like whats going on we have been together for 2 years is this the end?and ask him whats going on no matter if it hurts you you need to no. bacause he can be hiding somthing it seems like. just talk to him and dont be mean just talk to him nicley and try to get it out of him an dwhen he tells you just say i understand.
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Okay what I'm about to say might hurt you and I don't mean to but he is a total jerk and is not worth you or your tears. I mean you've tried, look at what you wrote. If he doesn't want to try to be a good boyfriend, than what's the point of dating him? Any guy doing that it is not worth dating. Call him and just tell him it's done since he's so insensitive. It's going to be hard for you to cope, but you'll realize it was for the best. There are a million of guys out there, and hey some of them don't treat girls like how your boyfriend treated you. You'll realize you're better off without the boyfriend honestly. And don't get into a relationship that quickly even if you feel alone. You'll need some space and time for yourself and then move on. It'll be rough I know.
I seriously hope this helps and if you need message me about anything I'm here for you. I wish you the best. :)
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Hun,do not call him.Its HIM that made the mistake of disrespecting you and treating his girlfriend like shit.Im sure hes a great guy or w.e but noone can make you feel like your a toy to be played with and discarded whenever he feels like it.Wait till he calls you,if he does,make it known that you dont stand for being degraded like that and if he gives a shit about this relationship he better start treating you like a real person.The fact that he likes to hang out with his friends is fine,but they cant just be his only priority.Dont be gentle,dont butter it up,and make your feelings known without sounding completely dependent.Stay strong.If he either doesnt call you or doesnt improve the way hes treating you,break up with him.Trust me,i know its hard because you guys have been together for so long, but think about it this way,you might have a chance with another guy that will treat you well.I bet your an amazing person.You deserve someone who appreciates you enough to notice it.
keep your head high.
good luck.
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