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worried but ready
14/f. My bf is coming to visit me in august and he is also 14 and we were thinking about having sex. and we really want to and he's the kind of guy i could see myself spending the rest of my life with sense we've been dating for about 9 months. But i really dont wanna take the chance of getting pregnant. What should i do? i no we would use a condom. so dont tell me that. Am i too young? i dont think i am but some ppl do. HELP!!
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I honestly think 14 is WAY too young to even be thinking about that kind of thing. I wouldn't. And 9 months isn't even that long to be dating. Im 14 too, and its really dangerous with all of the STD's and stuff out there. Just be concerned about yourself. And sex shouldn't be planned. Youre 14. No offense, but i doubt you will spend the rest of your life with him. Good Luck. ;)
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Well if your entirely sure thats what you wanna do then go for it, but make sure you fully understand the consquences this cud have on you....not just pregnecy thers sum nastty STDS out there!
On saying that i lost my virginity wen i was 15 and even tho people claim to "always" regret it i definatly dont.
But if you dont end up stayinn together afterward just think if you can handle that situation, cause it differs frm person to person.
People prob. will call you a slut...im not gunna pretend i didnt get it....butt dont ever regret things cause of what stupid people think of you!!
Good Luck
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Remeber whatever your descion it will be right cause its YOURS.....not anyone else's
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Okay, usually I dont answer many questions. However, this one I feel I must. Now, I am 17. When I was 14 I had sex with my boyfriend because we both felt we were ready. We even used a condom. I got pregnant. CONDOMS ARE NOT 100% PROTECTIVE. I can't tell you how much that ruined my life. Of course I love my kid, but it was just too hard. I had to go to school and everyday people just stared at me. Not all of my friends left me, but it has been the hardest two years of my life. I strongly encourage you to not have sex for a few years. It could screw up everything. Good luck with your decision.
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Personally, I think that you should wait. To me 14 is too young to be having sex and even though condoms do help prevent pregnancy they are not 100% effective. It's not credible that you are ready for sex if you're asking us because now it seems like you're unsure and you're just looking for approval from us to convince yourself that it's ok. I mean, if you seriously believe you're ready to move on to that big step make sure that both of you are mature enough and know the consequences that can lead to having sex. Also makre sure to GET TESTED before any type of sexual activity b/c you don't want to get infected with any STDs or illnesses.
I hope I helped!
Make the right choice, YOUR choice.
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I'm not going to sit there and tell you your to young and complain about it. If someone chooses to have sex at any age its their own choice, and it't not the place of others to tell them they are in the wrong, just because they disagree.
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Now for the advice. You sound pretty nervous and if you're that nervous maybe your not ready. To be fully ready is to completely comfortable with your choice, and know for a fact with out doubt you're going to have sex with him. Yeah, 14 is young, but if you yourself feel as though you're ready then it's not my place to stop you. You're smart enough to know to use a condom, if you use it correctly then the chance of getting pregnant is low. If you really do (think) you love this guy & you know you won't regret it, then go for it, but if there is the smallest chance you'll regret it, then don't do it. That small chance is telling you hes not the right one. Do what you feel is right, and what you feel most comfortable with. Sex is a major step in a relationship, it's not something to just rush into. Hope this helped & good luck.
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first of all, i don't think you should have given that girl s one. she was exactly right, and she was just being straight forward which you should be old enough to appreciate even though you're only 14.
i will do the same also.
you're too young. don't do it. even if you've only had sex with one person you will totally get the reputation of a slut. and how would your parents react if you got pregnant?
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first of all your 14 and have a bf you must be a city kid . anyways if you have sex this you ng you will regret it your still just a kid when i was 14 i built forts and shit i didnt think of guys you will have plenty of time to screw around when your older plus if your bf is 14 theres a chance he has a small dick anyways that not pleasureable i would just mess around feel each other up make out oral sex is good if you are comforatble with. i highly recomend it it saves you from beign a mom at 15.by the way you wont marry him your 14 fucken years old
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ok when i was 14 i had a boyfriend and we were together for a while and i thought i would marry him and i thought about sex with him. trust me you will regret it, i finally realized it wasn't what i really wanted so i didn't do it. i really recomend not doing it, im reaaallllyyy happy i didnt
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I think you are too young because you are only 14 and you have your whole life ahead of you. This is just one guy, there could be another guy out there thats 'perfect' for you. Also, if you DO get pregnant it could screw your entire life up. Condoms arent 100% protective.
In my personal opinion, I think you should wait. If you dont feel confident you shouldnt do it. If he is the guy you're going to end up spending the rest of your life with, then hes not going anywhere.
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A. you're 14.
B. you can't say you can see yourself spending the rest of your life with him because you're as stated, only 14.
C if you get pregnant, you screw your entire life up.
why throw that away?
I do think you're too young.
just wait.
you don't need to have sex when you're 14.
especially since you're asking if you should or not.
just don't go down that road,
casue trust me,
you'll want to turn right back around
even though it'll be too late.
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Personally, I think that you should wait til marriage, or at least when your plans are in the works for marriage. Its the best gift you can give to the one you really love.
You're fourteen, and although you may not think so, you're very inexperienced in love. 9 months may seem like a long time, but its really not for someone your age. If you were dating all through high school and absolutely sure he was the one, then it might not be a horrible idea. But you're going to love many more people before you marry. And losing your virginity this young when you're this inexperienced, in love and in sex, is something you will undoubtedly regret. Practically all middle school / high school relationships never last. And, although I congratulate you for holding a relationship for this long, you're not gonna hold out for a long time. Also, a big possibility; what if something goes wrong and you end up pregnant? The biggest question to ask yourself is, am I ready for the consequences? What will I do? How will my parents react? How will my boyfriend react? And the answer to that last question, you both being this young, is that he will break up with you because he can't handle the commttment of being a father, or the eventuality of marriage.
Take it slow, and don't rush things. If you're absolutely, 100% sure that you're gonna have a long-lasting relationship with him, and he has agreed that he will stick by you if you get pregnant (which, even if he has, he will probably bail out of if it occurs), and you are totally ready to handle the emotional and physical consequences of having a baby, then go for it. But, if you have any shadow of a doubt that those things are untrue, hold off on the sex. You're still young, and many more people will come along.
Good luck making the right decision and God bless.
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don't if you dont we have. . .
one less teen mother.
one less person with an std.
one less unwanted baby.
one less stupid choice.
one less regret.
one less 'slut'.
edit - i wasnt being an ass. you asked if you should i told you reason's not to. i didnt sugar coat my anwser.. which means i was doing what i came here to do. help kids like that who think their ready, when their not. you asked if you should. obv. not if your asking us. and if its from the last thing i stated i put quotes around it for a reason. that's what people will call you. trust me.
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yeah, in my personal opinion you're too young, but if you really want to be with this guy forever,and he feels teh same way about you, I mean I know a toon of people that lost their virginity as early if not earlier than you, and they regret it every day of your life, I would wait until you get married, that way you wont have that scar if you two dont stay together, you can SEE getting married with him, but will it happen? and if it does, will it last?
Good luck Chicka.
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dont listen to what other people say..do it whenever your ready or when you feel comfortable with it. just dont let him pressure you into. ask your mom for birth control but tell her its because you want it to help your period. im sure shell let you get it. hope i helped
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I, Personally, think youa re too young...of course...people nowadays are having sex younger and younger....
Even with a condom, you still could get pregnant. and i don't think you would want to have a baby when your still a teen, now would you?
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