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Am i a terrible person
my uncle did something that i thought i could never forgive him for and well i said i hated him and a while back he tried to say hello and i ignored him, now i just found out he has possible bone cancer and well i feel so bad, like i dont want to hate him but i cant forget what he's done. i feel like the worst person in the world because he's still the man i grew up with inside and i still kinda love him but i dunno, all i know is i dont want him to die. am i a terrible person
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No, you are no where near terrible the fact that you pity your uncle after anger over whatever he has done to you, proves you as a wonderful person. I'm not going to force you to tell me what had happened between u and him but I would like you to take time to think if he is worth making peace with, despite what he's done to u. Think about why u were so angry with him and talk to him. That;s the only way the guilt will go away, by forgiving him so you don't have to opress yourself evry step of the way. I'll pray for your uncle if you want me too. Take care
PS. oh yea still kinda love him is a good thing you got heart gurl, you really do
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aww. i`m soo sorry. no you`re not a bad person. well it all actully depends. if he like raped you or tried to kill you or something major then don't feel bad about it. but if he took the last cookie or last piece of cake or something little (lol) then please just forgive him. you never know what you have until it`s gone. good luck with it xoxoxox.
melissa(please rate !)
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wow this is a tough one, but no, you're not a terrible person. In fact, you're a caring person because it sounds like you really do care about your uncle.
Why dont you go to him next time, and just tell him whatever he did to you really hurt you, but you're willing to forgive and let it all past you. Tell him how you really feel and tell him you really do care about him & dont want him to die.
Best wishes,
Nikki xox
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I understand how you feel... very confused I know. I would say love him the best you can. You don't have to forgive him I am not saying that but make sure you treat him well so you don't regret anything later. No matter what he did it had nothing to do with him getting cancer and no one deserves cancer. The worst thing you can do is continue to make him feel worse when he knows there is nothing he can do to go back and fix it and he may not live to feel your full forgiveness.
If nothing else pray for him. not only for him to get better but for you to find it in yourself to forgive him and move on
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well it really depends on what he did to you. if it was reallllllllly bad like a crime, you should not stop feeling bad. but if its not, i would go to his house and talk to him and maybe try to become social w/ him..=]
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No your not a terrible person. If he did something reallyyy bad like molesting or something of that nature then no you shouldnt feel bad about that, but if he just cancelled a day yall were supposed to go do something then yea let it go and talk to him. Seek guidance from God and pray everyday. Regardless of what happened that made you stop wanting to talk to your uncle, it doesn't make you a terrible person...it makes you.. HUMAN. We all make mistakes, Your Uncle forgives you, God forgives you...Now it's time to forgive yourself.
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No. You are not a horrible person.
You can still love someone but hate the things they do or the way they live their life.
So if you want to talk to him or wish him the best it is okay for you to do that. It doesn't mean that you approve of the things he does. :)
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No, absolutely not. I would not say you are a terrible person, whatsoever. I'm guessing/assuming, that he must have done something extremely bad to you, for you to feel this way. I think that's really what it depends on, and if it is that bad then I do not think you should feel like a terrible person -- because you are not. As long as you wish no ill will (which you clearly, do not), then I do not think you should feel like a terrible person, or that you are a terrible person.
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It DEFIANTLY depends on what he did to you! If it's something PoPo worthy then I think you should wait till he is in the hospital to even send him a card! That's just me. But if it's not the serious of a "horrible" thing. Then I think he may deserve a little sympathy. Do your self a favor and do what makes you feel the best he doesn't really matter if he did something to you.
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Well, it depends on what the terrible thing he did to you was. If it was something he could get arrested for then I would forgive him myself, but if it was something less extreme, maybe you could find it in your heart to forgive him and talk to him, at least until you find out what's the matter. I'm not saying, like, well if he doesn't have bone cancer, then hate him, but see if you two can get past what had happened and try to move on, slowly but surly. Good luck.
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Greetings.
I dont think you're a terrible person.
Everyone has emotions, everyone can't help but feel certain ways.
I recommend making ammends with your uncle before it's too late. Or you will regret it later in life.
Forgiveness is hard, but it will make you feel better knowing that you have chose to forgive someone who has wronged you. In forgiving him, your "hate" for him will fade and you will be able to accept what he has done and move on.
Start by talking to him, asking him why.
You say you don't want him to die, this shows you have compassion for even someone who has wronged you, you are well capable of forgiveness it would seem.
The longer you leave it, the worse you will feel, don't think about talking to him, just go talk to him, get it all out in the open and work from there.
Chances are he feels guilty for what he did, he is only human after all.
Just remember no one is perfect, we all have our sides which make us angry and hate, but we have to confront them and deal with them to overcome them.
Hope Ive been of some help, feel free to ask for further advice.
Shelagh
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