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Dating in your 20s.
The bar scene is beginning to make me sick.
I really wanted to try the whole "interweb dating" thing, so I did! I met someone from MySpace and he completely hated me. You might say "Oh Erica, you're clearly exaggerating."
No. If this guy had a machete, I wouldn't have a head.
I want to date. Any advice, oh hell, just any response whatsoever, would make me happy.
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I'm in the same position as you. I've given up the bar scene for something drastically different...church. I've placed my full faith in God and I'm now confident that I'm going to meet the right person on His timing not mine. It's fulfilled most of my desires and...it weeds out a lot of losers. When you say, I love God...the bad ones run. Trust me.
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OK I actually have been exactly where you are! In my 20's I tired of the bar scene and started trying the online thing, I met my husband on plentyoffish.com. Don't get me wrong it was not easy, you have to learn to read between the lines of what people say and going on LOTS of dates. I got so I could see a loser at 50 paces and run off!! lol. Seriously though there are tons of sites, many are free for women. lavalife has worked for friends.
Trust me if I could find a man willing to put up with my shit, you can to!!!
If you need more advice, tips on writing an ad or chosing a pic. let me know.
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Most people find a boy/girl friend in school. Once out of school it gets harder. So, the answer is go back to school.
Take a class in something that interests you. Take a dance class, or an art class, or wine tasting, or whatever else interests you. Going to a class for something you enjoy will ensure that you meet people with whom you have something in common. That is a very good starting point. Seeing them regularly is a lot easier when you have a class with them. You don't have to set a date to see them and get to know them before actually dating. It is a safe, comfortable environment and can be a lot of fun. Many community colleges or community centers offer a variety of classes for very small fees. Certainly cheaper than going to a bar a couple times a week in hopes of meeting someone, and even if you don't meet someone, you will get something out of it other than a hangover.
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i like using okcupid.com but hey, thats just me...hey wait..your single you say?
how you doin? ;)
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Here's what I explained to my friend, when she asked me why she doesn't meet nice guys in bars;
When you meet a guy in a bar, all you really have in common is partying. So, that's all that you can really talk about.
I know I'm not quite in my 20s yet, but I've had great luck meeting guys at extra-curricular activities (I ended up dating one of my karate classmates for quite a while).
As for the internet dating thing, you're using the wrong outlet. MySpace is a very superficial site, and most people will choose to contact you based upon appearances, because there isn't all that much information. Try www.okcupid.com... it's free, and it does profile matching.
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hey i'm in the same boat. once you're done with school finding dates is nigh impossible. i'll see a chick somewhere and she'll be with her friends and i'll find out she's 15 and that will be that. so i'll meet a girl online and we'll date for three weeks or so and that will be that. the fact is at this age either people have been with someone for years and are looking at marriage or are barflys getting drunk at clubs and going home with someone different each week. and those of us who are tired of it and just want to meet someone are sitting around with fishing poles in the water waiting for a bite. and when we find one she's either psycho, unattractive, or mean as hell. but giving up and being the crazy person with a ton of cats. or going back to the club scene until we're 36 acting like we're 21 isn't much of an option.
so you gotta keep on playing the field, maybe you'll get lucky. just keep at it, you'll find someone good.
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I would suggest trying a site other than Myspace. Look for an actual dating site. Try to stay away from sites that specialize in finding sex partners or don't really specialize in anything at all (like Myspace, Facebook, and others). Do some browsing and see what you can come up with. I've heard some good things about yahoo personals, but any really good site you're going to have to pay a little for. Don't go and spend a hundred dollars or anything, but if it costs money, it means that generally everyone on there is serious. That's what you want. To find people that are just as serious about finding a partner as you.
You could also just do it the old fashioned way. Get involved in something co-ed and you'll probably meet lots of guys.
Don't get frustrated so easily. There's no quick fix to this. Finding someone is going to take some time. Try to be patient and good luck! :)
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i like making people happy. so heres my response. oh and definitely dont try the whole ad in newspaper thing. :)
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The internet doesn't have to be a bad place to find what your looking for.. You just have to know the right places to look is all. I met my husband on yahoo!. We just got married April of this year and have been goin' strong for 2 years now. Maybe you could try Yahoo chatting sites (but be careful and very selective about what info you give out until you know the person better) also try e-harmony.com I heard alot of positive things about that website. www.yahoopersonals.com www.hotornot.com
www.match.com-twice as many marriages as any other site-200,000 ppl last year found love on match.com-#1 dating website.
It can take time and effort but it's all worth it in the end if you find the person that makes your heart beat faster & slower at the same time. Much luck to you..
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It does seem to be tough out there these days to find someone decent that isn't already with a partner.
How about joining some clubs so you are with people that share an interest with you? Or night school, educate and find a date! Or there is always charity work, you do some good and at the same time stand a chance of finding someone decent that believes in the things you do.
The only other thing I can think of is if any of your friends have friends that know some singles. However, I did hear somewhere that a supermarket is a good way of meeting that special someone.
I do believe that there is someone for everyone, you just need to make the opportunities to connect with them.
Hope that is of some help and good luck.
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Seems to be the same for guys too.
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