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ok i just turned 13 a week ago and i'm in 7th grade, and i havn't had a boyfriend yet...i'm pretty sure its because... i'm ugly, i mean i wear glasses i'm 5'0 or 5'1 and i'm fat... (135) waht do i do?? i cant talk to a friend or cousin or aunt, and my mom passed away. so i live with my dad. what should i do?? please please please help me. o and if u say maybe to change my hairstyle, tell me a site or link please p.s. i have brown hair and the length is the middle of my arm befor my elbow.
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Okay first of all 135 IS NOT fat. My best friend is 135 and she is so pretty. It is on the heavier side, but just because it is doesnt mean its fat, you could have alot of muscle. But anyhow, youre 13.
As much as I know how it feels to want a boyfriend, I wouldnt get into that now. all the guys that ive had just end up getting me more stressed. Im pretty sure they dont think youre ugly, there just not the right guys for you. So stop worrying!!! enjoy seventh grade. Im sure there is someone out there that will love absolutely everything about you. And your not in a race with anyone else. Just be yourself.
Peace.
Ace
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your only 13 so its not the most important thing in the world to have a boyfriend and so what if you wear glasses? i do and its nothing to worri about if a guy cant see past them then theyre not worth the bother of worrying about.
and being small isnt a terrible thing. Youre being over critical about youreself. If youre really unhappy with your weight dont do something dreastic and go on a massive diet just try and loose it gradually because thats the best way. Theres so many things you can do with your hair, if youre not sure on a cut maybe just shange it from curly or straight. plus theres so many things you can have done. Side fringes and layers look nice i think. But dont think that your looks will guarentee you a boyfriend because personality counts 10 times as much as looks do. you can get bored of looking at person but never get bored of someone who makes you laugh
hope it all helps ( i know its a lot)
kim
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EXACTLY. That's the point, you JUST turned 13. In my opinion, you're still a little too young to get a boyfriend.
I know you've probably heard this a million times, but looks don't count. If looks matter to guys that much, then those are the ones who are the jerks.
You can start changing your looks without any hassle. You can curl the ends of your hair [it looks really cute, especially for your length of hair], put on some eyeliner and mascara. You're actually not that 'fat'. You're not fat at all. You're just slightly overweight. IF you really want to lose weight, then try eating healthier. Trust me, it WORKS. I know it may be hard during the school year because you probably eat at the cafeteria, and their food is fattening and filled with grease and oils. Bring your lunch from home. Bring like some fruits and veggies, a salad, diet soda, stuff like that. Don't bring like pizza every day, or eat it every day. I'm not saying that you can't eat at all, or that you can't eat sweets, just don't eat them all of the time.
When I was your age, I considered myself ugly too. I had a pot belly, pimples, and my clothes were never too 'cool' enough. I was really self conscious about my pimples, though. I tried this acne cream stuff [Clearasil Vanishing Acne Treatment] and it like, took all of my pimples away. I also started putting my hair up differently instead of wearing it down, and I got more flattering clothes. I took up Volleyball and I love it so much and I'm really dedicated to it.
For your makeup, like I said, just wear some eyeliner and mascara. Apply the eyeliner in a streak at your top lid. If you don't know how, look it up on Google. Don't put TOO much makeup on [[ Loads of eyeliner, lots of glitter, lots of mascara, lots of blush ]] You don't want to look like a clown. Remember, you want to keep a 'simple yet cute' appeal.
Start having more confidence in yourself. Just BELIEVE in yourself.
Good luck.
♥ Sima
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I think you're being way too harsh on youself. Everyone is beautiful in their own special way. I think you need a huge confidence boost. What are some of the things that make you feel pretty/confident? Do those things and realize that you are beautiful, tell yourself that everyday when you look in the mirror (chessy- I know, but it works!).
Just because you don't have a boyfriend yet, doesn't mean that you're ugly or that anything is wrong with you! In fact, there's absolutely nothing wrong with that at all. I do think makeovers are really fun, and it's great to change your look and things like that, but knowing that you're beautiful comes more from within. Then, the beauty on outside just enhances it.
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first of all, don't put yourself down so much. if you're self-conscious, people notice that. if you think your unattractive, so will other people. if you're confident and think you're attractive, it will rub off on other people.
just because you wear glasses doesn't make you ugly. i know girls that guys like even though they have glasses. try to pick a pair that compliments your face and looks good on you, or get contacts if you hate your glasses and if your aloud.
if you want to loose weight, and you should do it for yourself, so you'll feel more confident, not to impress other people, just start eating better and exersizing. eat protein because it will keep you full for longer, and have 3 meals a day with a snack between lunch and dinner. try not to eat after 8 oclock pm. if you need more help on loosing weight, just drop one in my inbox.
if you want to, you could start wearing makeup. eyeliner, mascara, eyeshadow, foundation. you can find those at any make up store, department store, drug store and alot of other places. try going to a hairstylist and having them style or layer your hair. cut out a picture from a magazine or internet that you like and ask them to do something like that.
just because you havent had a boyfriend yet doesn't mean you're not attractive. if you want a boyfriend, talk to guys and be yourself.
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Ok look YOUR NOT FAT OK i used to be fat. I'm about [159 maybe less then that now.] I'm 17 and in 11th grade. You dont need a boy to make you feel good. I dont have a boyfriend. All they want from you right now is sex. And i'm sure you dont want to end having a child at your age. If you have sex with them get pregnant, they there goes your life down the drain. Say goodbye to everything you loved and wanted to do. Cause now that child is your life nothing else. The man may say "Oh i'll take care of the child if you have one." But they wont. Trust me on this, but yea i'm still a virgin and proud to say it. So dont listen to me, if you dont wanna. I'm just using my head.
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Hey man I can't delete my answer. Damn it.
P.S just ignore this
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Hey >_<
Don't get the idea that just because youre 13 and never had a boyfriend means something.
I'm 13 and in 8th grade, and I've never had a boyfriend AND PROUD. I think that it's pretty stupid to think there is something wrong with you just because of that.
get real. you're only in 7th grade. you have time to be an adult. if you want to lose weight, diet and excersise. and by diet i don't mean only eating one meal a day. i mean eating healthy foods like fruits, vegetables, and organic stuff. stop the pizza, chips, and fries.
and girlll.glasses are awesome, i don't know what you are talking about.
triciaXterror
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Here's the deal. You want a boyfriend really bad, hey don't we all? Well changing your 'appearance' won't change anything. If a guy takes you for your looks he's a fucking bastard (sorry about my language) you don't want to live your life with a guy who does that right?
Exactly, thats what I thought - you don't, it's a nightmare. Get a haircut if your 'ugly' but don't change who you are on the inside to much or your in hell. Just be yourself; the right guy will accept you for you and nobody else.
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Having a boyfriend isn't everything! If you really think your fat look up your local nutritionist and ask about a healthy eating plan. ALso try to walk more and cut out fattening foods such as chips, burgers etc. If you think your ugly experiment with make-up, even a small amount of foundation can make you look 1000 times better. If you don't want glasses, get contact lenses, or get a new pair. And as for your hair, ask your hairdresser, they'll know as cutting hair is what they've been trained to do, they'll know far more about it than I can tell you. But seriously, dont get too hung up about looks, you probably look fine. xx
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