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boyfriend?
here is my problem. I am the kind of girl everyone says is really pretty but never gets a boyfriend or one that is high enough to my standards that i would day. I can get the ugly guys but comeon who wants that.
Anyways here is my situation. I met this kid at work and i found out he went to school with me. He is a veryyy atractive kid and seems like a truely nice guy.
He seems like the guy i have always wanted to date until i found out today he is a pot smoker.
My question is does that make him worth dating? I don't know much about him and by the looks of his myspace it looks like he does not smoke very often. I am totally anti smoking and anti drugs and out of all of my friends i seem to be the most outragous when it comes to that topic (i have drank only a small handful of times). So pretty much i am a good girl.
As long as he doesn't smoke around me you know i don't care but is her serously like boyfriend material? like i don't want to get my heartbroken over a guy who was never going to be comitted or whatever.
I am very confused on what to think and how to deal with this because i believe he likes me and i sorta like him too.
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Smoking pot doesn't make someone a bad person. My best boyfriend that I've had smoked pot. Don't judge someone based on that. Oh yea and I, like you, am a good girl. I've only drank like once. So it was pretty much the same situation, and I had the same apprehensions, but he was a good guy so it was fine.
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First off, someone who is involved in that doesn't make them a bad person. I used to be stereotypial & assume everyone who did that kind of stuff wasn't good enough. But I realized, some of the hugest potheads, druggies, & drug dealers can be the best friends you have. Yes, it does sound kind of ridiculous for someone from your standpoint to see that. But you just have to accept the fact that just because some people do bad things, doesn't make them a bad person. I say you give him a chance & as long as he's not one of those idiots who is stoned all the time, then he could turn out to be the sweetest guy you ever dated. Just make it clear in the beginning where your morals stand & I think he should respect that. Maybe you don't want to commit to anything at first. But atleast give it a chance. :)
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it is up to you. i wouldnt date him but that's me because i am VERY much against drugs. drinking is more acceptable to me than smoking or drugs. if you want to date his is up to you but he might he high when he hangs with you which could lead to bad choices and situations. take it one step at a time and see how often he uses, if he's a pusher, and stuff. i wouldnt rush into this relationship but thats just me. you are the one who in the end has to choose.
hope i helped.
Mecha Becca
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As I was reading this, I realized it sounded like something I would have written a few months ago. Yes, he is worth dating. I'm not anti smoking, but I don't smoke myself. I was single for almost a year, until my now-boyfriends came along, and he smokes almost everyday. It's not really a problem at all. If you tell him how you feel about smoking, he should respect you and not smoke around you. One thing, don't tell him to quit. That will just cause too many problems. So tell him you don't like it and ask him not to smoke around you, but if he's a good guy, he wouldn't even think of doing that. As for getting heartbroken over a guy that wasn't going to commit, same problem here. My boyfriend usually doesn't date girls for more than a week. But, we've been together for a while and things are still going stong. I don't know how the guy you're talking about is with girls, but if your the right person, it'll be worth it.
I wish you the best of luck and hope this helped =]
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Well, the decision is totally your's. Although, if it was me in the situation, I wouldn't date him. I'm not against smoking, but I don't like it, and I wouldn't want somebody high around me. It just makes me mad that they're throwing away their life to drugs. All I can say is, think about this a lot. Or you can make a list of the good & bad things, & if there's more good things on the list, then go for it. But don't underestimate the "ugly" guys. Sometimes they get cute, & they might just treat you like a princess.
♥TiNA
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Well, since you're 16 and he's 18, that's around the age people want to drink, do drugs, try stuff, experiment. And I mean, they can still be really nice and everything. So, if you like him, I'd give him a shot.
If you and him start a relationship just tell him that you don't want to smoke it so don't ask you to, and if he could please just not do it whenever you're around.
And if you find in the early stages of the relationship he's not putting forth an effort and doesn't seem commited and everything, you can always just break up with him then before you get too emotionally involved.
So just go out with him, have fun, see what happens!
I hope I helped. <3
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I personally would still date him. Hes probably still a good guy even though he smokes weed. You didnt say how old you were, but I'm assuming you are 14 or 15? Things will be changing soon, and you most likely will find that more and more people will drink, smoke pot and cigarettes more when they get older. People love to expieriment with things. They are still good people even though they dont have the best habits.
It basically comes down to, if you like him, and can see yourself with him, then try it out and date him. If the weed thing gets in the way of the relationship you can always break up with him.
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I think it's great you have your values and you stick by them. That says a lot about what kind of person you are.
I personally feel you cannot make a judgment about this guy based on that alone. I think there are plenty of 'good' people who smoke pot or drink occasionally.
You can get to know him and gradually find out how often does he smoke, drink, or anything else. You may find out you don't like him afterall, or, you may find out he doesn't really do it much at all.
As far as being boyfriend material, that is something you will be able to determine once you've gone out with him a few times.
I say go out with him, have fun, and not make any hard decisions after one date. Give it time and enjoy getting to know him!
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