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i am a mom of 3 young children plus a stepdaughter. my kids are 8, 6, 5, and 15 months old. i also have a chocolate lab named Hershey and a mini beagle named Disco. my family and their happiness mean everything to me. when they are happy, life is grand! and they are happy majority of the time.
i have very fond memories of growing up and have journals dating back to being 13 years old. my life is filled with mistakes and wonderful outcomes from my mistakes. some have been bad decisions, most have been good. my life is right where i want it to be.
i work full time and lead a busy household. i have a sweet, loving, and very cute husband! i have had the same friends since i was 13 and 14 years old. we are all grown up and share all of our memories with both laughter and regret.
i love to listen to people. i love to learn about people and i continue to learn about myself.
my motto is 'whether you think you can or you can't, you're right'.

advice

here is my problem. I am the kind of girl everyone says is really pretty but never gets a boyfriend or one that is high enough to my standards that i would day. I can get the ugly guys but comeon who wants that.


Anyways here is my situation. I met this kid at work and i found out he went to school with me. He is a veryyy atractive kid and seems like a truely nice guy.

He seems like the guy i have always wanted to date until i found out today he is a pot smoker.

My question is does that make him worth dating? I don't know much about him and by the looks of his myspace it looks like he does not smoke very often. I am totally anti smoking and anti drugs and out of all of my friends i seem to be the most outragous when it comes to that topic (i have drank only a small handful of times). So pretty much i am a good girl.

As long as he doesn't smoke around me you know i don't care but is her serously like boyfriend material? like i don't want to get my heartbroken over a guy who was never going to be comitted or whatever.

I am very confused on what to think and how to deal with this because i believe he likes me and i sorta like him too.

I think it's great you have your values and you stick by them. That says a lot about what kind of person you are.
I personally feel you cannot make a judgment about this guy based on that alone. I think there are plenty of 'good' people who smoke pot or drink occasionally.
You can get to know him and gradually find out how often does he smoke, drink, or anything else. You may find out you don't like him afterall, or, you may find out he doesn't really do it much at all.
As far as being boyfriend material, that is something you will be able to determine once you've gone out with him a few times.
I say go out with him, have fun, and not make any hard decisions after one date. Give it time and enjoy getting to know him!

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14/f
I start High school next week and I am exited and nevous too. Any Advice on Highschool. I play feild hockey and have been in pre-season for a couple weeks so I know some of the upper classmen but not really, I also have a shophmore locker so my locker is not with any of the freshman! Anyway any tips on highschool??? Thanks a bunch!

ah yes, i remember starting freshman year at 14. do you have friends in school with you? if so, just hang out with them and try and enjoy meeting new people. i had a handful of friends and i took my education seriously. i made friends easy because i wasn't 'choosy' about people who tried talking to me. i know it's hard enough to start a conversation with a complete stranger. making friends can be scary in high school so i just went with the flow. i was nice to people, they were nice to me. some weren't so nice, i just stayed clear of them. i noticed by the time i graduated i wasn't either super popular or a nobody. i had a good reputation, no enemies and got good grades.
try to keep things balanced: time for study, time for play, time for friends, and time for your self. you'll be well rounded and attract the same kind of people.
congratulations on starting high school, enjoy the most memorable years of your life!

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