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i have had feelings for this guy and my bestfriend has known this for years
i've heard he likes me too but sometimes he's so sweet and sometimes he's an ass to my face and teases me........the only reason i keep having feelings for him is bc deep down i can tell he likes me.
my bestfriend just had her heart broken from another guy and i helped her through everything........i was always with her encouraging her and bringing her flowers and crying with her.
a week later we were at a part.....i walk into a room and she is hooking up with the guy i like!!!
i can't begin to explain how bad that felt. i mean he's the reason i come to that party. he's the person i dress up to impress. i've liked him foreverrrrr! and my bestfriend???
so the next day i talk to her and tell her that she really hurt me. and she says she was drunk and she didn't know what she was doing. i tell her whatever and just move on.
but then the next week. i was at a party and i can't find her again! so i go upstairs and she's hooking up with him again!!!!!
by now i am sooooooooooooooooooooooo mad and sad and frustrated i just leave. i figure she's doing this bc she had her heart broken and she's trying to do it to me so i can feel it too.
the next day i talk to her and tell her she's being so low and i don't know what's going through her mind!!! she says she has feelings for him too. she's never told me that. and there's no reason i should be mad bc he's not my "property" and that when he starts making out with her......should she stop and tell him i can't bc my best friend like you too!
and then she also says the reason he's an ass to you sometimes is bc he just doesn't like you! you need to come to realize he does not like you!
and now i think she's going to start dating him.
she's been my bestfriend for 9 years. and i do everything with her.i don't want this to ruin our friendship. but i think it is already.
i feel like i've lost the guy i've always wanted and my bestfriend at the same time and i have no one to talk about it with.
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wow. that sort of happened to me. but me and my best friends were bffs were 5 years and she got new friends one year at school and ditched me for them. but this is about you not me. if she was truly your best friend she wouldnt do that to you. she has known that you've liked him for years and after you treat her the best someone ever could after she was dumped, she went behind your back and fooled around with your guy and now they may be together. it sounds like she's taking advantage of your friendship almost using you to get with him. and no im not saying its your fault. its hers. eventually, im sorry to say, if they start dating she'll spend all her time with him and leave you in the dust. and then once they break up she will come running back and it will be your choice to forgive her or tell her off. it depends how much you trust her and how much you like her as a best friend. but you can try and do something about it now. try to make space between you two. if you do everything together, evenutally, you'll run out of other things to talk about and you'll have to talk about this situation and then you'll probably get in a huge fight that could break your friendship. i really dont know what exactly you should do, but if i did i would have done it with my ex-bff and could have told you but i have no idea. im not good with that stuff. but i hope i helped a little and i hope you dont lose your best friend over this, over a guy. tell me how it goes.
lauren.
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if she is really your friend you should talk to her and tell her that a guy is not worth fighting over.yall have too close of a relationship to ruin it over a guy..there will be plenty of guys so you should do the mature thing and just let her have him..i know you might think i'm crazy cuz you want him so bad but i had a crush on a guy for along time and my friend just took him away from me and we are no longer friends and i regret that because now i have a guy who is just AMAZING..and weve been together for a year and half..so now i look back and realize that that guy was not worth it!!!
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it is so wrong for your friend to that to you. one thing friends should not do is date eachothers boyfriends, exes or crushes, thats almost a rule because it causes so much trouble and is so disrespectful. im sorry your friend is such a huzzy on the rebound. she could have chosen any other guy to make her forget about her ex and left the guy she knew you liked alone, reguardless if you are with him or was ever with him or not. she is being very selfish. honestly, i would cut her short and the guy too. you cant have him now that all her whore ass germs are all over him, you shouldnt take left overs, especially from a friend or ex friend. i know its hard but you need to forget about them. if you stay involved with either of them you will never be able to look at them the same. when you see her you will just remember how dirty she did you and when you see him all you will see is her and them all over each other, its not worth the pain. i know it will be hard but leave them alone.
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i think that she was going through a tough time with her heartbreak and was desperate to find a guy that would help her het over him. She probably doesnt like him, she is just making herself think that to get over the other guy. If she would do that to you, she is not a good friend. Real friends dont do that even if they are desperate.
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First of all..ur so called best friend is doing you wrong. As a best friend she should respect that you like this guy.She definataly shouldn't be putting you down by saying that he doesn't like you. And from my perspective I am seeing that she is jealous of you. She probably knows that he likes you and is being this way because she just had her heart broken. Tell her how you feel about the situation. If she doesn't understand then I think you should nix this so called friend of yours. She just isn't best friend material. Best of luck with that guy ;)
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What your best friend did might not have been the most sensitive thing in the world dear, but she is right: It takes two to tango, and two to make-out and you don’t own a guy you have a crush on.
If you've liked a guy forever, but nothing has ever happened between you two, chances are your feelings weren't returned, or else, you missed your chance.
The guy you want, hasn't been interested enough in you to make a move, but seems to be very interested in her.
That’s the reality of it! Yeah, I know it sucks. But there it is. Whether or not you are still her friend, the two of them are still going to have made out, and their relationship, whatever it turns out to be, will run its course, independently of you.
So yeah, your friend behaved insensitively. It certainly would have seemed nicer if she had turned this guy down for your sake, but there was no law that said she had to.
Now you know what the facts are between the two of them, and you are just going to have to decide if you can live with them or not. Either you can forgive her and accept her decision (even if it wasn't the nicest one) and be her friend anyways, or you can't.
It's your choice now dear. Either your friendship is damaged, but still on, or it's broken beyond repair, and it's off.
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omg she is a bitch! i seriously dont think you two need to be friends anymore...or at least have some time apart for a while. and i honestly think that you should talk to that guy and just tell him how you feel. if you need anyone to talk to please feel free to email me at browneyedgurl_1015@yahoo.com
i am so freaking sorry about what happened i cant even imagine how you are feeling right now.
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First of all let me say that your bestfriend is evil. Don't listen to her when she says that he doesn't like you, the only way to find out is to ask him. It doesn't matter if she was drunk , on crack or just plain out of it , she shouldn't of did that to you. After all you've did for her, why should you forgive her. Just try & ignore her or tell her you don't want to be her friend. But if you really don't want to loose her then go find some other guy. Call that guy or meet him somewhere and ask him if he likes you, that's the only way you'll know the truth. She's just thinking about herself, and obviously you care about her feelings more than she cares about your's. Since she did this once she's bound to do it again. FORGET her, she's so mean. :]
hope i helped x
♥kayla
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