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my best friend has bein with her boyfriend for 5 months rite they have had sex about 17 times...
He doesnt believe in using a condom,and they havent once. 4 times shes put me under pressure saying shes pregnet and i have bein with her through it no matter what. She lost the baby the last time and the last 3 times was jus a miss hab. But now you see its happeing again she she hasnt come on here periods 4 2 months and can feel movement in her womb what shall i do?? Shes only 14 and her mom will kill her but i think she wants to keep it Please help me!!
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If she wants to keep it it's her problem but make sure her boyfriend will still be with her if she is and u stay behind every thing she does!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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First of all, your friend is dying for attention. Second of all, if he doesn't believe in using condoms he needs to NOT have sex because she is going to end up having a baby which is NOT something that is fun at 14! Last but not least, she can't feel "movement in her womb" at two months. She needs to grow up and stop trying to get pregnant, it's obvious that's what she's trying to do. Of course her mom will kill her, she needs an ass whoopin' to begin with and should keep her legs closed. Sorry so harsh, but come on I mean at 14 having unprotected sex is IGNORANT and STUPID! She can't even get a JOB to support this kid she wants to keep!
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sorry to say this but your friend is stupid. if her boyfriend doesnt beleive in using a condom why doesnt she just go on birth control pills. tell her to take a pregnancy test and if its negative tell her to get on birth control pills!!!!! Damn she is only 14 that is so crazy. i think your sticking next to her side because your her friend but you need to tell her to be careful and to use protection!!!!
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Wow she is really stupid... Just tell her that its not your problem to be dealing with and she is putting stress on you... tell her she is your best friend but it was her fault that she did this to herself. You should also let her know that she should see a clinic and see about visiting a planned parenthood group. but make sure you let her know that you are there for her.
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she doesnt need to be having sex at such a young age especially if they dont have any protection
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Wow. First of all, it really isn't smart to have sex under the legal age of consent, which is either 17 or 18 depending on the state in which you live. It's also very foolish to have sex without protection. I suggest your friend take a pregnancy test to know FOR SURE, and if she is, she must tell her mother, despite the consequences because it's imperative that she seek medical attention. If she isn't, then she got lucky once again and should have protected sex from now on.
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I used to have a friend who was much the same and it took a long time but eventually, you just have to learn that you can tell them what they should and shouldn;t do for their own good and have them complain to you after they don't listen only so many times.
The fact of the matter is, this 'boyfriend' of hers is completely disrespecting her rights and she isn't standing up for herself. I know what it's like when you find someone you truly care about and you want to do anything to make them happy. But you don't jeapordise your own wellbeing and future to do it and if this guy truly cared about her, he either wouldn't have sex with her at all (especially considering she is underage)or he would ensure that she is protected against pregnany, Sexually Transmitted Diseases and Sexually Transmitted Infections.
You need to tell her that you will stand by her this one last time but after this, you just can't keep supporting her allowing this guy to put her through all this! Yes, she's your friend and you care but if she doesn't listen to reasonable advice and take care of herself, regardless of what her boyfriend says, you can't do anything more to help her and therefore, why should you have to always pick up the pieces following the consequences of her actions? Her boyfriend is acting very selfishly right now and it's not fair on you or your friend.
After this, she HAS to make sure she gets a check done to ensure she has no infections or diseases. If his normal attitude towards sex is not to use contraceptives then there's a good chance he could be carrying something and might have infected your friend so she needs to get checked out right away. Not all of them show symptoms.
Please, please don't let this get to you too much. Your friend needs to start taking responsibility for her actions rather than depending on you and more importantly, she needs to stand up to her boyfriend and stop having sex with him unless he is willing to stop putting her through this and just put a condom on.
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Your friend did not listen to you, though hormones can get in the way of real advice from a friend. She may be pregnant, but as what you're telling me, she seems too paranoid about being pregnant, so she MAY THINK she feels something in her womb. rethink this, if you do tell her mom ..what do you think will happen? If you don't...what do you think would happen? I think the worst consequences are if you dont tell her mom, but you should tell your friend to FIRST get a pregnancy test, to make sure that she IS pregnant, you should warn your friend to tell her mom if she is, but if she doesnt tell her mom you have to take action, your friend may be mad at you, but think about the consequences if no one tells her. THEY WILL BE WORSE. Please do what you think the consequences will turn out best.
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If she gets pregnant, it's her fault. You're being a good friend by trying to give her advice on everything and she won't listen. If a guy doesn't belive in usuing a condom, he doesn't even deserve to have sex. I mean seriosuly. Why shouldn't she use a comdom. I don't think she thought about anything else. If she lost the baby the first time, she should of learned by then. Just talk to her once again and make sure she knows that there are consiquences. She's only 14 years old. She needs to think about her future and life.
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You need to talk to her friend. You must tell her the consequences of getting pregnant, and ask her if you did get pregnant, look at your future, what would happen? Would you drop out of school? Would you get an abortion? Tell her that she needs to make her boyfriend wear a condom becuase not using one could ruin both their lives. I know you care, and if you tell her this, it will show that you care even more. PLease drop one in my inbox if you have any more questions! Good luck <3
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look,you adviced your freind not to do this didnt you?and she STILL didnt listen,so she has to face the reaction to her actions.you warned her and she didnt listen so its her choice,well she is going to fall into a problem when her mom finds out cuz she will find out if not now then next 5 months when her stomache is bigger.But hopefully this will help her learn from her mistakes.In my opinion i think you should tell her to tell her mom that shes pregnent although its going to get her in trouble(duh!) its better for her mom to find out now so she can help her during pregnancy than for her mom to find out later.And if she still doesnt listen to you then i think you should keep away from her a lil cuz shes going to cause you a lot of stress and you wont be able to study and think about anything but your freind here.
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And for Gods sake, if the guy doesn't resepct her enough to use a condom anyway, tell her to ditch him!!!
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I do believe your friend is pulling your leg about the whole 'womb' thing. But you have to tell this girl to get on birth control or something, because this is a little out of control. I can understand her missing her period and thinking she's pregnant, but feeling movement in her womb? No way. If she's only 2 months pregnant, there is no way she could tell that kind of thing. Anyways, tell her to get a home pregnancy test, or better yet, you get her one. If she isn't pregnant, tell her she has three choice; 1 Start using condoms, 2 Get on birth control or 3 stop having sex. If she is pregnant, she needs to go to a clinic, tell her parents, and go to the doctor if she's keeping it.
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