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Scared Dork?
I'm 14, female.
I've never drank, smoked, or done drugs.
I feel like a loser, ALL my friends do stuff like this, cause in my town, everyone just does. I don't want to risk getting in trouble so I don't. I don't cuss, do sexual things other then making out, and I'm afraid to do crazy things with my friends. I won't sneak out with them, or like steal road signs. I just feel retarded and immature around all of them, everyone treats me like a baby, I've even been threatened a few times for being too "good." What should I do? I'm friends with almost everybody in my small town, so theres no one to go to.
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woah ok. First off I'm glad you don't give into peer pressure, I did and still do and it gets me no where in live, expect in trouble!
Don't ever feel like a loser because you don't smoke,drink,steal signs, and have sex. Because honestly I did all 4 and I feel like an even bigger loser because I feel like I did them all because someone else wanted me to, and trust me it's not a good feeling.
Honestly, let them go. There going no where in live expect for jail if they keep it all up. Live above them and do better things. You said you're friends with almost everybody correct? Well I'm sure there is a group that doesn't participate in these activities try to hang out with them for awhile to see what happens.
It may seem like everyone in your town does this, but I put money on it that a good handful doesn't do that!
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you're actually very mature.
stealing rode signs and getting high isn't responsible.
you're in a tough spot because you're surrounded by a lot of people who act like that.
But if I was you,
I'd continue doing my own thing.
You don't have to impress anyone.
Continue being "good."
:)
<3
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just keep what your doing and stay on the good side your friends will see that sooner or later you are the lucky one that is not pregnant,or drunk or any of that crap and you will win at the end.
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Do what you keep doing dont do any of that crap it will hurt you so0o0o just keep your friends but ask them if yall can do something besides drink,do drugs or have sex or anything
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Wow, I'm proud of you.
You didn't fall into peer pressure like most kids your age do and that is very good.
Don't feel immature. What you are doing is the complete opposite of immature.
If people are treating you like a baby, then they are just being stupid. If they are saying something that makes you feel like a baby just interrupt them and say this loudly, "Look. I am not a baby. I AM FOURTEEN! So, stop treating me like a bay!!!!!!"
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Youre not a baby a loser a scaredycat or anything like that you are the smartest person i ve ever hurd of stay that way
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Think about this: who do you want to impress, God or your friends.
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how can you feel amature,your the most mature person on this website in my opinion.look if they jumped off a bridge would you do that too?!?!ok,lets put it this way theyre killing themselves slowly or in other words doing DRUGS do YOU want to kill yourself too and with your OWN hands?!?!do you know the consenquences of taking drugs?you get addicted and it becomes imposible to stop it!!like you first try it and you want it once a day,then once an hour till its takin control of you and you want it every SECOND till you DIE of how much you took it!!it causes brain damage and a risk of heart stroke!your freinds will regret this big time later on and envy YOU for being smart enough to have keeped off it.you need to build yourself and have a future and your building your future from NOW by taking care of your health and education.smoking causes lung cancer,i hope you know that...why the hell take this when you KNOW itll kill you...what to look cool infront of a couple of losers that will have health problems sooner or later?!and sexual stuff now they will ALSO regret when they find themselves young and pregnent and unable to take care of their children....they will be a child WITH a child and obviously both need mothers.and even worse they will have STD's by the time they got older!!stand your ground and dont let anyone forcing you into doing anything retarted.
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A lot of people are like that, so dont feel alone.
its called malipulation, and i'm sure many times they've tried to get you to do what they do.
**any threats can be reported to a policemen**
other than that, why are you hanging out with friends that cant accept you for who you are?
excuse me, they arent you're friends if they cant accept who you are.
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omg you sound like my twin !! like im not even kidding.. the age and everythign is exactly the same with me. my friends do stupid things liek steal road signs too and i wont do it just becuase im not like that. and all my friends have tryed pot and drink and get drunk all the time and i dont curse either with them. theyll laugh at me and be like.. why would you drink? just try it .. and stuff like i never heard you curse say the eff word.. or sometimes they wont want to hang out with me just becuase they want to get drunk and know i wont. and just like you and im afraid becuase i dont know what will happen or if my parents will caught me. and ive never done anything more than make out. but the thing i do is just ingore them. they are my friends and should liek me for me. and when they make the jokes about how good i am i just ingore them. cause in the long run i know doign the right thing. i know i wont get achole posioning.. get high and do something i regret .. or get sick from doing drugs.. or get a repuation witht he cops or something. or sometimes they will be like your not diffrent when your drunk .. you feel the same.. you knwo what your doing.. and ill just be like.. well than whats the sense of doing it.. or ill say something like i can have fun without being drunk or high. but the best advice i can give you is to be your self and ingore them when they make a joke about you. your real friends will understand .. and that all that matters.. and if they dont understand .. well than ytou know whos real and whos fake.
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hey I can relate & i know a lot of people like you. I've kinda been on both sides. what you should do is not do all those things but don't look like a parent or go tell. if you're just cool with it or say you don't care then they won't treat you like a baby. as long as you dont tell on them, they'll be ok with you. you're not a dork, you are just a cautious person and that is fine! <3
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Just stay the same, dont let them influence you. You're actually the mature one for not doing it. So what if eveyone else does, you dont need to. Find other ways to have fun.
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im happy to hear of someone who hasnt given into peer pressure. Personally, i think stealing road signs is immature. Your're being very mature for sticking up for yourself, and soon your friends will start to notice that and respect your decisions. I would just keep doing what you're doing. So far you're making the right choices. Just do what you feel is right and you can't go wrong.
always here for you,
laur =]
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You shouldn't be under the influence of your friends, or to smoke drugs or weed. Be a leader not a follower. Besides do you want to end up as a crackhead at the age of 14 then be livn on the streets at the age of the 30 b/c you were to lazy or stupid from the drugs to do anythin. And drugs can give you lung disease so you would be a walking time bomb until your heart gives. I hope you choose the right choice.
Sincerely,
Silent Kenny
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