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My Mom Is Lonely
Well my dad died a few years back, and my mom has been depressed and lonely ever since. She tells me all the time that it's hopeless for her to find a single guy her age anymore (45, but she doesn't near look it). Just last night she said to me, 'Honey, I'm lonely,'. And it broke my heart, because she loved my dad, but she hasn't found anyone. She has tried online dating and that wasn't her thing. What are some of your ideas for my mom to meet men? Thank you so much for your help!
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I had a close friend once who's mother was in the same type of dillema. You say she's 45, well hell.. that's still young. She shouldn't feel like her life is over because of her age. I understand that her husband is deceased, but it's been a few years. Nobody said she had to forget him, and I'm sure that she never will. There is one thing that people always say about death and marriages, "He would have wanted her to be happy." If she loved him, she should know that even after his death, he would have wanted her to be happy and live life, love again. Online sites, usually aren't the answer. I suggest, strongly, that she work. Working keeps people's minds off of stressful personal problems. She would have more to do with her time and not be so lonley. Perhaps she doesn't need a boyfriend directly, but maybe a couple of girlfriends. Girlfriends are the best way to meet guys. They have good taste, and they know how things work. Tell her to ask some of her friends, have them introduce her to some male friends, and see where it goes.
..ashleigh
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What about a singles dance. i know they sound like they are for losers and a lady i work with who is in her late 30s goes all the time and she says she loves it even if she doesn't get a boyfriend out of it. most churches have them along with hotels and what not. Maybe she can look in the paper? i know my local paper has listings like that in them
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why doesnt she conseder going to a sports club or something like that? im sure there shell meet new ppl
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if she has interests like football (example) then go to a football game and chat around or maybe have a personal high school reunion at your house and talk to some of her old friends im only 13 so i dont know much about it but hey at least they are ideas
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Dear My Mom Is Lonly,
Your mom and you should go shopping and get new clothes. Then maybe you can go get a manicure and pedcure then she can flaunt what she got and some guy will see how pretty she si and she will have a guy in no time.
<3 Alli
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What dont you and your mom go shopping together and buy some new clothes. Then you and your mom go out somewhere (the beach, a resturant, a movie, exct) where there is a lot of guys? Or go to church more, there are a lot of good men at church.
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hi-maybe what you could do is is try to take her to a place were most men are, at work, in a mens store, or evenyou could do the online dating thing for her. i hope i helped. If you need more advice or have any questions, ask me in my column. Don't forget feedback.
~NeedAdvice21
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Your mum needs to get out into the world again if she wants to meet new people, male or female.
If she doesn't want to or can't work, how about volunteering for a favourite charity? This way, it gives her something positive to do and to think about, it will give her a feeling satisfaction to know she is making a difference, and she could also meet like minded people, possibly male, at the same time. She could fit the hours into whatever else she has to do and doing something for others should give her more confidence, in turn improving her chances of accepting another man into her life when she feels ready.
This is also not so 'up front' as online dating. See what she thinks, it's worth a try.
I do hope she is able to find to find a new purpose in life and a new love, it is truly awful to lose someone you love. I wish you both the very best of luck.
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