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i'm a virgin, i'm 18 years old, i've been with my boyfriend for 8 months, and i've done everything but have sex, and lately when i'm in the middle of doing 'things' with my boyfriend i've had an extreme urge to have sex. i never let myself do it though, cause.. i dont know. how do i know if i should let myself do it or not?
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Hi, first you need to know if:
a) It's the right time and place
b) HE is ready as well as YOU are
c) When the right moment comes along
Sex should probaly be done in a bedroom were it's quiet and no one can walk in or disturb you. It should be when you both feel ready and turned on and ready to get down to buissness as they say. It just happens sometimes. It is likely to happen if you and your boyfriend are lied next to each other in the bedroom and you go for the kiss then you hug and then undress and so on, and take it from there. Daniel.
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Um yeah...only if your okay with it. Im 16 and me and my boyfriend have been dating for 2 years and we havent had sex. He understands completley. He says wen i am ready we will..i love him and im a comforable with him to do taht kind of thing. If you are just nervous(EVERYONE IS UNLESS YOUR DRUNK)..then take it slow..explain wht you want, if your not ready or not comftorable with doing it with him for your first, theres nothing wrong with that...and if he has a problem with that..say bye.
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If you feel that it's the right time to have sex, you should do it. If there's anything that's holding you back, don't do it. If you only do it to make your boyfriend happy, or for any other reason than a real desire to do it.. you will regret the decision for the rest of your life. If you do choose to do it, make sure you use protection.
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Having sex usually isn't planned, and just happens. Especially your first time. You never really get the feeling to not do it. So, maybe your just not ready yet. You should tell your boyfriend how you feel and see if he feels the same way. No wait, ask him who he feels then tell him how you feel. It makes things a lot easier.
Good Luck. =]
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Ask him about it. Just get on the subject by telling him about one of your friends buying condoms or something. & then ask him if he would ever have sex with you. In order to know that he's the right one you will feel it. I've been in many positions where I feel completely awkward & know I shouldn't have sex. So I don't. But when you know that he's the right one & he knows that you're the right one, go for it.
Hope I helped.
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Like the other people said, it really depends on what you feel is right. Before you do it, you should think of some questions:
do you really want to loose your virginity to him?
how long have you been going out, and is it long enough to really trust him with your body?
and if youre unsure about it, then maybe you shouldnt be doing it. if you do want to, then make sure you have the right contraceptives and you know how to use them.
i hope that helped a little
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Theres lots to take in consideration.
First, only have sex because YOU want to. Second, youre 18 so youre not too young to be having sex. Youre an adult now. If youre not comfortable with having sex, dont do it. Also, talk to your boyfriend about. You need to make sure youre emotionally ready. If you do decide to have sex, USE PROTECTION!
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You really don't I guess; and that is a decision you make before you get into anything at all that could lead up to it. You should decide this when you are calm and not really doing much, instead of during something you two might be doing. Why? Well because when you are sitting down and relaxed, you actually think about a lot more things. You ever hear the saying "well you should have thought about that before you ___", well that is kind of what I am talking about.
Maybe you could try going through some reasons why you would, and why you wouldn't. List them down if it makes it easier for you. Once you've come up with reasons why you would and why you wouldn't, choose the ones that mean most to you. That is totally up to you. Nobody can say to you: oh well if it feels right just do it; if you feel ready then go ahead. Of course you're not 100% sure if you are ready or if it feels right.
Go through the situation, possible outcomes, risks, etc. and go from there. There's nothing wrong with not giving in to your urges or having sex. So think things through, and not while you two are doing things, and follow what you think will result in what is best for you (and yes him too if you'd like); and for you that can mean having sex or not at all - I don't know so it really is up to you. Hope that helped and good luck.
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Your body and your head could be feeling compleatly different things, so even though you want to have sex, you may not be emotionaly ready. Make sure you know that you love your boyfriend and that he the type who will stick around. Its really up to you if you think your ready or not.
..:jenny
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