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Today I was shopping with my mom, and i was picking out some clothes, i went over to show her what I found. & the first thing she says is "no black" and she walks away. So I like black clothes, so what?
And maybe I'm not the preppiest girl ever, and maybe I don't have the style that she wants me to have. But I should be allowed to wear what I want. I don't know what her problem is, at least I'm not walking around with bondage pants with 65486465 chains; (if thats what she is worried about)
So the thing is, I want to be able to wear the style of clothes I want. And how am I supposed to express myself if she won't let me buy the things I want? How do I explain to her?
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I dont know. i dont see anything wrong with it. it is just a stage. you should def tell her that.. i use to wear chains.. black anddd like hardxcore stuff haha.. it was crazy butt fun you know, cause i could express myself.. even thou im more retor then xcore now but still u are old enough u pick your own cloths out. let her know that cause she seem to have forgotten
-adrianna
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Buy your own clothes. simple as that. or keep pushing the fact that you want to wear black.
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another quesition thats real hard to answer becuase my parents were always open to any style i dressed in. ive went through girly, to punk, to preppy several times. i think the only thing you can really do is talk to her and see what exactly her reason is for you not being able to wear black. if it seems completely unreasonable- then talk it out with her and try to negotiate. but remember to hear her out, and let each other talk. its nuthn to get too excited about. really hope i helped. keep me filled in. spitfire9631@yahoo.com
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I suggest that you look through some magazines and cut out pictures of clothes that you like and then ask your mum to have a look at them to see what she does and does not like. Perhaps you could ask her for a few smaller items of black to begin with, ie a t-shirt or jeans.
Perhaps your Mum associates black clothes with goths or deaths and does not want to imagine you in that situation. Does your Mum wear any black at all? Subtle little changes may work better than a drastic change. You will have to take into account her tastes until you are old enough to buy your own clothes, but be patient because this stage in your life doesn't last as long as you think it will. Good luck.
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You should say...
"Mom let me wear black. How am I supposed to express myself if you won't let me buy things I want."
It wasn't that hard to think of, genius.
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wow that sounds like my mom! what i did was buy lots of tshirts (especially band tshirts b/c that's my style) and then 1 black jacket that i can wear with everything. so then, she doesn't think i'm goth but i still have my edge, know what i mean? so maybe compromise. <3
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If your mother is buying your clothing, then you are stuck. Her money, her rules. By all means try and discuss this with her. Stay calm, but don't go the "self-expression" or accuse her of trying to make you into a clone. That is childish logic. Aim for something a bit higher and more practical. If black is what you are comfortable in and what you would like to wear and she buys clothes you don't like, you wont wear them, which will just be a waste of her money.
Ask her what he actual problem with your clothing is. 'Too much black' is a little silly, you might want to remind her that black can be very stylish and sophisticated and that cutting out a whole colour, simply because she doesn't like it, isn't very fair or reasonable. Keep your voice down and keep questioning her. Maybe what she really means is that she doesn't like how tight the clothes are, or maybe she just wants you to have one sweater that isn't black. Whatever it is try and find out exactly what the problem is before you try and argue. Once you understand what the actual issue is you can negotiate it much better.
If you are buying your own clothing, then don't go shopping for it with your mother.
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ok set your mom down make her stop wat shes doing and TALK to her try to be as calm and patient as possible though tell her that: "everybody has their own style and i want my own.if every mom wants their children to be exactly like them tell her their ought to be clones"lol tell her wat u told me "so what if i'm not the preppiest girl, its not like i go aroung with 20 rings in my nose and eyebrow, and i also dont go around with 65486465 chains in my pants" like you said. try to let her go shopping with friends or have her drop you off if you pay for it and its your own money than you should be able to buy whatever u want!
hope i helped! good luck &hearts
~Lalagurl
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tell her exactly what you just told us.
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Talk to your mom. Your mom probably has told you to be your unique self, here's the perfect chance to bring it up. Say you want to express yourself. Also point out you won't go and wear anything like pants with chains ect. She should respect your opinion and decision to wear what you want. If this doesn't work, compromise. Try buying a cute black sweater, a black tank, or a black zip up. All of those are essentials to every wardrobe, therefore your mom can't say no. Hope this helps.
-cindy <3
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