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im pregnant!
i had my 13 birthday 1 and a half months ago and my mom threw me a big party where me and my boyfriend slept together for the first time after being together nearly 2 years. after that we agreed not to do it again for a while 'cos i didnt felt ready, i missed my period so i took a pregnancy test and it was posative! i have told him (he is almost 15) and he says he will stand by me what ever i choose but i am so affraid. i feel helpless, please help me :(
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Hun you are 13,
Make the right choice. Just think.
Wouldn't you be embarresed if you were in..oh idk say 3rd grade and your mom was 21! It is going to be way to much for you. But it is your choice.
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Sweetheart, you are only 13. Everyone is entitled to their opinion so here is mine: don't have the baby.
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The first thing you have to do is tell your parents. I'm sorry that you are in this situation but let's be honest here, you're only 13. You played with fire and you got burned. Now you need to work out how to deal with the consequences.
Have a chat with your Mum and Dad about this. They will be mad, there's nothing you can do about that but you cannot go through this alone, whatever you decide to do. They will support you and take you to the doctor and be there for you so you have to tell them.
You also need to decide what you are going to do. A baby at 13 is a huge responsibility and there is nothing on Earth that can prepare you for it so please consider your options carefully. It will be very hard to continue your studies in between changing nappies and giving bottles to a baby.
This being said, the bond between Mother and Child is the strongest in the world and you have every right to keep this baby if you want to. Abortion or adoption are options but they're ones you may not want to consider, because either way, you will be without the life you are currently attached to in every possible way.
Get your boyfriend round to your house for dinner or just to be with you while you tell your parents. Let them know that you know this was a mistake and that you really need them. Talk it over and work out what you want to do. This decision is up to your boyfriend as well, so ask him what he wants to do. He can't leave a decision like this entirely up to you because he is the Father and that baby is as much his as it is yours.
I know it's a terrifying situation to be in, but please talk to someone about it. It won't make what has happened go away but it will make it easier to deal with.
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i know that it may be scary to tell your parents first... so talk to someone else you trust and ask them for the best way to talk to your parents. Maybe you can have someone else in the family raise the baby until you can. If your mom freaks out when you tell her, don't worry, because the freaking out will have to go away eventually once you have this baby and she's going to be the only one who can help you in taking care of it and stuff. I hope i helped, and i hope that everything turns out ok for you! the best of luck!
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i think that the first thing for you to do is to tell a trusted adult, like a close teacher or maybe even a relative.
if you're wondering whether or not to have the baby, you really need to follow whats in your heart. the options are:
an abortion
keep the baby
put your baby up for adoption
or you could pick the adoptive mother and father of your baby through the social services center in your community.
i think that you should think about each of the options and decide on at least two that you are the best options for you, and when you tell your parents, tell them what to do. this shows them that you have really thought about the situation.
my cousin got pregnant when she was young also and she kept her baby. although her parents were disappointed at first, they realized that theres nothing they could have done to change the situation, so they had to accept it and they see their grandson as a blessing.
also, you really want to keep your boyfriend in your baby's life if you decide to keep it.
everything will work out :)
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Well since you did choose to do it, I think you should at least have the baby. you have to tell your parents because without their consent...you can't really do anything. this will be really scary for you... but you have to stay strong. there was a girl at my school (senior-17) and she stayed in school through the pregnancy and ended up having the baby and only missing a week of school and nowshe's graduating. hopefully you can find a way to stay in school and have a normal life after too. take care! <3
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the first thing you should do is tell someone you trust and are close to in your family because no one can hide a secret like that. your family will understand and even thht it might be a shock to them things will calm down. dont just think you have to have an bortion because of your age do what YOU think is right and not wat anyone else wants hope i helped kim xx
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first thing, tell a family member/guardian that is closest to you. have him/her tell your mother/father/guardian. just tell them the honest truth and they will understand... well they should. if you have any more questions, send me a message!
hope i helped = ]]]
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Hi
I think you have more options than just abortion. There's always adoption, or consider asking a family memeber to raise the baby until you are able to.
Regardless, you need to tell your mom. I know the thought of it scares the hell out of you, but you need her help.
She may be more understanding than you think. And her response to you could help lead you in the direction that you need to take.
It's really quite sad that you got pregnant...I mean, you're just a baby yourself. I'm sure you don't need me to lecture you on birth control and STD awareness, but it's something that you obviously didn't consider when you decided to have sex at such a young age.
Good luck to you...and remember...do what's right for you and your baby. The more support you can get, the better you will be able to handle what outcome your life will have.
Brenda
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You're only option now is to have an abortion, because i'm pretty sure you don't want to have a kid at 13, and i'm sure your mom won't like the idea either. Find an adult that would be willing to help you if your mom or dad won't, like an older cousin, or aunt/uncle.
And please remember to use protection, you can catch an STD, AIDS, HIV, all that. So please when you plan on having sex again, use protection!
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