Ok so my bestfriend is going through depression and I feel so bad cause honeslty Ive realized that he doesnt smile that much anymore but it never hit me like that cause hes always just like im tired and stuff but anyways he told me yesterday that hes going thru it again so ive done some research on it cause i want to be able to help him get thru it. I didnt know him the first time he went thru it but I know that means since he had it once he'll be able to get thru it again. Anyways Ive gone a bunch of websites and they all basically say the same thing like it takes medication to get past it and stuff... I need to know Is There Anything I can Do To help Him? I cant find anything on how others should act around someone with it. Please If u have any ideas help. Ive googled it already and found some stuff but i need to know more...
[ Answer this question ] Want to answer more questions in the Health & Fitness category? Maybe give some free advice about: Illnesses? HectorJr answered Friday February 10 2006, 6:34 pm: Hey first off thanks for dropping it in my inbox; I appreciate it and I'll always do my best to help you or anyone else out if they leave one in my inbox. I'm kind've dealing with something like this right now actually. Might be obvious, and I'm not sure if you've done this already...but first and foremost, you need to tell an adult, whether it be parents, guidance couselor, or anyone else. You might have to be the one to tell an adult, because he might not appreciate that or even want that right now, but it really is something you can do to help out a lot. In addition to that, you could also try talking to him and always trying to create a feeling thats positve around him. Try to see if you can talk him into getting involved with something like clubs or sports or activities. If you can get his mind on a hobby or club or anything like that, then that would help him think about other things and maybe take his mind off depression. You shouldn't try to act totally different with him when he's around - he probably wouldn't like that right? Treat him as you would any other friend, but try to always be upbeat and positive, never bringing him down or anyone else. Try to look up some jokes or funny stories you can learn or always have ready to read to him a few every now and then. Always be ready to listen to anything he has to say, whether it be home stuff, school things, or anything random. Share some things about yourself that you think might allow him to be more open than he already is. Sometimes all it takes is just someone to listen to. That doesn't mean you need to help him solve his problems; you can but you should always ask if he wants you too and be ready to share your thoughts on what he has to say and everything. So if there's anything else you might have a question with or if you want more ideas on what you could do, please feel free to let me know. Let me know how it goes. Good luck and I hope I helped! [ HectorJr's advice column | Ask HectorJr A Question ]
tcklebunni answered Friday February 10 2006, 6:09 pm: Well I feel depressed alot of the time. I feel sad and have a hard time concentrating on anythinmg. I get really hostile and have alot of arguments and just become really distant. Basically all I've wanted was someone to make me laugh and to joke around with and someone to make me feel like I belong to a certain group or crowd. I guess I just wanted someone who gave me the illusion that everything was all right. Maybe that's what he needs. [ tcklebunni's advice column | Ask tcklebunni A Question ]
MummuM answered Friday February 10 2006, 1:57 pm: First, I think it would be best to try and figure out why your best friend is going through a depression. What is going on in his life that is making him feel this way? Sometimes, best friends just need to listen to problems and not say anything. Maybe you should talk to him about this and ask him if he would like to share the problems with you. Just be there to listen to what he has to say and be there for him. He needs someone to turn to, especially in a time like this.
Here are a couple of websites that I found, that may help you out:
Give him reasons WHY he should smile. Maybe you should make a little something for him, telling him how much you do care about him. Make him a list on why he should smile and why he's your best friend. Maybe like 50 reasons, or more, depending on how many you can think of. This really probably cheer him up, tons. Just because he knows someone really does care about him and is there for him every step of the way.
amandax33 answered Thursday February 9 2006, 9:20 pm: Okay, Well it does take medication to get past it. But you can do somthing if you really want to help him. Tell somone you trust,(a teacher,parent,Counciler)about your friend. So they can give him the right things he needs to get passed his depression for good. He probably has Anitexy. You can also help him by talking with him and telling him. That you are there to talk to.If he gets the message that he actually has somone there to care for him, He might not feel as lonely and alone. Try and get him to open up. Im not saying force stuff out of him, Because that wont help it nor will he talk to you lol. So just sit him down. Spend some time together somwhere and start a conversation. Dont make it akward,comfort him.
You said you googled it. Well i did to just to kinda find out some stuff. I dont know if youve been to this website yet but i thought this one kinda told some Facts about why, how and who gets depression. [Link](Mouse over link to see full location) [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
This other one tells about treatment and what depression is.
KiSSxMYxPEARLS answered Thursday February 9 2006, 9:08 pm: You just need to be around him. Hang out with him & just show him a good time. You really need to be with him. And honestly, to get over depression, sometimes you don`t need medication. Invite him & a group of friends to hang out. Don`t let this get too far, because then he might end up hurting himself. Don`t act any different than you do with your other friends. Don`t feel too bad for him because then he will never get over this. All you can do is just really be there for him and try to cheer him up. [ KiSSxMYxPEARLS's advice column | Ask KiSSxMYxPEARLS A Question ]
tasuki answered Thursday February 9 2006, 9:04 pm: I'm not sure if I have a good answer for this. I would like to, but I've never experienced it myself. I have experienced depression, and I know that I would want somebody to hold me and tell me it would be all right. Just that would cheer me up. However, it's not always that simple. The only thing I can suggest is that you support him in every way possible and let him know that you care about him. Help him get help. That may be all you can do, actually. Solving his problem is up to him and sometimes the only thing you can do is support him. Good luck. [ tasuki's advice column | Ask tasuki A Question ]
crazygoober2006 answered Thursday February 9 2006, 5:19 pm: The best thing I think you can do for him w/ out the meds is just listen to him. If he's getting help, encourage him to keep getting help, because you want him to be happy. Remind him that you love him. I have a good friend that is going through the same thing. I don't know if you believe in God, but even if you do and he doesn't, or if he does. Tell him that you'll be praying for him if you have that faith, or any faith at all. That may lift his spirits. :-) I hope I helped. [ crazygoober2006's advice column | Ask crazygoober2006 A Question ]
GwinnCheer2006 answered Wednesday February 8 2006, 9:44 pm: Ok i was going through almost the same thing that your friend is going through. Just tell him that your there for him if he needs to talk. Try to get it out of him. Dont like pressure him in to telling you but just let him know that your there for him. If you dont know why he is this way, it could be a family problem. Usually thats what it is. You dont need medication for all types of depression he could just be going through major depression which means depression for a few weeks. But i hope he will get over this soon. It took me a couple months before i came out of my "depression" stage. Another thing you might be able to do to help him is be with him more. Make sure hes in the the depression state where hes thinking about commiting suicide. Im not saying that he is, but you can look online for warning signs. But i say you can just stay with him more often and try to talk to him. If it gets really bad like, say hes like this for over i'd say 3 months.. go to a counselor or a trusted adult! Hope i helped.. please rate! [ GwinnCheer2006's advice column | Ask GwinnCheer2006 A Question ]
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