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Mom Smoking
My mom has been smoking for a long time now. She smokes a pack a day and i want her to stop so she wont get cancer or anything. She says its really hard to stop and she already tried one of those stop smoking programs. How do i make her stop?
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to convince some of my own family members to stop smokin i told them the simple facts:
-it not only hurts the smokers body but hurts your own too(second hand smoke is one leading cause for cancer)
-show her the amount of tar she puts in her lungs everyday...inform her that it takes over 10 years to rid your body of this tar...tar from the dirty street!
-show her a picture of a smokers lungs and tell her that hers may already be turning black but you need them to be pink to be healthy
-lastly explain that people whose parents smoke are more likely to begin smokin than children of non-smokers ...shes influencing you.
i hope this helped!
hearts, kiki
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It really is hard to stop, and for many it is nearly impossible. Sadly, you can't make her do it. Even if it was just a matter of her wanting to do it, you wouldn't be able to force her to not want to do it. Sadly, it's even more difficult. She wants to stop, but the chemicals entered her brain a long time ago. She has a physical dependency on them. It is possible to overcome this, but it's usually by getting addicted to something else. You can't make her do it, but you can help her by giving her your encouragement and support. That's all you really can do.
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Hello!
First, I have been in a similar situation as yourself. My mum, my dad and my nan all smoked. I was always telling them to give up and in the end they listened to me. =)
It's a bit harder if your mum has already been in a stop-smoking program, but maybe you should try speaking to her again and telling her that you really want her to succeed.
Maybe she should try nicotine gum or patches, which worked well for my parents if she already hasn't. The thing is that my dad's now addicted to the GUM (lol!) but don't worry about the word 'nicotine', they're 100% safe. Nicotine IS addictive, but it's not dangerous, not even in cigarettes, where other ingredients are causing the problems and nicotine is the just the addictive part.
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I dont think its impossible to make her stop smoking..
I think you should go up to her and tell her you really need to talk to her..
Tell her you are very worried and that you only get one mother<3 that you love her so much and dont want to lose her. Ask her if she will quit for you. (im just giving examples of things you should say, make up your own words so that it comes from YOUR heart)
tell her you will try anything for her to make her stop. That you cant just give up and it will take time and that you know that. Just remember that if you show your mom how much you love her that she might just listen..
<3 maddie
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try the stop smoking gum, or the patches. usually they help
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Well, it is humanly impossible to make someone stop doign something that has become habit, especially something addictive like smoking. If you have already mentioned to her that you don't like it and she hasn't stopped, you can see what I mean.
I suggest telling her that you both can set goals together (perhaps you want to lose weight, become more active, or try community service...anything really) and that you will rely on eachother's progress with those goals. Don't let her feel like she's doing this alone and it might be a little easier.
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I agree with both the answers below. As an ex-smoker I can say that it is almost impossible for a non smoker to even begin to understand how difficult it is to quit. Cigarrettes are adictive on so many different levels, and the brain links them to specific events in the day making it really hard to resist (e.g. after eating; hanging with specific people; out at a bar; etc).
So definately dont nag, it does not generate the needed level of willpower. I dont know which smoking program she tried, but my mother quit using the patches. Of course they only work on some people.
If you do convince her to try, help her set some goals. Typically the really really bad urges will last about a month (give or take). That at least gives her a target to shoot for, and if she makes it that far she probably wont start again.
When I quit I had a pocket full of lolipops everywhere I went. Cant say that they did wonders, but at least it kept my hands and mouth busy.
Thats actually your most important role if she does try to quit. Help her keep her mind off it and keep her as stress-less as possible for at least a couple of weeks.
Good luck.
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Cheerbabe is right. You can encourage your mom by letting her know you'd like her to quit but there really isn't a lot you can do to actually make her quit. That is something she has to really, really want to do for herself.
It is very difficult to do. Mom is right about that. Unless she really wants to quit it is impossible. So encourage her ( without nagging!).
And maybe she will give it another try. :)
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There is really no way to make her quit, but you can for sure try to encourage it. I understand. My dad smokes quite a bit, and my mom used to smoke. She used Nicorette and that helped. But, just tell your mom how much she means to you. She should get the message you're sending.
Good Luck, hun! ♥
Jessx3
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