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Boyfriend is ALWAYS late!
I'm 17/f and my boyfriend is 18/m and he doea not understand the meaning of time. He is constantly late to everything. And I mean everything! I used to put up with it (we've been dating for almost 2 years) but I just can't anymore.
About a week ago, my dad threw a party for his company and instead of going with my family, I went with my boyfriend. My family left for the patry and I left to his house. When I got there, HE WAS STILL ASLEEP! I got him up and he had to take a shower so he did that. About 30 min. later, his parents were leaving for the party and asked me if I wanted to ride with them. Of course I said no. My boyfriend and I ended up being an hour and half late to the party. My dad was really mad.
The next day, we were supposed to go to the mall at 2pm. Of course, he wasn't on time. It got to be about 3:00 when he finally got to my house. I told him that I didn't feel like going anymore and we got into this big fight about how he's always late.
How can I get him to understand that it's important to not olny me but to ohter people as well that he get's to where ever he's supposed to be the time he says he will?
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Sit down with him and let him know how much his constant lateness bothers you. Does he work or go to school? Is he on time for that?
Another option is to tell him an earlier time to meet. I would suggest at least an hour earlier since it appears. If you're supposed to meet at 3, tell him 2 instead.
If he's supposed to meet you at a certain time, give him 15 minutes. If he doesn't show up by then, leave without him. When he asks why you didn't wait, tell him you couldn't wait any longer. After a few times, he should get the picture.
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buy him a watch for christmas. better yet, start programming things into his cell phone scheduler when he's not looking
or just tell him to be ready for something an hour before he needs to be
for revenge: start showing up to everything he arranges late.
arrive entire days later.
ask him if it annoys him.
orrr.... promise him that you'll come over and show off lingerie as a christmas present (don't actually do it)
then tell him that you just sort of forgot about it... and that you couldn't be where you were supposed to be because of it
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Tell him that pot heads and other failures in life are always late and that he doesn't want to be like that.
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just tell him to be there like ten min earlier than what time he should be
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i think you really just need to talk to him..sit him down and tell him its really disrespectufl that he is constantly late to meeting you. It's rude and its not right and he has to stop..ask him how he would feel if you did it to him
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All you should have to do is tell him. I know that sounds like it won't help any, but if you let him know, then he'll be full aware that it really bothers you when he's late. If he understands this and still is late all the time, then you have bigger problems.
Once again, I know this sounds like it won't help any, but I have problems being on time too, and my girlfriend never said anything, but when she did, I got the message and realized I had to start getting ready earlier.
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Well, of course I dont know your boy friend. That means I only know that he is always late. So, I know this sounds like a retarded answer. Maybe talk to him, I know you said that you got in a fight but, tell him if your relationship is going to last that he needs to be on time. Now, I dont know if this talk with your boy friend is going to work. But, thanks for reading my advice.I truly hope it has helped. *Good Luck*
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He NEEDS to understand how important this is to you. Don't make empty threats. If you really mean it, make sure he knows that if he doesn't shape up, there's no hope for your relationship; that it's extremely important.
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My advice to you is to sit him down one on one, face to face. Tell him you're serious about this, and he has to handle his time better, but you must do it politely, and not be rude about it. Tell him the disconvenience it's doing to you.
It would make sense to get a calendar and write down dates and times. Sometimes, when I have a lot to do, I also write a schedule. It's a good habit to decide how much each thing will take. If you're going to his apartment/house, im him, text him, phone him, do whatever it takes to remind him to get his butt moving! I would suggest saying your coming at 8:00, but come at 9:00 (just an example) see what happens!!
Hope I helped. Comment back about how everything goes! -abercrombiebabiex3-
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i think that you should put it on the line sort've. tell him you've had enough & if he loves you & appreciates you that he needs to handle his time more wisely. i think that if he saw it as you'd might break up with him because of it, he'd change his mind & try to fix it if he truly cares about you. if he loves you, he'll fix it. help him though. if it doesn't seem to be working, try telling him earlier times to get him going. you might have to break up with him if nothing works.
-hope that helped!♥
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You can't really control what people do, but there's a way to somewhat convince them. The next date you two sced. tell him you'll be at his house at let's say 2 pm on a saturday. get there at his house at 3 and see his reaction. If he gets mad, then tell him that's how he makes you feel, and that he's getting you into trouble.
^^ PLEASE let me know if I helped or not.
**hope things work out!**
x-O Annerszz_101 x-O
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