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Something just doesn't feel right..
I'm currently in an internet relationship with this guy in Canada (I'm in Australia) We liked each other for about a year, and only recently decided to give the relationship a shot. We had a few problems before we got together, but we worked them all out. We're meeting in a few months time. I do like him, however, there's a lot about him that bothers me. He's a REALLY extremist Catholic, and whilst i am catholic too, I'm nowhere near as religious. A lot of what he believes I respect, however disagree with. I have to act different around him, for example, I can't swear or say anything even remotely 'suggestive' Sometimes I feel like he's testing me, because he asks me questions like "did you go to mass today on sunday? Did you enjoy it?" and "How far do you think is too far?" I never feel comfortable around him and he doesn't know much about who I truly am due to this reason. He's a really innocent guy for a teenager, and whilst its good that he respects me, he's really uptight and we can never talk about things or joke around like other couples can. I realize that not everyone is into that kind of thing, but it's like we never do anything 'fun'
I tell him I love him every night but sometimes I wonder whether I truly do. I want to make this work but I have a nagging feeling telling me that this isn't right and I shouldn't be with him. What should I do? Is it normal to feel like this? Do you guys think I should still try with him?
Thanks.
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Hmm...that's a tough one. I actually have a friend who is very conservative while I myself am very liberal. I think he wants us to be more than friends, but personally I know I couldn't be in a relationship with him- it would be too much strain. If you feel uncomfortable when he's talking to you, if you don't know if you can be happy with him, I'd break it off. It's not an easy thing to face, but I think you'd both end up making eachother miserable. If you do decide to break things off, explain to him that you just think the two of you aren't right for eachother. He sounds like a good person, so you could try to "still be friends", although that doesn't always work. Hope my ramblings helped a bit. In the end, do what you want, not what anyone tells you to.
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well, i would say that since he is so religious and you arent, the relationship may not work out in the long run anyway. Since you guys are going to be meeting you may want to wait and see what he is like in person becuz i just think you really dont know a person until you meet them in person. With him being this way you could never be yourself, but just give it some time. See how he is to you in person and after that it may be easy for you to decide what to do..hope i helped you!
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Honestly, if he is very into his religion and you are not...it won't work out in the long run.
I think you already know that. You need to follow your instincts on this one.
Even if you don't have a romance. It doesn't mean you can't still be friends. Talk to him, let him know exactly what your are thinking. :)
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i personally, wouldn't.
if i'm not comfortable in a relationship, i don't pursue it. the little things in the beginning of a relationship normally turn into the big things anyway...
besides, my mind is so created that suggestive jokes tend to come naturally. so i can't censor myself like that.
and i don't think i'd want to.
so, no, i wouldn't.
you might, it's really all up to you.
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I don't think you should be with him. It's hard to explain, though I think you know what I mean, but you're not really on the same "level". They say that opposites attract, but there is a such thing as being too different, and I think that's what you and this guy are. If you don't even feel like you can show your true self to this guy, then you really don't love him as much as you say. I think those nagging feelings are correct. Trust your instincts and call it off.
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Sorry honey but its not normal to feel like your someone your not with your boyfriend.in any relantionship you need to be yourself. if i were you i would talk to him about it. but if feel like you can't. then break it off. i know thats not what you want to hear. but really your not gonna feel any differently. if anything you'll feel worse and in time you'll even get depresed. no one should tease anyone in such a way that you feel wierd about yourself.
to me you seem like a women that is totally comfertable with her life style and her personality.
theres many fish in the sea that feel great in their own skin.
always Nd forever
Daniella
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That feeling you get means something so do not ignore it. If something feels creepy or wrong obey the feeling and urge to get out of it. Be nice in breaking it off. If he absolutely does not get it tell him "I like you but this relationship is not right for me. Our religious differences will pull us apart in the end." Leave it at that.
You do not owe anyone your love or devotion and should not feel guilty in any or all situations where people have to fall out of your life if they are no longer right for you. You know what you need to do. We are just confirming it for you. It's not easy but for your own health you should say goodbye and move on.
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ok well you will hate this answer but this is the only one that will truly work. you need to talk to him. tell him how you feel, then is he thinks its ok then give it a shit. the point of a relatiomship is tp BE YOURSELF. if you cant do that, then it will never work out. if you have any more questions let me know,
ANK
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I don't know if you should stay with him....because like you should NEVER act different around someone because like you want someone who loves you for who you are.. but like ummm try it and see what happens or whatever hope I helped
~*+*Dri*+*~
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I think you two shouldn't try it. First of all, the distance is hard enough. If you two have those fights, i doubt it will work out anyway. If you two can't even joke, just tell him you don't think it will work out. If he gets rude about it, he's DEFIENTLY not worth it.
^^ PLEASE let me know if I helped or not!
**hope it works out**
x-O Annerszz_101 x-O
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