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Q: i have brown eyes that have a hint of green to them so they almost look hazel in the sun...does anybody know a good eye makeup/shadow or whatever that would make them look hazel even when there not in the sun?

try like greens and pinks.
light purples look cute to.
eyeline your eyes with a purple pen or brown.
let me know if i help.
daniella

i know cuz i have brown eyes. lol

Q: My friend just gave me Jergen's Natural Glow tanning lotion. I want to know if it really works, or if it makes me turn orange before I use it. Has anyone else ever used it before?

i buy that stuff so much. any really it worth the money. im latina and my skin color is not as dark as my boyfriend, but wheni used this lotion everyone said oh my god Daniella did u go to the beach! and he even complaimented to! lol

just make sure you evenly put it on your body.

i really like it.

let me know if i could help.

and i wont leave your ski8n organge unless you like paper white. which i doubt because the tan fades away leaving no unwanted color.

always and forever Daniella

Q: 14/f....I sort of like one of my guy friends but he doesn't know it. I have been getting a vibe that he might like me too but I dont know. What I plan on doing is acting more flirty around him and touching him and getting close to him. But I dont really know how to touch him more without him figuring out that I like him. Please help. I rate.

i know what you mean! oh my gosh i do!
:) well a nice way to touch him is by lightly pass your fingers on his arms and threw out his hair.( but i mean like if you guys are at an arcade and he's playing on those driving games.) dont mae it to noticeable beacuase you dont want him to get uncomfortable. you can also whisper little secrets to him and put your hand on his cheek and the other softly on his back.

those are what i did to me friend when i liked him and now we have been together for 3 months!
let me know if i helped you

always and forver
Daniella

Q: Hi Everyone!
I just bought a whole bunch of brown/brown tone clothing and I'm wondering about some "rules" i need to keep in mind. I know brown with black is a big no-no but what if it's 2 different tones of brown? Can anyone help me out?

actully brown and black can go quite nicely with eachother. a dark dark brown with black is a no- no. but a lighter tone can go nicely. try maybe a soft light brown with black. like i wear this lite brown shirt with these little gold sparkly things on them and with black skrits or black pants with a black mid sweater. and brown and gold sparkles flats.

it may sound wierd but i always get the sweet comments.

try stores like papayas, rampage and styles.

let me know if it works
daniella

Q: My ex-boyfriend and i have officially been a 'couple' for four months, although people considered us 'together' for about eight months. Two weeks ago, I had called him to say good morning and he told me he thought we should "take a break". I knew we were having problems, but I thought that we were stronger than that, and it was just so sudden. I was extremely hurt, it was completely unexpected.. only a week before his exact words to me were "if somehow this doesnt work out..im never leaving, ill wait for you to come back. i cant see myself without you. i know that sounds very pathetic and stuff, but i know im never going to be happy without you." How could someone who shared something so special change their mind so fast? My friends told me he'd regret it and come back, that he was just confused since his parents had been having problems. One week after the break up, and after not hearing from him... he called. Told me he had been in rehab (I later learned it was for drug related issues.) I found out that he had been doing serious drugs for a while and had not told me about any of it (he knows I am fully against anything of the sort). He said he was sorry, and that I was the best thing that had ever happened to him, and that it was just a bad decision. He said he wanted to talk to me, and I wanted to see him too. Since that day he called me, we've talked online but only very short conversations. I know he's been drinking with friends (hes 17), and making everything a lot worse for himself. I was/am truly the only friend he has that really genuinly cares about his well-being. I am the only one he can talk to that will listen, and he knows this, and has even told me this himself. But the past few days, he's been acting ... completely different. Saying insulting things, and being completely rude. I know he still has feelings for me, and I know he knows he needs me again... and I still want him too. I have never felt so hurt in my entire life, and I've been through a lot. He won't talk or see me, and i think its because hes scared... I dont know what to say or do anymore. I know i should probably get over everything, and try to move on... but I just do not know what to do. Sorry this is so long, but Im desperate for help.. I've lost a lot in the past couple months, and I need him.

well lil honey.
its a lot to deal with. and mostly for him.
but still thats not your fault. i know your probaly the only thing "good" in his life, but still u can only take so much. if he said that he doesnt wann be with you. then maybe he said it becuase he really cares about because he knows the things he is doing are wrong. i know its really hard to see someone you care about not try to better them selves. its like thier selling them selves short. but theres only so much you can do.

you can't help those that dont want to be helped.
and truly honey think in your self. to be in a relantionship like that is unhealthy. i know because i had a boyfriend who was in a game.
so its hard at times because they think they know everything and you know that thier getting themselves into no good.

bottom line:
try to move on. you will always remember him, but it's not good for you either.
always and forever
Daniella
i hope i helped.

Q: There is this guy who a little younger then me (nothing illegal or anything)...he goes to my school and we always make eye contact in the hallways and sometimes i catch him staring at me. I think he's really cute and maybe kinda like him but i dont really know him. I want to talk to him but it's hard because i'm so shy n he seems kinda shy too. I'm mostly scared to talk to him because he might not even like me, thats what usually happens anyways. I kno i shouldnt waste my life thinking what if but im to scared to make a move, it's not my kinda thing, is there anything i can do to maybe talk to him?

a simple hi whats up can go a long way.
you dont know if he might feel the same way.
if i were you ( which i have been in that postion many times.)i would say hi whats up.

the most he can do i say hi back.
and you'll see what goes on.
you never know that boy can be your soul mate or even maybe your best friend.
you dont know unless you try.

good luck
i got my fingers crossed
Daniella

Q: I'm currently in an internet relationship with this guy in Canada (I'm in Australia) We liked each other for about a year, and only recently decided to give the relationship a shot. We had a few problems before we got together, but we worked them all out. We're meeting in a few months time. I do like him, however, there's a lot about him that bothers me. He's a REALLY extremist Catholic, and whilst i am catholic too, I'm nowhere near as religious. A lot of what he believes I respect, however disagree with. I have to act different around him, for example, I can't swear or say anything even remotely 'suggestive' Sometimes I feel like he's testing me, because he asks me questions like "did you go to mass today on sunday? Did you enjoy it?" and "How far do you think is too far?" I never feel comfortable around him and he doesn't know much about who I truly am due to this reason. He's a really innocent guy for a teenager, and whilst its good that he respects me, he's really uptight and we can never talk about things or joke around like other couples can. I realize that not everyone is into that kind of thing, but it's like we never do anything 'fun'

I tell him I love him every night but sometimes I wonder whether I truly do. I want to make this work but I have a nagging feeling telling me that this isn't right and I shouldn't be with him. What should I do? Is it normal to feel like this? Do you guys think I should still try with him?

Thanks.

Sorry honey but its not normal to feel like your someone your not with your boyfriend.in any relantionship you need to be yourself. if i were you i would talk to him about it. but if feel like you can't. then break it off. i know thats not what you want to hear. but really your not gonna feel any differently. if anything you'll feel worse and in time you'll even get depresed. no one should tease anyone in such a way that you feel wierd about yourself.

to me you seem like a women that is totally comfertable with her life style and her personality.

theres many fish in the sea that feel great in their own skin.

always Nd forever
Daniella

Q: I've had a bf for a little more then a month. i'm crazy about him and all and think i might love him but i'm wondering what are some ways to know if he loves me or just really likes me.

in all honesty. its the little things that count.
if you notice that he can't stop looking at you(and i mean this oh my god your beautiful look) then u got him hooked. if he trys everything to be with you and if he dedicates songs to you, and says things like, im so lucky to have you.
to me thats so much more than saying i love you.

actions speak louder than words.

always and forever
daniella

Q: Heyy!,

Is it wrong for an 13 year old and an 11 year old to go out?..I really need someones opinion!!!

well honestly all my boyfriends have been younger than me. i was a freshman and went out wit a dude from 7th grade! hahah. i broke up wit him cuz he wanted to much. (if you get what im saying) now im with a guy that younger than me by like 3 months. but if u really like this boy then go for it. maybe he might even look older you. i mean its not like anyone would come up to you and say, "whos older you or your boyfrined?"

so in my opinion go for it.

let me know if it works.
Daniella

Q: can any 1 tell me whats the best free music download site?

try limewire or kazaa

Q: How will I know when i get my period? Like the other day i thoght i got my period when i had an itch down there. Lol im confused.. so help me :)

Aslso wuts best for the first time pads or tamptons? Do tampons hurt?

also what is Masturbation

ok hunnie if your regular wit your period then you know around when it comes. but if you dont usally your body gives you signs. like if your boobs start 2 swell or really hurt, or if u get really tired, or even if your thighs hurt.

for the first time use pads. you need to let your body to get used to this new change. so use a pad like the first 4 times.
i dont use tampons because im still a virgen and the first time i tried it hurt like hell because im so tight down there. so if it hurts when you try it, then dont do it.

and masturbation is when u please your self
like fingering your self. or a guy jacking himslef off.
lol i hope i helped you

always and forever
Daniella

Q: ok im a virgon(well, not any more) and so was she (um.. well not any more) just say there was alot of blood involved. anyone knows why??!!

(and it wasnt from me....) probably seems dumb, i just wanna know why, i know a little about it, but hlp plz

u popped her cherry hunnie. its normal. dont worry we all have a first time! lol
be safe tho
Always and foreber!
Daniella

Q: Hey Im really scared.

I am 14 and my mom's friends's son, who is 17,came over to stay with us for the night. My mom went to get groceries and the boy insisted and pulled off my clothes and started to have sex. Today, I took the test. results are, yes, Im pregnant. The guy I don't know his name and im scared to tell my mom. Please help

i know this must be hard but take a deep breath. it might be a false alarm. so not until your really really really sure let your mom know ok?
i hope i could help you. but try not 2 worry yet ok? see if you can contact him ok hunnie.
Always nd forever
Daniella

Q: Im getting my hair dyed professionally and its going to cost me about $50. Assuming the hairdresser does a good job, how much should I tip? Thanks.

if the person is reaaly nice then like 15 or 20.
but if their jerks then like 10.

Q: well i havent had my first kiss yet... but i really want it! uh how do i let my boyfriend no that i want to kiss him or him to kiss me without telling him?

hunnie the best thing 2 do is stare in his eyes and softly pass you fingers thur his hair and slowly look at his lips. then be talkin like wit a lil whisper. then get closley and put your lips on his lips. dont kiss him just yet. keep sayin how much he makes u happy. and he'll be getting excited (if u know what i mean) and then softly lick his lips, and pull away. that makes him want you more.

let me knoe if it helps!

always and forever
Daniella

and p.s
this method drives my boyfriend crazy!!!
;)

Q: I have been dating this one boy for over 2years, and i love him more then anything else in the world we have been through so much. I'm so close to his mom and other in his family. Well about 5 months ago things started going down hill,he never called, he kind of cheated on me&he has been a complete jerk. He calls me really rude names&he always picks on me. I mean when it's just me&him, theres the personn i love, but when others are around he makes me feel like complete shit. I mean he was like my first everything, i lost my virginity to him and everything. We don't go out now but i guess were trying to work things out. When i talk to him on the computer and tell him how he makes me feel he says he feels the same and that he really does love me and he doesnt want to be with any one else but he just doesnt show it sometimes. I want to let go and move on but i just can't. He has beem lyingg to me so much and one thing he has lied to me about was chewing&i hate it. I just dont kno if i can trust him anymore i want to be w/ him forveer and i know this may sound stupid cuz iim only 14 but if you only felt how i felt. I mean things arnt always badd but latelyy more then not. I feel like dying because i miss him all the time. And sometimes i just want to kill myself because i dont want to live w/o him. I dont know what to do. not only was he my boy friend but my bestfriend and i feel like i have lost everything..And i mainly lost him over a gammee..Halo&&the girll he kinda cheated on me w/ was from haloo :( andd i love his mom so much 2 she is like my second mom..Ughh im soo lost..Some advicee would help :( :'(

OH MY GOD IS YOUR NAME DANIELLA LOPEZ!!
(actully thats my name.) but i say that because its wierd but i went thur the same thing!! i went out wit this guy for 2 years, and then boom!
the change happens. this change is really a test against time. look i was so in love that me and him knew how many kids we were gonna have what the names were gonna be even what color our fuckin bed sheets were gonna be! i know crazy!
but then this change happen. except i was the one that was doubting him. i felt like things werent the same. i knew i loved him but i needed to have space. then later he got intersted in another gurl and i got wit this dude 2 forget about my love.
it turns out that it back fired on me. if anything it made me miss my ex more. later i told him how i felt and he worte me an email sayin i was a hoe, a slut, the only thing i was good for was to fuck! ( when thank GOD we never got to that point!)what hurt the most was that even tho i didnt losi "it" to him. i was close to thinking i wanted to. not only that but before i broke up wit him. he hit me! come one hunnie that wasnt a relationship i wanted for my self! much less for the rest of my life!

he was my everything, my best friend, my body gaurd, my life, my dreams, my happiness...

but think. is that kind of relationship you want. were not only u get emotionally abused, but also maybe physically.

if he cheated on you hunnie he doesnt respect you. there is no reason a man or women should do that 2 a person they "love"

for me the hardest thing was leaving his family. his lil nephew who i adore still.

you have 2 forget all your songs you inside jokes and much more MEMORIES!!!

when i came home from vacation i met this guy(lets call him my pet name for him stitch)
and we started talking 2 him as a friend.
and so unexceptily i fell in love harder than ever!!! but believe me it took me 4 months 2 get over my ex.
now me and stitch have been together for like 4 months and oh my god he's everything i never had!

my ex will always have a special place in my heart, but thats it.

hunnie if you dont take care of your self nobody will.
what i did was balance every thing out, then make choices that would make ME happy...
its hard but believe me YOU WILL GET THUR IT!
i did and now i couldnt be happier. take it from this lost in love 16 year old ok?

i hope i could help you
let me knoe ok
bye God bless you
Always and Forever
Daniella

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ASK ME ANYTHING!!!
what ever your going through i bet i had gone through it twice(mostly boys, friends and family problems.)so dont be shy. i promise i'll try 2 help you in anyway.

and to all my latinos
todos saben que la vida nuestra es un poco mas dificil. entonces yo les quiero ayudar con todo lo que pueda. soy salvadorena y una latina muy orgullosa. si tiene alguna pregunta, dejenme saber.

estoy aqui para servir.
im here to serve.
Daniella Lopez.