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i need anserws!!!!
ok i just took a pregnancy test and it was positive!im only 16 years old:(i dont want to tell my parents because they said if i ever get pregeat at a young age they will kick me out of the house!!!!i dont know what to do!plzzzz help
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I was in your situation before. My parents did attempt to kick me out and I ended up loosing the baby because of the stress. Its to late to tell you now that you are not ready for sex, but you are not. You need to decide very fast what you want to do. If you wantto get an abortion then you can prolly do it without your parents knowing but that will hurt them in the long run if they ever find out. You do have options and I suggest adobtion. I have went through this exact thing so if youwant to talk - please email me anti_bitch_anti@yahoo.com yes that is my real E mail address - i would love to help you out.
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i would tell them cuase they will find out and my parents said the same thang trying to scare me and convince me not to do it till i was older
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trust your parents love
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I know that you don't want to tell your parnets but that's the only way. All parents say that to there kids. But before you do take another test to make sure that you are. Then sit down with your parents and tell them. They might be able to help you. I'm a mother and yes I would be mad at first but If there understanding they won't kick you out. Have everything planned out how your going to tell them. If your going to give it up for adoption of keep it. But don't keep it from them, they'll be more mad at you. I hope that I helped. If you need someone to talk with my email address if keemkick@hotmail.com. Let me know what happens ok. There are people who can't have children and you could look into that.
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FIRST OF ALL...your parents are not going to kick you out of the house. atleast good parents wouldn't. SECONDLY....my mother was 16 when i was born and i turned out great. you really need your parents help right now and you need to tell them. i know that youare scared and nervous and full of emotion, but right now your feelings are on the back burner. it is you unborn child that matters now. THIRD....do not get an abortion. i know that it is your choice, but you really need to think about it. i am glad my mom did. you will live with it for the rest of your life. good luck and god be with you.
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I wouldn't know what to do either. Unless you were raped, you don't really have too many options if you don't want an abortion. Looks like you are going to have to, *gasp*, face the consequences for your poor decisions!
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im sorry !!
but you gonna have too tell your parents sooner or later cuz they will find out ... soo jus tell them cuz you dont want them too find out then they will get even mader at you .. hope i helped !!
♥ Samra
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go to your doctor in the next few days to confirm it& the will discuss your options/ your parents wont throw you out, they just dont wont you to have that responsabliaty at a young .
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hey buddy, I've been in that position too. Well kinda? anyway... I had sex with no protection and completely skipped a period. It's scary as shit.. I'm 16 too. First, before talking to your parents, talk to the guy you are having it with.. is he your boyfriend? If so, do you want to marry this guy? Talk to him about it because this is a huge deal. If he's not your boyfriend then talk to him about if you DO tell your parents and they DO kick you out.. ask if you can stay with him.. after all he kinda owes it to you!! if hes a bitch and says no then go to your best friend, or somebody you trust, maybe somebody thats religous... their really forgiving and are always willing to help. you didnt give that much information and thats all i can really say but if you need anything else please leave something in my inbox because i know how stressful and hard those things are! good luck and best wishes
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ok first of all, calm down and rlax, everything is going to be fine. you should tell your parents, no matter how mad they get your gonna be ok! i promise! go to a counselor or a person that you can trust and talk to with. did u tell the boy who is going to be the father yet? if u havent do that too. just be calm and tell them and explain everything
xoxo
jess
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Theres group homes for young pregnant girls.. you can also try living with another family member if thats possible.. ♥ Dez
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Dear I need answers,
Well, I agree with most of what the other Advicenators said. My parents said the same thing only I believe their exact word were, no bastard children. Oh yeah and I had just turned 17.
I was afraid that my parents would kick me out or beat the crap out of me. I worried for 2 months about telling them.
My boyfriend begged me to move in with him and his parents would help us out. BUT my parents said no, she is finishing school without a child. They forced me to have an abortion and made him pay for half of it. I did not want an abortion but I was only 17 and did not know that I had choices.
This was the worst experience I have ever had. I waited so long before telling my parents that I was almost 3 months pregnant. The doctor almost refused to do the procedure because of the cut off. After three months they would not abort the baby.
Anyway, I woke up half way through the operation in extreme pain. I sat straight up on the table screaming, startling everyone around me. There was this large powerful suction hose they had up inside me. One of the nurses gave me another shot and I woke up in a room all by myself feeling my like my insides had been ripped out. My mom drove me home in silence.
The point is, do not wait, no matter what. If you decide to keep it, then you will at least have no secrets from your parents. If you decide to get an abortion, then you will not have to go through what I went through.
The most important thing for you to do is decide what you want to do about the baby.
Are you ready to be a mom? You have choices I did not know I had. You can have the child and give it up, you can keep it, have the procedure or take a pill. They call it RU486 the Abortion Pill. This is a clip from a website that you can get info from on this.
"There are two common methods for performing a medical abortion.
The first procedure, using a drug called Mifeprex, also known as RU486, is taken orally in a doctor's office and followed two days later by another medication called misoprostol, which causes the uterus to contract, resulting in the expulsion of the pregnancy tissue.
The second procedure, using a drug called Methotrexate, includes an initial injection, followed one week later by misoprostol, which causes the uterus to contract, resulting in the expulsion of the pregnancy tissue.
Both procedures require follow-up visits to the clinic to determine whether or not the procedure is complete. Both methods are safe and effective. Many women see this as a desirable alternative to surgery and anesthesia."
This is the address:
www.abortion.com/topic.php?topic=The%20Abortion%20Pill
Here is another site you should read if you are considering RU486. There are side effects and can only be used if you are less than 49 days pregnant.
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Here are some other sites that touch on teen pregnancy and planning.
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For more, just do a search on google, or call your local family practice clinic.
You have some serious decision making to do, but you had better do it quick.
I suggest that you research all of your options, do not take too long doing this though.
Talk to the boy that you got pregnant with and find out how he feels as well. When you have all the options in front of you, then ask all the parents to sit down with you, tell them that it is important. It would be a good idea to sit everyone down together. Your parents, his parents, him and you. Doing this, maybe your parents will not flip out in front of the boys parents and vise versa. If everyone can keep a level head, then something can get accomplished. You must do what is best for you and the baby. When you have them all together, tell them that you want their advice. Let them know that you were adult enough to get yourself into this and are adult enough to deal with it, but you would like their support and thoughts on the matter. Tell them that you are pregnant and have looked into several options.
(if you decide to keep it)Tell them that you are coming to them to give them a chance to decide if they want to be a part of the baby's life.
I hope that I have helped you out at least a little bit. Good luck and keep your head up :)
Sincerely,
Honestymatters
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Ok, just b/c the thing said you were positive doesn't necessarily mean you are. But it still could. If you are, you'll start to smell a whole lot better, have occasional morning sickness,etc. See a doctor, they can tell for sure. If you are, you have no choice but to tell your parents. Theres no gettin around that one. If you arent pregnant this time, see that you stay that way next time sweetcakes.
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tell em.
they will be a little angry but they will accept you. they willl even help you as well.
the question is, can you accept yourself?
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First, you need to go to the doctor to make sure you are pregnant. For the most part, home pregnancy tests are accurate, but there is a slight chance it was off. Also, if you are pregnant, you need to get started with prenatal care ASAP. If you can't afford the doctor, go to the health department or planned parenthood.
I would sit down with your parents and calmly tell them. Like younggrandma said, they most likely said that they would kick you out to try to discourage you from it. Realize that they're probably going to be a little upset and shocked to start with. My parents said something similar, but when my sister got pregnant at 15, they were great about it once they got over the shock.
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Hey. Well, i dont think your parents really meant to kick you out but you should most definetly tell them straight out because what are you going to do 2 months after you have this baby and get into a bad situation? your going to need their support. take the good with the bad for now and take one baby step at a time keep me posted too lots of luck
Christina
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They said that but, I'm sure they were only attempting to discourage the behavior. I sincerely doubt that they were serious.
You will have to say something sooner or later. Get mom alone sometime and tell her. I was about the same age as you when I went through it. I have to say that it wasn't nearly as bad as I thought it was going to be (telling mom).
If I can help with anything else, feel free to ask. :)
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