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Abuse
When I was little I was abused by both my sister and my dad. As I got older it stopped and the yelling died down a little but its still there. Lately my dad and my sister have been yelling more and tonight I was sitting in my room and heard things being thrown and everything. Im not sure what was going on but I new my dad and sister were fighting and probly hurting eachother and I was scared out of my mind. I wanted to jump out of my window and run I was so scared. Im sitting here shaking afraid to leave my room and I don`t know what to do. Please help meh!
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Love maddie
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call your grandma or an aunt or someone and ask them to pick you up because you need to get out of there. even if you don't want to if you cry then they'll realize how serious you are. if you don't have any relatives nearby call a friend with generous parents who will let you stay with them. if all else fails call police.
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i hope it gets better for you. you sound like a sweet person.
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Hey I kinda went through this stuff so its understandable.I think that if you love your sister then when the yelling and braking stops you should go comfort her if shes sad.Thats what I did and just listening to the crying made me feel sad but i know it made her feel alot better that i was on her side.As for your dad i suggest you stay away from him awile because i dont think you wanna be the one to get hurt next it sounds like he has a temper.But if it were me in your room i would stay in there until it dies down because going out there in the middle of a vitios fight my lead them to yelling at you to get back in the room.Or if they see you cry about all the fighting then they will see how much it hurts you when they start fighting.So they will try to stop.Hope i helped!
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ok well ive definetly been in your situation but with my mom and dad instead of my sister.i would sit in my room scared to death while my parents were fighting and my dad would hit my mom.we got counseling and figured out the problem.but since youve already tried that and it obviusly didnt work....i would say talk to your dad and sis.let them know that it really scares you when they fight. and if you ever get really scared take a walk and kool down for awhile.maybe go to a friend that lives close by and ask if you can stay there for an hour or so while there fighting.
hope i helped XoXo
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well i notice you didnt say nothing about your mom so i dont know about that but y dont you go and live with an aunt or another family member that will take you in and love you without yelling.
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<3. Sweetheart..
Thats horrible. && im so so sorry. I would just stay in your room & if you hear hitting & it gets worse I would call the cops. If it settles down I would try to talk to them calmly. Tell them how you feel & how you dont like it. Or I would call a relitive you know & trust or a friend of yours. Maybe they could pick you up && you could stay with them for awhile until everything works out. Good luck babe & I hope everything works out for you. IM me any time at XHC0 Barbi3x. <3 Always, Lauren ♥
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Honey,
if your dad hits you, that's wrong AND against the law. You should tell someone like your mom, an aunt, an uncle, or someone REALLY close to you, an adult. They may be able to do something like seperate you from them for a while. Life at home should be calm and you should WANT to go there. It should be a place where you don't even want to be around! You have to change all that.
Sweetie, the BEST thing I can tell you to do right now is to stay in your room. Stay away from them and wait until their fight is over. Don't come out whatever you do. You could get hurt. If your room is away from where they are fighting, sneak out and grab the phone, unless you already have a phone in your room. Call someone's cell phone to come pick you up, that way they can stay on the phone with you the entire time to make you feel. Pack a bag or something to take with you. Don't worry... stay calm and don't get scared. Let them fight because if you get in the middle of it, you could get seriously hurt.
I'm really sorry this is happening to someone like you, and I hope you can find a way to get away for a while. This is the BEST thing you can do.
I did this a long time ago when I was 7 or 8. My parents were ALWAYS fighting... they got down to hitting each other AND throwing dishes. I was SO scared, I called my grandma to come pick me up because she only lived about 10 minutes away. She came to pick me up and me and my little sister spent the night over there. It helped me be more calm and relax. I was worried about my parents and that they might hit and hurt each other really bad but you have to get THAT off your mind. Let them have their argument/fight. It's the best thing to just NOT get involved in something this serious. They could throw something and it could hit you in the head or something. That kind of thing can cause a concussion or knock you out for 30 minutes. Just avoid them. Email me when you feel like talking to someone and you want to express your feelings to. I'm here for you and I will stay by your side for as long as you need me to. Email me at x_pink_x109@yahoo.com O.K? I check it about every hour on the hour so you will get a reply. Everything is going to work out if you just don't get involved in dangerous situation such like this one.
Email me ANYTIME you want, O.K?
I'm here for you!
Best of luck!
Hope I helped!
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♥ Kayla ♥
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wow i know what your sayin ther was a lot of yelling going on when i was little sometimes it still goes on now when i was like 10 or 11 there use to be god fights and i would run to the bathroom because i was to scared to stop it or if mii cousin and her mom would fight i would hide or go tell all i can say is .....go im a quite place and write poems that always cheered me up like go in ur closet or bathroom just far away from ur dad and sister
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call the cops....they shouldnt be abusing you....its agenst the law and if you think they were hurting eachother well thats bad too...hope i helped bii!
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You need to call the police or call some kind of family services. You should'nt be scared to be in your house. I would call someone immediatly.
-Tiffanie
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The best thing to do is talk to someone you trust and you know can do something. You could also try talking to your sister and dad about how it makes you feel.(That is if they will listen) Sometimes people can surprise you thoug! So go for it! I love feedback!
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this is a tough situation... my advice to you.. is talk to someone that you fully and completely trust... preferably an adult... maybe an aunt or a grandma... if you dont have family you can trust.. then maybe a teacher, or a guidance counseler, or someone like that.. there advice would be better than mine... so thats all i have for ya girl... but you really need 2 get help... talk to someone before things get worse..
IM me if you need 2 talk... lilflirtinhottay
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I think you guys should go back to the counselor. It's important to live in a healthy and secure home because you might pick up what your sister and dad are doing. This is not right, and you need to put an end to this because you can get through to them. You love them both, and it hurts you to see them fighting and behaving like this. Talk to them first to see if they can settle things for your sake, and then get them some help. Make sure the help comes fully through, and doesn't stop. I hope that everything works out for you and I hope I helped. If you have any more questions, You can send me a message or question in my inbox and I would be more than heppy to answer them ASAP!
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Try to calm down.... one thing you dont need right now is to freak out..... Put some music on so it drowns out the noise..... try to talk to some of your friends on here so that will take you mind off the situation (a little bit at least) Then act like you are going to the bathroom or getting a drink and see how things are.... i hope i helped
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Call teen online or hotline numbers you must get help immmediately! Just stay in your room for now calm down and try to relax I know its hard but it is very important. Call this number and stay on the phone until they tell you to stay off the number is 1-800-852-8336 ! If you're in so much danger you could also call 911.Watch out please call the one of the two numbers be very careful keep your door closed until help comes on your way.
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ok,calm down,its okay,i know how you feel! stay in your room till everything is okay,you dont want to go down there and get hurt or yelled at.its really hard but what can you do? there fighting over something obviously.I think you should pray for them and maybe go on the computer to take you mind off of things,go on your faveorite websites,and if you hear you dad or sister comeing maybe turn your lights out for a sec and pretend to be asleep,is your sister like your dad? i think you should leave them both alone,but if things get REALLLY and i mean REALLY bad (like dealing with knives and guns..but that probably wont happen) then call the police,if this happens ofter then just stay out of it
good luck and i really hope they stop fighting!
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Aw. Sweetie. My dad was the same way towards me, because he is an alcoholic. This is a really tough situation because Im sure you love both your dad & your sister. If you really want it to stop, you have to either try and talk to them & tell them how much it hurts you, or talk to a school counselor, or a friends parent. Sometimes its scary because you want it to stop but still be able to see your parent. Try talking to him first and see what his reaction is on that subject. Ask him why he does it, and why he would want to hurt you like that. Your dad may have an anger problem, and may need to see a counselor, or go to anger management classes too. So if after talking to him, nothing is solved, you may have to go to the 2nd step and tell an adult what is going on in your house, because its not fair that you should be part of th at sort of violence. And another thing, its not your fault. =) If you need anything else, dont hesitate to write back to me.
Always,
Tara
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