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cousin
OK my cousin is pretty much a slut. she's 11. she wheres really tight shirts that go up past her bellybutton along with a really short skirt. She wears VERY thick padded bras so she uses a C cup. When someone calls her a slut she giggles and says "nuh uh..!" And I'm gettin sick of it because my friends are like "how does it feel to have an 11 yr old have bigger boobs than you" and honestly i really dont care because im not fake but no one realizes that. and on top or it, she brags about gettin slapped in the ass by other guys and she shaves which i dont think she should be doing when she's 11 even though its not my choice. What can do to help her without gettin her upset??
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you no that there is no good way to tell her to stop but you should try to bring to her easily like just sit her down and tell her that it is not right and then tell her what happens to people when they act that way and if she doesnt respond to that then you should tell an adult b/c that is just not good for her and it is not good for her future
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Why don't you just talk to her because it sounds like shes a prostitute or something but talk to her and tell her how you feel about this. If her parents don't care then they aren't very good parents.If she understands how you feel and wants to willingly stop the madness then take her shopping for some elegant and nice clothes in the mall or somwhere else. But if she doesn't agree with you and wants to stay like a slut then let her, shes gonna waste her life acting like a slut and when she grows up she'll probably be a real one. Best Wishes and Good Luck! Hope she does change!
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Well it's nice that you care and worrie about your cousin, but honestly, Hun.. it's HER life to lead, not yours. If her parents are okay with her dressing in such a way, then I guess that's where it ends. Does she know how you feel about this? Perhaps if you make it clear to her exactly HOW MUCH you fear for her safety and well being, she will hopefully try to dress alittle more conservatively to ease your mind. But if not, I guess you're just going to have to except it. By then, you would have TRIED to change things; you would have TRIED to help her, she would just have none of it. Don't beat yourself up over this; be proud of your attempts.
Hopefully all goes well! =]
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Find friends that are good examples. Show her pictures of celebs in decent clothes. Go shopping for cute, covering clothing. And get her a bra that actually fits right.
Hopefully it is just a phase...
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The thing is if her parents allow her to wear that kind of garbage then she probably won't listen to you (as you have probably discovered).
The only thing I can think of is maybe let your mom know what is being said by your friends about your cousin and maybe having her or your dad talk to her parents. If they honestly don't care then do your best to make her understand that she is on the wrong path. If she doesn't listen then at least you know you tried your best. :)
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my sister is sorta like that she walks around with really short shorts and skirts and she has to show off her belly all the time. she is only ten, and she takes my bras and stuffs them so it looks like they are bigger than they are. we cant find a way to stop her so the only way really is to let her discover that shes a slut for herself. hope i helped.
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Ah.. yeah. I have the same "issue," only it's with my sixteen year old cousin. Though she's older than me, I have the same feelings. When my cousin was fourteen, she lost her virginity to a boyfriend who was abusive. I know she's sixteen adn has a right to dress as she wants, but I have small (6 and 7) year old cousins who look up to my older cousins as role models. My older cousin wears shirts that show more skin than they cover up and shorts that I promise double as underwear cause' they're so small. But I can't change it. Maybe you could just set a very good example? You know, don't wear anything you wouldn't want your cousin to wear, act very self confident (even if you don't feel it) about your figure and clothes. Take your cousin shopping, but insist that she only buy modest clothing. If you can't afford to actually buy the clothes, take her to the stores anyway and try them on. Ignore the clothes that she normally wears, and point out some very nice modest clothes. Show the positive sides, ignore any negative comments she may make. If she has a favorite color, show her that they make T-shirts (MODEST T-shirts) in that color. Hang out with some "cool" people at the movies or bowling or something (a bunch of your friends) and have them all wear something appropriate. If your cousin brings up what she's done with which guy or whatever... just ignore it! The object is to be completely positive about covering up. If you invite her to hang out with people that wear more clothes than she does often enough, she'll feel out of place and wear longer T-shirts, blue jeans and such. I can't promise anything about her "stuffing," but trust that your friends know you aren't a faker. Don't bring it up and specifically ask your friends not to. I understand that your cousin's parents might not care, but do your parents care? Sometimes kids will listen to someone - anyone - besides Mom and Dad. If you could get your mom to talk to her about modest attire, it might help some. That along with positive reenforcement (hanging out with people who wear modest clothes, shopping for modest clothes etc.) should help A LOT. =)
-FunnyCide
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Hey sup? While I was reading your ? I was wondering what her parents think of the situation> I def. know that if I had a daughter I wouldn't let her out of the house wearing practically nothing. If I were you I would maybe confront her about it because she needs to hear the truth sooner or later> If you decide tht you don't want to upset her maybe you should secretly tell her mother and her own mom could talk about the way shes been acting and dressing lately> tht way you wouldn't even be involved. You could also tell her tht it gives you a bad name to be seen w/ her due to her appearance. Good luck w/ everything n I hope it turns out ok> Xo. Rate me!!
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im sorry but i have to say this...
slap your cousin across the face, kick her until shes down, punch her teeth out, kick her ribs and scream "STOP BEING A FUCKING SLUT YOU BITCH!"
ok...now it's time for seriousness..haha.
i seriously think you should hit her. haha. but tell her shes being a slut and you hate it. tell her that shes a retard and if she doesnt stop being a slut, shes gunna be ruined in middle and high school. haha. sorry to be mean but this is what i think. haha. well hope it all works out. if you hate me and rate me a 1, thats ok. i just needed to tell you what i think you should really do! haha. see yaa
*~Julie*~
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tell her what happens to girl in your hs that dress like that...you can make stuff up too. she's 11. wow im sorry but thats insane. wheres the mother? my mom wouldnt let me out of the house like that...EVER! show her how other girls dress at 17...conservative! modesty..set an example too. good luck!! <3
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Your best bet for this situation is to bring your concerns to an adult, preferably your cousin's parents. Ask them to make sure not to let your cousin know that you were the one who brought it up and she won't be able to be mad at you. Her parents will be the ones who can help more than anyone else. If you feel they won't listen to you then by all means tell your parents first and let THEM tell hers.
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I hate it when this is happening to kids younger and younger every day. Have you talked to her about this? What about her parents...they're okay with this? Basically the only thing you can do is make her realize she doesn't need to be doing these things at her age...or maybe even EVER. If she still doesn't listen...you're just going to have to let her learn it the hard way herself. I know, doesn't sound too great, but you've done all you can. At least you tried to help her.
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set her up with a guy and make sure he treats her like shit so she realizes what she's doing to herself( but make sure that the guy doesn't rat you out for telling him to treat her like shit).
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