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ok my mom is WICKED over protective. tonite i wanted to go to this little concert thats going on at 6:30 about 20 minutes away. I asked her if i could go with my older cousin and shes like "well you didnt even tell me what time or where.." and i told her where and shes like "NO WAY" and it seems like she's totally against the people that live there ( even though they arent bad) and plus I was meeting up with some of my friends there. How can i get her to let me go to SOMETHING?? oh yeah..I'm 14
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You don't say what kind of concert but a lot of them really aren't safe for a person your age. My daughter just about got trampled by a crowd at a concert a couple of years ago and she was 25. So, concerts may not be your best bet for moms approval. Why not start with some small event. I don't know for sure what goes on in your area but pick something that's pretty calm. Let he get used to the idea that you want to go places before you spring anything to wild on her. Be sure you give her time you'll be home, who will be there, and ask as far in advance as you can. :)
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try to show her how responsible you can be, clean the house without her telling you to, take care of younger siblings(if any),etc. if you do enough good stuff then she should let you go out more.
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My mom is the same way. Before I go, I tell her all that's going to happen. It also helps if you have a cell phone. You can call your mom every hour or so and tell her where you're going next or if your plans have changed. Just remind her that you're not going to be alone, you'll have all your friends there, too.
♥ Brooke
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yeah my moms over protective too.. Maybe if you told her who was going like a close friend, and their parents said it was okay, and someone has a cell phone with them.. just sit you mom down and ask her why she wont let you do your own thing with your friends, your old enough to be independent, but show her your responsible, like help her around the house.. hope i helped
x33 Kerri
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My mom's the same way... You could probably convince her to let you go if you went in the same car with one of your friends. Like, if she drove you and your friend there and picked you up when the show was over. You might try putting off activites out of town until you get a drivers liscense, though. It's easier to get a ride in town and you don't have to worry about standing there waiting to be picked up for ever and ever.. If you found stuff to do in your town, you could use the argument that mom is no more than 5 minutes drive or a phone call away if you need something. Hope this helps a little.
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Back when I was that age I lived with my grandmother who was the same way. She never let me go anywhere. I found that if I invited a certain friend over often and she got to see that they were a really nice person that I could ask to go places with them and she would usually give in because she wasnt worried about me getting out and getting into trouble. Start for asking to go to small things and show her that you are responsable and eventually she will let you venture farther from home. Shes a parent...she worries....thats all!
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You need to sit her down and talk to her about this, tell her you think she is being overprotective. Tell her your 14 and you are gonna need more freedom to do what you want to do because your old enough to have some more freedom. Also give her lots of reasons to relax the overprotectiveness that she has (positive things that will show her she doesn't need to be so protective). Hope this advice helps and hope she lightens up a bit!
-Ryan
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That sucks that you cant go to the Concert. What i would do is somtime when her mood is good i would sit her down and tell her to give yourself and chance to prove that she can trust you. And if she says no prove her that she can trust you by simpiler things that dont meen as much. Sorry this may be a bit confussing but i hope i helped a little! Good luck!
<3SAm
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well you know moms usually have their reasons...but some can be a little over protective...so try telling her how much that this (little) concert means to you and that you were going with some of your friends and tell her that you'll all stay together and that you're going with an older cousin that might help!!
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Why does she hate the place your going so much? Tell her that you will stay with your older cousin the whole time and be back right after the concert is over.
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