Ok i've bin out with this boy 12 times I really love him and he told me that he wanted kids with me and that he loves me but recently his ex got jealous i bbroke up with him because me and his ex had an argument this caursed all my other mates to fall out with me now he's going back out with his other ex and has recently started being nasty to me I still really love him and can't stop thinking about him also i'm going out with someone else and he's threatened to beat them up if they don't dump me he thinks he can have as many people as he likes but just won't get off my case when I try so the question I want to ask is if you were me what would you do about this boy??? thankyou if you help i'll rate you high if not I won't rate you at all
pinkfairy1773 answered Monday July 25 2005, 5:06 pm: um its clear that you are older then me and you might not want to hear what 14 year old girl say but anyways i will try to help anyways.
(oh by the way i will pretend this is like high school things because these happens more in high school and i can relate to)
First, you should try to get over him because its clear that you love him a lot but He doesnt. so it will only end in bad situation. and its for your own good if you do, then you will meet a new guy who loves you and cares for you.
one who doesnt THREATEN you and such...
second, if he keeps threatening to BEAT up your current, and if HE DOES, then you have EVERY right to go to police about it. and he will go behind the bars and serves him right.
and i am not saying all this will be walk in a park or not hurtful ending, because it might.
but its for your future when you are over that meanie person, then you will meet a sweet guy who loves you and will be head over hills for you.
Sounds good doesnt it?
and another reason, if his violence now, think about how he will be when you guys EVER somehow got together.
so please think about your self and do what is best for you and your future.
karenR answered Sunday July 24 2005, 1:24 am: If he still likes you he sure has a funny way of showing it. I don't really understand why an argument with his ex would make you break up with him. You should break up with him because you don't like him anymore and not over something some ex (who is possibly TRYING to break you up) says. A lot of guys (not all) will use that I want to have kids with you line to get their way. Don't fall for that one in the future.
If you are looking to get him back you are going to have to explain to him the reason you broke up and change whatever behavior brought it on. There is maybe more to it than what you explained but this is all I've got for info given. Hope it helps some. If he still wants to act nasty towards you after the talk then forget him. :) [ karenR's advice column | Ask karenR A Question ]
DaisyDukesGal answered Sunday July 24 2005, 1:08 am: well, this is obviously a big problem....and there are only a few rational ways to solve this. First, decide if you really, really like this guy. Is it worth all the trouble he is causing. I mean....if he really loved you...would he threaten to beat someone up that you really like and be nasty to you! Dont just think because you have been with him for so long that he is the guy for you...you have to really think about what he is putting you through! Next, call him or write him to see if he wants to get together with you for a meal...like lunch or something casual, and just say that you feel you two should just talk. Tell him how you feel, and explain the tension between yourself and his ex.....maybe he will understand. The truth of the matter is....a guy who truley loves you does not want to see you hurt...but give him a chance....maybe you 2 are just better off as friends. I hope all goes well! [ DaisyDukesGal's advice column | Ask DaisyDukesGal A Question ]
Avocodo answered Saturday July 23 2005, 9:41 pm: I think you should move on, it'll be hard but it doesnt sound like you guys were meant to be. I know its hard getting over a guy, but you'll find out that there are other people out there. just try dating other guys and enjoy life. good luck, and remember "no guy is worth crying over, and if he is he wouldnt make you cry" [ Avocodo's advice column | Ask Avocodo A Question ]
Mackenzie answered Saturday July 23 2005, 2:37 pm: I'm sorrie.. this is gonna seem rude, but you must know that I don't mean it this way. But 12 times????? WHAT ARE YOU THINKING??? HOW could you even let that happen!??? 12 times is TOO MANY times!!! Personally, I think the SECOND time is TOO MANY TIMES!! And have kids with some man who has ALREADY threatened to beat someone up who you hold very dear to you?? NOT A GOOD IDEA, Hun... You can do better than this clown, and you know it!! He's OBVIOUSLY NOT a real winner or he would have been able to HOLD ONTO YOU the FIRST TIME..... [ Mackenzie's advice column | Ask Mackenzie A Question ]
babyface answered Saturday July 23 2005, 2:11 pm: Well what i think you should do is go up to the boy and say get of my case i don't need you anymore i have my own man and he is way nicer than you so go fuck someone else fuckin jack ass
clearlypink428 answered Saturday July 23 2005, 1:21 pm: i understand that a guy saying he wants kids with you can mean the world to a girl- but this guy sounds like he was just sweet talking ya, dear. i know it sounds bogus, but its true. also- you obviously felt like you were in love. but i think you were wrong. a person can only fall in love with one person.so, obviously what you guys had wasnt true love. im not saying you dont love him- because i love many people- but im only IN love with one person.thats the way i look at it.and chica, if he's bein nastty to ya- he more than likely doesnt care about you like you deserve to be cared about. forget about him, hon- he's a jerk and a half. hope i helped. much love and good luck. [ clearlypink428's advice column | Ask clearlypink428 A Question ]
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