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i get real frustrated.
sometimes i get real frustrated with my b/f. and i start to hit and throw things i feel that if i dont get my anger under control that i will hurt him one day and it will jeopardize our relationship. how can i get my anger under control?
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You need to walk away or seek anger management counselling. If you hurt him...and that's possible, it will be real embarrassing for him to explain what happened to family and friends. He won't put up with that for long. :)
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When you feel like when you are on the verge of getting angry just walk away from him. Give yourself time to cool down. After you have calmed down think about the problem rationally and how it can be fixed. You obviously show signs of someone with anger management issues. I don't know how old you are, but you could ask your parents if they could take you to see a specialist. Also try doing something that will redirect your attention from being angry. Something like running and excercising. Anger is more of a serious problem than people think it is. Being angry usually means that your feelings are hurt. So you should definately talk to your boyfriend about what could make your relationship with him better. Hope you get better :)
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When you feel yourself getting to the point where you will lose control, get away from him until you can get your temper under control then talk to him calmly about the issue and see if you can come to a compromise on the issue.
It seems to me that you definitely have some issues with anger but you have taken the first step by admitting there's a problem. There's a some great articles on anger and how to manage it at the following sites. I think you'll find them helpful.
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If you find that using these techniques to reduce your anger doesn't work, I would suggest seeking counseling or anger management classes.
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maybe a councler? or tell your boyfriend when you feel like you are going to get mad, then have something that you can do when you know you are going to get mad, like kick a soccer ball or shoot some hoops. or scream into a pillow,ect.
hope that helps!
and truthfully, admiting it and seeking help, are the 2 biggest steps of the process! :) Congratulations!
Best Of LucK!
-SLeK-
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Hey, Go to anger Management Classes, I heard they work really good!!
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you could try going to arger management or get sum counciling du u no the reason why you get angry is there a problem thats geting you down because u could be very dipressed because when im dippressd i become angry like really angry n i take my anger owt either by punching a wall or throwing things round my room and i become angry at the person that has made me dippressd or is the reason i am dipressd so perhaps you have a problem that your just hiding from or if ther eis nothing bothering you then perhaps you just get very stressd and frustrated easily so you should probly get some medication to calm you down abit
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Anger management.. whats your boyfriends name..?so i can look out for him on a milk carton.. ♥ Dez
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this probably sounds lame..but usually it works..sit down in maybe like a chair or on your bed or something and close your eyes and think of something else and just keep your tension under controll by like squeezing a stuffed animal or something like that..instead of throwing it or if you thinkg that your going to throw it when your holding it just make fists with your hands or something just as long as you don't throw anything..and if it gets to you really bad..then i would confront your boyfriend about this or talk to him about why you get frustrated..or else just talk to a counselor..whatever makes you feel better =) hope i helped..if you need anything else just drop one in my inbox! <3Frankie
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before you feel like you are going to lose control or something, take a deep breath. take a moment to realize that you may be angry at the time, but you don't want to do anything while youre angry that might hurt your relationship. i know this sounds so elementary, but "use your words". it works! good luck and i hope i helped!
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my girlfriend told me to think about the consequences before you do something youll regret. if you get angry just sit in a quiet place for a while and get over it.it works for me.hope i helped!haha
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close your eyes count to five and then say in your mind that it doent bother you over and over again .....i know its lame but it works for 54% of people!!!
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It sounds silly, but every time you want to throw something, try and count to ten and calm down. It might not work every time so don't worry if you forget - don't get angry at yourself or you might take it out on your boyfriend. It'll soon become a habit though and will hopefully make you less physically angry!
Good luck :) and can I just say go you for admitting you have a bit of a problem here and for trying to solve it!!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx
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