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help me!
ok !i am having a really bad problem. well me and my boyfriend got into a serious arrgument today. he got mad at me cause he said that i was smiling at his friend. i am like omfg cant i even look at anyone.and on the bus today he broke up with me. then he called me and asked me if i would go back out with him. he apoligized and i said ok. well he called me and talked to me a while ago and i dont even think his sister likes me. so what should i do brake up with him or not? srry for this bein so long.
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Obviously this boy has a problem with security, trust, and jealousy- 3 things that you should be able to control in a HEALTHY relationship. I would break up with him because you can't change a person, especially a guy. He has some issues he needs to work out before taking it a step farther with you. Hope I helped!
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You should break up with him, or it will get worse. Trust me, this happens all the time. It will go in cycles. He will get angry, and later apologize. Then you accept his apology and sooner or later he gets angry again, only this time he is even angrier and soon enough he will start hitting you. He won't allowe you to do anything, go out with any boys, or even go out with your girl friends. And he'll make you wear clothes that completely cover your body, probably, so that other guys don't want you. Believe me, this is a sad and common occurrence. Break up with him now before it gets worse and don't let him back no matter what, he has to learn that no means no.
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Your boyfriend is just jealous, but atleast he was nice enough to apologize. But jealousy sometimes means that one person doesn't trust the other. Without trust, there is no love. And the sister issue..who cares? You aren't dating her, so she doesn't necessarily have to like you. If you're not sure about the relationship..Maybe you should just take a break.
♥ Brooke
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Small amounts of jealousy are normal. Ending a relationship over a smile is not. This kind of jealousy shows that he does not trust you and often times leads to violent behavior, even in people who don't seem prone to it. If there is no trust there is no love. It's a bad situation and I would recommend getting away from it as quickly as you can, at the very least until you can examine the situation more and explain to him that you will not be controlled.
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That sounds pretty rude that he broke up with you just for smiling at his friend. But obviously he likes you or he wouldn't have asked you out again. If his sister doesn't like you, then that's her problem, not yours! If you like the guy, don't break up with him just because she doesn't like you! I mean, sure, it would be a nice way to get back at him since he broke up with you for something stupid, but again, if you like him, don't break up! Best of luck and tell me how it goes! xOxOx
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Wow.. I Think Your Boyfriend's Jealous.. he doesnt even trust you enough to smile at someone.. i think you should talk to him about it .. and you should tell him that you dont think its right he got mad at you for smiling at his friend.. and if he gets mad about it... i would honestly break up with him.. but if he does understand stay with him if you love him.. Hope i helped!!! if you need anything else im me at x2blinnzbabe6x or shawna x3 marie
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ok if your bf cant trust you as much as to smile at someone than you need to talk to him about his trusting you. let him knoe that you have friends and theres no need for him be jealous because you only have feeling for him. hope i helped. i worte that from experience me and my boyfriend had jealosy issues to. vanna :)
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It seems to me your boyfriend is having some jealousy issues. Since he apologized, it seems to me he regrets what he said. If your feelings for him are still the same and you think he's over the jealousy thing, I see no reason why you can't continue dating him. If you're not sure of your feelings or his jealousy has been an on-going thing in your relationship, I would consider either taking a step back to examine the relationship or to get rid of him.
I wouldn't worry about his sister not liking you since you're dating him, not her. Once she realizes you're not out to hurt her brother, she'll probably calm down. Sisters do tend to be pretty protective of their brothers, especially if they're used to having his attention.
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alright forget about the whole rating 5's thing. im just here to help. i DONT think you should brake up with him. give him another chance. just next time you want to look at a guy, make sure you have a girls night out and look at guys all you want. that way no one gets hurt, even if its over something stupid. and about his sister, forget it. does it really madder wat she thinks about you? well, i hope i helped ♥ leah
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all guys are protective like that when you go out with them(if they care about you they will be protective) and you should give him a chance i mean he did apologized and since he did come back to you that means he still does liek you a lot... everyone makes mistakes and he made a mistake and he knows he did and he apologized for it. i would say give it a chacne if you really like this guy you will do it. hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*
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hey every guy does it.no matter who you go out with.if the guy has feelings for you hes gonna be real protective.im the same way and me and my g/f got in arguments about it too.lets just say this he pulled enough courage and balls to call you later that day than he deserves another chance just let him know how you feel and everything should be fine.good luck.
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well i think that you should go back out with him if you care about him and you think that he is truely sorry!!!!
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First off: you shouldn't break up with him because of his sister. That's as bad as him not letting you smile at his mates. (Although I realise there are problems other than his sister).
I think you should wait it out for a little while. He is probably being possesive because he cares about you a lot. It's cute but you shouldn't have to deal with it. Let's hope he's learnt his lesson and will stop it now!! If he is still being all possessive and not even letting you look at people after a week or so, then have a word with him. Tell him that you like him a lot/love him but you can't be with him if he is going to be like this. You are your own person and you can be friends with whoever you want. Don't let him dictate your life and who you smile at. Assure him that you like/love him - he is probably just insecure.
If he is STILL doing it...then I think you need to break up with him. He obviously doesn't trust you and you don't like how he treats you, and that doesn't make for a healthy relationship.
However, this isn't all about him. You're going to have to try and put up with his sister, and make double sure that you don't flirt with anyone. Sure, you can talk to them, and yep it is his problem if he sees that as flirting, but just make sure you definately don't flirt with anyone 'cause that could really hurt your boyfriend.
Good luck!!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx
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You should talk to your boyfriend and he needs to learn to trust you. He's just jealous and deep down he doesn't want to lose you. Remember there might be times your like that to him. Everyone gets jealous so respect each other. Dont worry about if his sister likes you or not because she's not apart of the relationship. Hope this helps!
-Manda
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Well, since it's a little late for this, I would've suggested going on a break. The guy obviously doesn't know what he wants. And since he appears very protective of you, he needs to learn to loosen up and prove to you that he's worthy.
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