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I have had this really good firend for like seven years and we are like sisters. Ive noticed that she never really took a liking to guys and always wondered if she was lesbian or something. She told me just a few weeks ago that she was and that she was sexually attracted to me. I was really confused and disguisted. I dont wanna throw away a seven year friendship...but i dont want my best friend hitting on me.
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<center>Just let her know that you're not interested in that kind of relationship. She should understand. If she's flirting with you or hitting on you, then just back away for a little while until the moment passes. Just talk to her about it.
♥ Maria</center>
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It seems to me there are two things going on here: one, you don't want your friendship to be uncomfortable. Two, you're homophobic.
Now, it's okay to feel confused or scared of things you do not understand. Your friend being a lesbian doesn't make her a different person at all - she still likes the same things on her pizza, still finds the same things funny, and still finds the same things scary.
She's always been gay, so the only thing that has changed is that you now know. She probably really trusts and cares for you to have told you about her sexuality, so be flattered.
Also - be flattered she was attracted to you! It feels good when people like us, but now it's your turn to tell her how you feel.
Namely that you are not attracted to her and that you do not have any interest in dating her. This situation is awkward no matter WHAT the sexuality of people involved, but best friends have gotten through it in the past. It's important that you are both open and honest, and that you both are trying to hear the other side of the story.
Best of luck.
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aww sweetie..what you really need to do is talk. I understand how hard it can be...but you need to tell her that you like guys. that you are straight and you and her will probably never happen. i know it might hurt her a lot but its as hard as you as it is on her. if you guys are real true friends she will understand.
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you have to just talk to her about this.. tell her that you`re not like that, and your looking for guys, not girls.. [say it in the nicest way possible though.] And if all goes well, she should understand and you two will still keep that seven year friendship!
good luck!
xo0x- Kata
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one of my friends is bi so i can relate.. i get disguisted if she looks at me ass when i go get something from the teacher or something like that. what you should do is juss tell her flat out that your not like that... your into guys and not girls. you shouldn't throw away a seven year friendship away because of that. so try and keep it together.. friendships like that are hard 2 find.. `♥//
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If you still want your friendship because you think things will be the same then talk to her and say your off limits or no friendship. If you think that your friendship would be too arkward and not the same then tell her you can continue to be friends because of her feelings towards you.
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you should tell her how you feel. and that you are striaght(if you are ) and tell her dont want to have a realtionship like that with her. the sooner you tell her the fast she will stop likin you like that( hopefuly). hope this helps.
*~Stephanie~*
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hey ive read about these situations in magazines a lot. first of all, shes just sexually attracted to you right? arent you sexually attracted to lots of guys? just because shes attracted to you doesn't mean she wants to hook up with you or anything.
usually, friends are a little weirded out that there bi/gay/lesbian friend might like them but thats usually nothing to worry about (but it is completely understandable).
i wouldnt straight out ask her if shes bi/lesbian because that could be awkward. wait for her to come out to you (if she even is that way anyway). really all you can do is be supportive in that situation and dont turn away from them.
hope this helps- :)
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hey,
i think that you should tell her that you're interested in guys not girls. but since you don't want to throw the relationship away i'd just tell her that you still wanna stay best friends.
~Alyssa
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i can completely understand what your saying..ii think you should tell her that there is no way you two will ever hook up and your just really good friends..things might be weird for now but stick by her ..dont throw away the friendship over this..just tell her exactly how you feel this way she isnt confused and this way she wont hit on you.
i hope what i said helped you out? if not inbox me
-melissa-
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