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shy
16/f
I'm extremely shy, and I've never had a boyfriend, or a kiss. I want a boyfriend.. should I continue to be shy, do guys think it's cute? Or should I push myself to be more outgoing.. but idk how? I try to be myself, but I get so insecure, I always think people are judging me. I've had a few boys ask me out and everything.. but they were all losers, not to be mean or anything. So it's not like i've never had a chance of having a boyfriend. How do I get a decent guy to notice me?
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Don't try to push yourself to be more out-going, being yourself makes you more comfortable than trying to be someone who you aren't. And by calling them losers, you are automatically mean, maybe that's why no other guy has asked you out, because they've seen how you shot down the last one and are also afraid of being shot down.
People *always* judge you, it's human nature, and you can't stop it. But if you are so insecure about yourself, maybe building up your confidence could help with getting yourself a boyfriend (as it seems very important to you) and also give you a boost in the way you talk, making you less self-concious.
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Hang out where the decent guys are. Talk to them. say hi. just make friends like you would if they were a girl. They aren't all that diffrent to talk to. Don't really know if guys like shy better than not.
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Talk to a guy and find out what he likes and flirt a little bit. Some guy'll ask for your number. Don't worry;you'll be getting used for sex in no time kiddo.
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To get a decent guy to notice you, you need to notice them. Start a conversation with them, notice things about him and then when you see them alone or in a line or something start a little conversation. If you really want a good guy then you need to flirt a little too. Just get eye contact, but don't look so hard he'll think your creepy, and never stare until he loks, just glance over and then when you're both looking at each other you smile a little smile (not a big smile with all your teeth just a half smile) and look away. Then you change the way your standing( if you're in a group of friends or you're on the dance floor) and you turn so you're facing the guy and look like you're having a great time. I hope you get your guy.
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I think that you should be outgoing. Being shy isnt that fun and not a lot of people think its cute. Go out with your friends and have fun. No one will be judging you and if they do then they are stupid. Im sure theres nothing wrong with you tho so dont worry but you will find a cute guy. x0
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I understand where your coming from.. my friend Deanna is like that.. um some guys think its cute and others want a more outgoing girl depends on what a guy likes in a personality.. jus keep a good attitude and maybe be a lil more outgoing not saying bein a big loud mouth or something but maybe talk more communicate with people.. or atleast one person or a few not sayin talk to random people like i do.. much luv dez x0x0
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Just be your self, Get a bit more confidence guys like girls that feel good about them selves it make them shine! Take a bunch of friends to the cinema or to the beach and then you will find a guy. Get all dressed up real nice and you be the best one there.
luv roxie
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Put something interesting in hockey tape on the back of your shirt.
For instance. Im a guy so i put
PNK
PRIN
CES
On the back of my shirt in black hockey tape. It was fun.
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Well I'm also extremly shy, and have a hard time around guys and have never had a boyfriend or a kiss either. Personally, I don't think guys are attracted to someone who's going to flirt around everyone (meaning most of the male species).
Just so you know, people aren't judging you. Guys want you to be yourself, and I can tell you know that. So just trust your gut. Even if you haven't found the right guy yet, or even a fairly decent one, just be patient. Your time will come.
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you should act more outgoing, if you want to...who cares what other people think, if they say something let them say it because 9 out of 10, its not true! If you like how you act shy or like ur outgoing self, so be it! do what YOU want to do, not other people
guys like that
Hope i helped,
Sam
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A lot of guys find shy cute, but to an extent. Some guys don't like the "<strong>Wild Let Me Take Off My Shirt</strong>" girls, sometimes they like a more laid back girl. People aren't always going to judge you, and if they always are they have nothing else better to do. Don't worry about others, just be you.
As for the guy to notice you? Be more outgoing. I know this is probably really hard for you, but you've got to try. Try something simple like asking to use a pen, or if they have seen your friend. Something simple like that then they'll know you aren't afraid to talk to them. The next day, try up and just saying Hey or something, don't be scared they don't bite. This will prove to the boy you like that you're confident in yourself. Boys like confidence! ♥ Good luck ;D
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Dear Shy,
there is nothing wrong with being shy. however, maybe you try & talk to the guys you like, even if you don't feel completely confident. maybe even just ask them for a homework assignment, or how to do a math problem. guys probably don't mind you being shy, you just have to show them you are outgoing enough to at least have a conversation with them!
good luck!
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