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Question Posted Thursday February 3 2005, 5:58 pm

Hi.. I dont really know where to start but first off i cut myself... and i do it beacasue my life is so hard.. Many of my family members have died and in January 5th my friend Joe died and he was really specail to me .. and so i took out the blade.. and i started cutting.. and i have lied about me cutting myslef but if i told my mom she would kill me ... most of the time her and i get along but some times we have issues and she yells at me sometimes and it gets me all fired up jus wanting to cry .. and then i have an older brother ((15)) and he hits me sometimes.. and he annoys the crap out of me and that fires me up 2 .. and then i have a little brother ((6)) and he does everyhting in his power to annoy me .. lik for instance hell make faces at me and make nasty commments about me lik how much he hates me and i cant take it anymore.. and so i bring out the siccors and i cut myself.. Now i go to this Christain Youth Center and we talk about god and isssues and just things that come to mind.. and the lady incharge i talk to her about me life and how i feel and i tell her that i cut myself and last week we all got into a discussion about anything we wnated to talk about and then someone starts to talk about Depression and then it gets deeper into cuttin yourself.. and im just sitting there thinkin .. y is she talkin about this ... and it hurts me bad to hear this women say that its stupid to do it and its not right to take it out on myslef.. and so im wondering if i can really talk to her about my life anymore.. but im askin if i should continue doin this if it makes me feel better (( maybe not inside)) but i cant talk to my mom 4 certain reasons so imaskin you people....
Ashley PiNkPrEp092591


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Additional info, added Thursday February 3 2005, 5:59 pm:
I sometimes read books about other peoples life and i understand what they go through and then their life gets better but its just a book and it sometimes cant happen so i wonder if it could ever happen to me....

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sweetypi514 answered Wednesday February 9 2005, 9:19 pm:
get help. i have alot of friend who either cut themselves or have tryed. it doesnt work. it isnt your fault. talk to someone about it....a friend or something. i no this sounds totally cheezy and stuff but it really doesnt help to take it out on yourself. all of my friends who cut have regreted it.

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mellophones_rock_77 answered Sunday February 6 2005, 1:42 pm:
um it sounds like you need some help...try talking to a counselor or a trusted friend or adult. but really help is out there, you just have to be willing to look for it

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Texanchiqita06 answered Saturday February 5 2005, 2:07 am:
Hi sweetie, I know you have heard so many people telling you that cutting is stupid and pointless, but nobody ever says why you shouldn't. Most people will read your question and try to give advice but they have no idea what your going through. I understand though and I want to help you. When I was little my father use to beat me, my mom, and my sister. My parents divorced when I was 6 and since then upto about when I was 9 or so and even now I was seriously depressed. I was a horrible person and a horrible daughter. I hated people and I hated myself. I pushed people away and locked myself in my room. My sister didn't help. She would call me hurtful names and beat me up. I couldn't talk to my mom cause I didn't think she'd understand and didn't care. I started going to therapy when I was 10 and I still go. I tried to commit suicide 3 times and I half cut myself dozens of times. It made me feel a little better cause I hated feeling so bad on the inside I just wanted it to hurt on the outside. I never realized that everytime I cut myself I left visible scars and cuts on my arms, legs, wherever I cut myself. I never really told anyone cause I didn't think people would understand. I started doing really stupid things without thinking. I drank, I smoked, I even stole my moms car. Everytime I did something wrong and screwed up my mom would yell at me and say things that hurt. I hated her more and more everytime. About a month ago I was raped. I never told my mom cause I thought she would flip out on me and kill me. I told a friend what happened and they told a teacher, who told the nurse, who wound up telling my mom. When she confronted me about it I broke down and told her everything. She didn't yell and didn't get angry. She was upset but she told me she loved me and that no matter what I could tell her anything. Sorry it's long but you have to know that your mother loves more than anything. Tell her what your doing to yourself and explain how you feel. Many people have the same problem. But you need to get help. You can't do it on your own. Your mom may be upset that you do this to yourself but she will get you the help you need. I haven't cut myself, tried to commit suicide, and my life isn't great but I have learned to deal with things without abusing myself. If you get upset or angry at your mom or brothers, go into your room (if you can) shut your door, sit on the floor indian style, close your eyes, and breath slowly. Take deep breaths. Meditating will help you to calm yourself so you can deal with your problems with a clear mind. You can use scented candles to relax you also. There are so many ways to deal with emotional everyday life without hurting yourself. I hate that anybody has to go through this, but just remember you are not alone and there are people here who care. If you need to talk, I am here. I pray for you.

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Farren answered Thursday February 3 2005, 11:26 pm:
I agree with your group's counselor person, cutting is useless.
Other than that, you only have to live with your family until you're 18. For now you should focus on your friends and school and just trying to get by.
-Farren

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S_C answered Thursday February 3 2005, 9:00 pm:
Cutting yourself solves nothing. I know because I used to cut, and I've been cut free for like almost 2 weeks, it probably would've been over a month, but something happened, and now it's 2 weeks. Cutting is a really addictive habit, just like alomst any other habit, so it's hard to quit. The first thing I did was go to a teacher. She used to talk about stuff like that in class, and I was like what the crap, I remember one time I almost started crying right in the middle of class. But after a while I found my reason to live, and I found out that the grass really is greener on the other side, and I found the light at the end of my tunnel. Then the light got darker, the grass lightened up, and life sucked. But I just thought about the stuff the teacher and my friends had said to me and I thought well maybe I can get through this on my own. My friends don't know that every once in a while I slip up and I cut. My teacher thinks I haven't cut in over 2 months, boy is that wrong. But you need to try your hardest to find someone to talk to. If you talk to a guidance councilor (I DON'T reccomend) they WILL call home. They say everything is confidential, but if someone is harming you, you're harming yourself, or you're harming someone else then they HAVE to break confidentiality and tell someone. Some teachers will tell guidance or call home, and some teacher and other people will keep your secret and try to help. My friend told me she cut herself, I told the teacher that helped me, but I never actually said the girls name. Talk to one of your youth pastors about it. Ummm, if you want anything feel free to e-mail someone with experience. My life still has a lot of down parts to it, but you have to keep optomistic, and SMILE! Just e-mail or drop one in the inbox for anything. Bull_Dawg_Babii@yahoo.com or Manaic_Munchkin@yahoo.com!! Hope I've helped some. Good luck :-)

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lilchica answered Thursday February 3 2005, 8:25 pm:
i used to cut myself util i found a reason to live,all you need is a reason. but if this continues you need to get professional help.

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Kels answered Thursday February 3 2005, 8:12 pm:
well im always here if you need someone!

dont worry! Pray! It helps so mucH! and when epople are mean just dont believe what they say!

:)

God Bless You!
Always there-
Kels

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americangirl101 answered Thursday February 3 2005, 6:51 pm:
I know life is hard. But you have to hang in there. If your mom will blow if you tell her talk to like one of your friends about it and stuff. If the youth center doesnt really help then you have to diside on the inside if you still want to go. I think you should stop cutting I know that it might make you feel better but it sorta leaves a scare in your heart everytime you do. I think you should defently take away all of your sharp objects and try to kick a soccer ball or scream in a pillow evertime something happens to you if you ever need anything im always listening. <3 American Girl

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sWeeTinnoCenCe0x answered Thursday February 3 2005, 6:32 pm:
Hey I know life is hard right now and cutting yourself mite be the only way you think you can relieve the pain. And i'm not going to tell you to talk to a guidence counselor like every one else does... Yeah i've cut myself few times b4 but i realize that why am i hurting myself over stupid things.? Even though i mite be madd at my parents, friends, life in general..the scars will remain and prove it was real. Sure, when you cut yourself its painful, but then when your done you get this sudden rush and you relize your alive. I see where you're coming from... Stop cutting it just makes things worse... i know you might not wanted to hear that^. Please e-mail me at tequillakissez@yahoo.com you can tell me anything okay? I promise. x0

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WTF answered Thursday February 3 2005, 6:32 pm:
i beg you not to cut yourself, things will be fine eventually, trust me. if you decide to still cut and ignore me, fuck life and cut your throat, and youll regret it when youre bleeding all over the place when its too late.

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