my name is Kristin and I'm a graduating senior this year. I'm getting married in 2 years after I get out of college to my boyfriend Wayne. He just joined the army and is gone for 3 months for basic. I'm a funloving person who gets along with just about everyone. I love music, animals, and art. I'm just a country girl at heart!
E-mail: drkwatrgoddess16@aol.com
Gender: Female
Location: Ft. Worth, Texas
Occupation: student
Age: 17
AIM: drkwatrgoddess16
Member Since: February 5, 2005
Answers: 4
Last Update: August 18, 2007
Visitors: 799
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So I really like this guy that I've been friends practically since we were born. I don't want to ask him out because he's my best friend and I feel like that would really wreck my friendship. My friends decided to be stupid and ask him if he liked me, and he said that he only did as a friend. Unfortunately I still feel really attached to him and I every time I see a cute guy I start comparing him to my friend... I honestly have no idea what to do. I want to stop falling for him but it's difficult. Any ideas? (link)
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well most people can't choose who they fall in love with sweetie. He might not like to admit something like that to your other friends so don't take what he told them to heart. If you really like him then tell him how you feel but express to him that your afraid it might make things weird between you two. Ask him if he feels the same and if he doesn't then as hard as it maybe you should try to focus on another guy.
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im 14/m.
I met this girl and we got to 3rd base on the first day i met her. was that bad if I want to have a meaningful relationship with her that's not all about sex? (link)
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look sweetie most people would say that it's not a good idea to go that far on a first date but honestly if it happens it happens. Some girls are more sensual than others. When I met my fiance for the first time We made out and we both wanted to go all the way but we decided not to but we ended up sleeping in the same bed and the next day...well we ended up having sex cause we were so attracted to each other. Eight months later were getting married and I can't be happier. You can have a wonderful and meaningful relationship with her, not everything is about sex and a relationship should not be based on sex. You have to be able to get along as people and friends and as lovers. If you feel it's going to fast just take it slower. I wish you the best of luck and hope my advice helped a lil.
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I dont know what to do. My mother is literally draining me. It's like everyday its a new arguement, and it's always her starting it. She over reacts, she yells at me for nothing, she accuses me of things, she just makes me feel like such a terrible person. I understand when Im wrong, and I usually try to leave her alone and not bother anyone, but it doesnt matter! I always end up crying at the end of the night. I cant concentrate, I cant handle it. Im verbally abused all the time. It's hurt me in so many ways. I've become meaner, because I try to defend myself. I dont like the nasty words that come out of my mouth, but they just do now. My grades have slipped all the way and Im barely not failing. I want to have a mother/daughter relationship, but she literally won't listen. I ask her to try to listen and after i say something serious like that she hurts my feelings she'll tell me im being dramatic and be rude. its just killing me so much and i cant take it much longer. does anyone have any advice, or something, that can help me in any way? im breaking down right now. (link)
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hunny I'm so sorry you feel so horrible. I understand exactly how you feel. My parents are divorced and me and my mom never really got along, well not since I was 10. We use to fight all the time and I hated it. I would cry myself to sleep after we argued, she would say horrible things about how I stress her out and can do nothing right. She once told me that she had specific way on how I was going to turn out and I ruined it. I was devastated. I know how hard headed moms can be and sometimes they don't like hearing what they are doing wrong. I'm sure she feels just as guilty and hurt but is too scared to admit it. My advice is maybe try going to a counselor. Your grades are being affected by your lack of relationship with your mom. Go to your school counselar or a therapist of some sort and asking them to be a mediator and have your mom come in and you guys talk. It might help to have another person there to keep things from getting out of control. I go to a therapist and she has helped alot with trying to help me and mom mainain a relationship. I wish you the best and try to hang in there.
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Hi.. I dont really know where to start but first off i cut myself... and i do it beacasue my life is so hard.. Many of my family members have died and in January 5th my friend Joe died and he was really specail to me .. and so i took out the blade.. and i started cutting.. and i have lied about me cutting myslef but if i told my mom she would kill me ... most of the time her and i get along but some times we have issues and she yells at me sometimes and it gets me all fired up jus wanting to cry .. and then i have an older brother ((15)) and he hits me sometimes.. and he annoys the crap out of me and that fires me up 2 .. and then i have a little brother ((6)) and he does everyhting in his power to annoy me .. lik for instance hell make faces at me and make nasty commments about me lik how much he hates me and i cant take it anymore.. and so i bring out the siccors and i cut myself.. Now i go to this Christain Youth Center and we talk about god and isssues and just things that come to mind.. and the lady incharge i talk to her about me life and how i feel and i tell her that i cut myself and last week we all got into a discussion about anything we wnated to talk about and then someone starts to talk about Depression and then it gets deeper into cuttin yourself.. and im just sitting there thinkin .. y is she talkin about this ... and it hurts me bad to hear this women say that its stupid to do it and its not right to take it out on myslef.. and so im wondering if i can really talk to her about my life anymore.. but im askin if i should continue doin this if it makes me feel better (( maybe not inside)) but i cant talk to my mom 4 certain reasons so imaskin you people....
Ashley PiNkPrEp092591 (link)
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Hi sweetie, I know you have heard so many people telling you that cutting is stupid and pointless, but nobody ever says why you shouldn't. Most people will read your question and try to give advice but they have no idea what your going through. I understand though and I want to help you. When I was little my father use to beat me, my mom, and my sister. My parents divorced when I was 6 and since then upto about when I was 9 or so and even now I was seriously depressed. I was a horrible person and a horrible daughter. I hated people and I hated myself. I pushed people away and locked myself in my room. My sister didn't help. She would call me hurtful names and beat me up. I couldn't talk to my mom cause I didn't think she'd understand and didn't care. I started going to therapy when I was 10 and I still go. I tried to commit suicide 3 times and I half cut myself dozens of times. It made me feel a little better cause I hated feeling so bad on the inside I just wanted it to hurt on the outside. I never realized that everytime I cut myself I left visible scars and cuts on my arms, legs, wherever I cut myself. I never really told anyone cause I didn't think people would understand. I started doing really stupid things without thinking. I drank, I smoked, I even stole my moms car. Everytime I did something wrong and screwed up my mom would yell at me and say things that hurt. I hated her more and more everytime. About a month ago I was raped. I never told my mom cause I thought she would flip out on me and kill me. I told a friend what happened and they told a teacher, who told the nurse, who wound up telling my mom. When she confronted me about it I broke down and told her everything. She didn't yell and didn't get angry. She was upset but she told me she loved me and that no matter what I could tell her anything. Sorry it's long but you have to know that your mother loves more than anything. Tell her what your doing to yourself and explain how you feel. Many people have the same problem. But you need to get help. You can't do it on your own. Your mom may be upset that you do this to yourself but she will get you the help you need. I haven't cut myself, tried to commit suicide, and my life isn't great but I have learned to deal with things without abusing myself. If you get upset or angry at your mom or brothers, go into your room (if you can) shut your door, sit on the floor indian style, close your eyes, and breath slowly. Take deep breaths. Meditating will help you to calm yourself so you can deal with your problems with a clear mind. You can use scented candles to relax you also. There are so many ways to deal with emotional everyday life without hurting yourself. I hate that anybody has to go through this, but just remember you are not alone and there are people here who care. If you need to talk, I am here. I pray for you.
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