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meaningful relationship
im 14/m.
I met this girl and we got to 3rd base on the first day i met her. was that bad if I want to have a meaningful relationship with her that's not all about sex?
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If you want a meaningful relationship
with someone and not have it be all
about sex, then don't bring sex into
it until you know each other real well.
The very first question you should
ask yourself before having sex with
anyone is...Would I marry her if she
got pregnant? Same for girls by the
way.
Now, I know that may sound stupid.
But in reality when you have sex,
that is the risk you are taking
every time.
If you are asking if she is the girl
for you because she put out so much
on the first date, well, so did you. :)
For some reason girls feel they have to
do it to be accepted a lot of the time.
I don't think you can hold it against
her in this day and age.
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You're 14 and went to 3rd base on the first day you met someone? No offense, but that doesn't sound like the basis of a "meaningful relationship".
First of all, I'd stop going that far with girls you just met. It's really not a healthy habit to pick up at such a young age. To answer your question, yes I think it's bad if you want a meaningful relationship. To have a meaningful relationship, you have to like someone for who they are, and not their body, or the fact that you've had sex already. Do you even know this girl or anything about her?
If not, that's where you should begin if you seek a "meaningful relationship". Start off by getting to know her. Find out what she likes, and the kind of person she is. Talk to her, get to know her, and don't just go right to sleeping with her (which you shouldn't even be doing at 14 in my opinion). Let her know you're into her for more than just sex. Tell her you want a relationship with her. Though, she might not want the same thing, considering how your relationship started.
Anyways, Good Luck!
-Laura. (15-f)
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thats sweet that you want a meaningful relationship =]
ladies like thattt
and also, you can totally have a meaningful relationship with sex and everything
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You can still have a meaningful relationship with her, girls actually tend to feel more attached to guys they've slept with. You're just have to let her know you want her, and as more than a casual relationship. Let her know that you really want to be with her. Maybe you should start over and take things slow, really get to know each other first. You may have slept with her, but you still need to build a relationship with her.
::Jasmine::
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look sweetie most people would say that it's not a good idea to go that far on a first date but honestly if it happens it happens. Some girls are more sensual than others. When I met my fiance for the first time We made out and we both wanted to go all the way but we decided not to but we ended up sleeping in the same bed and the next day...well we ended up having sex cause we were so attracted to each other. Eight months later were getting married and I can't be happier. You can have a wonderful and meaningful relationship with her, not everything is about sex and a relationship should not be based on sex. You have to be able to get along as people and friends and as lovers. If you feel it's going to fast just take it slower. I wish you the best of luck and hope my advice helped a lil.
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I think you could have a meaningful relationship out of a physical one. Girls tend to let physical relationships lead to emotional ones, so if you just tell her you want to start over and want to go slower this time, I think you two could make a meaningful relationship. Hope this helps.
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well...i dont mean to be miss negitive here but the first day, i dont think its good. a good relationship takes time and has to build and have stability. this is just my opinion though. make sure she likes you and i think you should still go for it. you never know what could happen.
good luck though!!
xxx
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