|
Boy trouble
OK, Before me and my boyfriend were going out we were bestfriends. We've been going out for a week and I have realized that I like being just friends with him. I can talk to him better if we were friends. How do I break up with him without hurting our friendship?
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
omg .. happens to me all the time .. =) hopefully i can help, dating yeah it can screw friendships up, but maybe if you're noticing it, he's probably, too. don't just break it off right away, talk to him first. maybe he feels the same way. explain everything and hopefully everything will go back to the way it was before ... its good that you're following your heart because some people dont feel right about things and go along with .. yeah but thats not the point .. talk to him and hell understand. you can also be friends with benefits =)
]
Definately be honest with him. Tell him that even though it is so great being his girlfriend, you really loved being his best friend more. Tell him about the talking to him thing. Mention that you think it is so awesome that you guys can talk so openly together. i hope it works. Goodluck Sweetie!
]
If he is the type of person who will just sit down and talk, tell him you need to have a "heart to heart" talk with him. Let him know what your feelings are and see what he says. It's okay to have those feelings. Sometimes, friendship is a better gift than a loving relationship.
]
just tell him u aren't ready 4 a relationship this time in ur life ... you don't need a boyfriend but u need a friend!! jus' tell him that i bet he will understand!!
*BeSs*
]
You need to break up with him right away... the sooner the better... if you dont like him as a BF & u continue to go out with him... its not fair to u... or him... just let him know how u feel... tell him u liked him better as a friend... & chances are he probably likes u better as a friend too... feelings like this are often mutual...
]
i would just say to him i'm sorry it didn't work out between us and i would feel much better if we were friends is that ok with u?
]
Although it's a "famous line" for girls to use when they break up with a guy, tell him that you feel closer to him as friends. Maybe he feels the same way, after all when you decided to go out with each other, that's when you mutually agreed that there will be risks in doing this b/c it could hurt your friendship. I've been through that without realizing it as well. There is no way to completely not hurt your friendship together by breaking up with him UNLESS he also feels like ya'll were closer before you two started dating. Goodluck!
]
Hi. Really what I think you should do is just tell him straight to his face and say i think i liked it better when we were friends and if he takes it badly and never wants to talk to u again then u know what he's not a true friend. Believe me i have done this before. Now me and him still talk and we are good friends.
]
IF YOU WERE BESTFRIENDS, THEN ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS TELL HIM THAT! IF YOU COULD TELL HIM ANYTHING BEFORE, YOU STILL CAN. JUST BE HONEST WITH HIM, AND TELL HIM THAT YOU NEED HIS FRIENDSHIP MORE THEN YOU NEED A BF AT THIS TIME. DONT ALLOW A GAP TO FORM AFTER YOU TELL HIM THIS, STILL CALL HIM, AS MUCH, IF NOT MORE THEN BEFORE, TO SHOW HIM THAT YOU ARE STILL THERE, AND THAT YOU NEED HIM AS A FRIEND. HE WILL UNDERSTAND, IF YOU JUST KEEP UP THE CLOSE CONTACT WITH HIM. YOUR NOT SO MUCH AS BREAKING UP, YOU ARE JUST NOT GOING TO BE ROMANTICALY INVOLVED. BREAKING UP MEANS TO BE AWAY FROM EACH OTHER. THATS NOT WHAT YOU WANT RIGHT? MAYBE HE FEELS THE SAME WAY, AND DONT KNOW HOW TO TELL YOU. BUT DONT WRITE A NOTE, TELL HIM FACE TO FACE, SO HE KNOWS YOUR NOT JUST BLOWING HIM OFF. IT WILL BE OK
]
hmm...if ya guys r best friends then he shouldnt mind ya wantin to be just friends...tell him how ya feel...maybe even tell him that ya should be friends now rather than wait for sumone to get hurt...I kno it may seem like that would never happen but anything can happen just like that...good luck girl!
-*-Nikki-*-
]
O, I had two of my best friends do that in sixth grade, turns out he felt the same way. So your boyfriend aka "best friend" is probably attracted to you and thought he liked you but really likes you better as a friend. Just tell him the truth, tell him how you feel.
]
since hes ur bf and even ur bestfriend once, im sure he understands ur plight and will still continue to be bestfriends with ya. explain to him why u should rather be friends with him instead of a relationship. make sure he is totally cool about it and try not to go on too harsh. guys are usually scared of rejection. let him cool off and in a few days time, approach him and ask him how he feels about ur decision.
i hope i helped a little and may everything work out between u and ur bestfriend. <3 take care!
]
More Questions: |