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I need relationship help. Please assist any way you can.
I'm 16. I'm having a problem. My current boyfriend Scott is wonderful. He's a good friend of mine and we recently started going out. This monday will be two weeks. Anyways, I'm having problems getting over my ex. (We'll call him ****** okay? I don't want to give his name.)So me and ****** have been friends for a while too. We went out for a while but then we broke up and decided to be friends. The other day he decided to tell me that the only reason he initiated the break-up was because he's afraid that he'll break my heart or hurt me. He could never hurt me in the ways that he thinks he can. But we won't get into that. And he doesn't know I'm not exactly over him. I've told him how I felt during the relationship but I never told him that I still feel that way.
Should I tell him?
What should I do about Scott? (I really don't want to hurt him)
And what am I going to do if Scott and I break up?
-Sam
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Well, you have to choose--Who do you like better? If you like * then go back out with him and tell him you don't care about your reputation. And if you like Scott then stay with him and try to stay away from *. -Hope I helped ya!-
~Ems
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I think u should be honest to your new boyfriend. You should tell him u need time to time about things. And if u love***** go for him. love doesn't alway knock the door. So go for what u want.
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Girl you are in a serious situation, but when you get my age 29 you will see that it isn't that bad, boys come and go out of your life, only the good ones stick around.
Tell Scott that you don't want to get too serious that you just got out of a serious relationship and tell ******* that you don't want to get back with him either and that is because you think tht he lets his rep rule his life and if you take him back that you are going to hear that all the time. There might be another girl in his life and I don't want you to get hurt. I have 3 girls and I know how I am going to be going through this in a few years, and I am not ready but boys if they know that they can hurt you they will. And when they are bored that is when they will call you. Follow your heart and take some of my advice. Your pal Dymond
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Hey sam..wuts really good?...ok here's ma advice to you...you should talk to your ex...about how you feel and let him know wuts going through your head...it would make you and the werid feelings between you and your ex, well better, and probably help you get over your recent relationship, or maybe...make it work again...but remember to always hear his side aswell...don't forget to tell your boyfriend now...he might feel he just being used, or just a rebound if you just jump back to your ex..just like that..you naw mean?..good luck with it..peace
--PinoyBoi
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Well, that's tough. I think that you should stay with Scott until you know for sure that ****** does like you and will date you, because didn't you say that you like Scott? Well, he still likes you! So stay with him until you know more and then if you need anymore advice then leave me mail in my inbox or IM at southernditz69. GOOD LUCK! Hope I helped! -Kayla
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Tell him how u feel.
sry i couldnt be more of a help
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TO: Sam
okay well heres the deal: if you dont wanna hurt scott then ask ****** if he can wait it out a bit...if you reallie wanna be ****** then you had better break up with scott soon...the sooner the better coz then the more time to heal....ya noe?
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I think you should tell your ex that you still have feelings for him or how you feel about him..and you should give you and Scott a chance...I mean if you don't really see yourself being with Scott tell him the truth because if you don't and you just break up with him and he finds out the reason later then he could get mad about it. Who do you see yourself with..which one do you like more..who are you comfortable with? sorry i hope i helped! Good Luck Sam!
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heyy sam! now listen up i am 14 but i give great advice. Now i understand that you feel some relaationship between both of them where its a "little more than friends" kind of thing. Well since your going out with scott but you feel wierd because you still arent over ******. But really if you just keep going out with scott and you still feel like your not over teh other person then your not only hurting youself but your hurting scott just by still going out with him. So my advice to you is to lay low for a little while. Tell scott that you guys are awesome friends and you care about him sooo much and that maybe someday you will be bf/ and gf but for now you need to just hang low and take a break from boyfriends for a while until your ready. And for ****** tell him how you feel but dont go back out with him cuz that would cause more problems wtih scott. Tell ****** that your just going to hang low and practically tell him the same thing you tell scott except make sure you add in when your talking to****** that you still have feelings for him but right now your un sure of youself and you need to hang low for a few days or weeks if nesscery. so take a break from boyfriends!! sometimes they are just oo much, believe me i've been there!! lol...hope i helped...GOOD LUCK!
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I think you should get over your ex. He told you he doesn't want to hurt you, that means that he doesn't trust himself to not hurt you. I know it's hard for you to believe that he would ever do that, but it is entirely possible. Especially since he believes he would do it. I had an ex that told me that once. I did not believe him because he was so sweet and would never do anything wrong. I was completely niave, he ended up hurting me many times.
Him telling you this doesn't mean he wants to get back together with you. Has he shown any interest in getting back together? I don't think you should tell him about how you feel. I know it's hard, but you just have to get over him. Keep your mind on Scott, how nice he is, and all the things that make him better than ****. There has to be at least one thing that makes him better.
This is my opinion of what you've said. I don't know what you mean by "he could never hurt me in the ways that he thinks he can." But I don't think it makes any difference. Your not going to be able to see how someone can hurt you until they actually do it. You might think he's perfect and sweet and wouldn't hurt you, but he obviously thinks he would hurt you, so I would trust him on that.
Just try to get your mind off of having a relationship with him, and just think of your relationship with him as a friendship, nothing more.
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I don't want this to sound harsh, but have you considered the possibility of not being an official couple with either of them, or anyone for that matter? When things get that muddled, when things aren't clear anymore, then it is often the time to step back, get focused, and not worry about the boyfriend/girlfriend crap anymore. Take a break from those kinds of relationships and work more on general friendship. I really think that might be the best option given what you've said.
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