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mom, boyfriend
16-f
My mom and I are really close, and she told me that since I was 16 I could date now. Well I got asked out by this really awesome guy, who I've been friends with for 3 years. And I said yea. Well I told my mom and she freaked. And the reaosn why, is because hes middle eastern. He's not muslim(and even if he was I'd date him), he's not a terroist, his family are not terroists..he just happens to be from Iraq. My mom is saying stuff like "Sure do what you want, get blown up". How can I make her understand that not all people from Iraq are like that!!
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Aright well first of all wat ur mom said was just wrong. But try to sit down with her and tell her that not all of the ppl from Iraq are like that, and if she doesn't wanna understand then just go out with him if u really like him.
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Remind her that there are bad and good people from all over the world. Some people from Iraq are bad and some are good. Its just like America or any other country in the world! Tell her to imagine meeting him if she was blind, and she didn't know he was from Iraq. She wouldn't be able to tell! Who you really are is what you are in the dark. (appearance doesn't matter)
Also tell her to imagine if someone that was Middle Eastern thought all Americans were evil just because Hitler was white. It wouldn't be right that way, so it isn't right this way either. If she imagined herself in his place, she might realize that judging someone before knowing them is wrong.
If she doesn't understand, then ignore her. You have the right to date anyone you want, skin color makes no difference. I hope I helped.
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Your mum's not being reasonable. Try to tell her that he's not a terrorist and that that's just a stupid stereotype held by racists the world over. If she dosen't come around then ignore her.
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Talk to her about him and stuff.
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well im muslim, and we arent terroist ppl who think everyone from middle eastern is a terrioist is just fucked up cuz we arent and either ur mom is like racist or she just doesnt want u datin him cuz hes middle eastern either way its fucked
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Sit your mom down and have a tlak with her about it tell her that this guy is really a good person and you have known him for 3 years. And she has already said you could date and that you would like for her to respect your decisions. And if she doesn't then keep talking to her about and let her meet the guy! :) Hope i helped!!
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This is a great question for me. because I'm from Iraq. I came to america when i was like 2 months old..anyway, your right. Not all people from iraq are terroists. I agree with everyone else, you cant really change her mind. But have him come over so she could see that hes a normal person. Good luck!
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Maybe you should let your mom get to know his family and him before she judges them.She could inivte them over for dinner but if she is afraid to do that then just tell your mom how nice he is and why you like him.If she still doesnt like him then you should tell your mom you need to start making your own desisions and learn from your own mistakes.
GL :)
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Well from seeing everyone else's replies I must agree with the one before me. You're really not going to change your mom's mind about how she feels about things such as that. She likes to stereotype and usually that can be hard to overcome. Sit down with your mom and kind of let her know about what she is saying is childish. From that comment you said your mom has made, it sounded like one of a 5 year old. Sit down with her, let her KNOW that not all people from Iraq are terrorists. Thats like saying all Americans are obese or all Americans are greedy. Thats not true at all. Have a dinner with you, your mom, and your bf and his parents. You let your mom know that she said it was fine for you to date and she didnt put any restrictions on it and its not even her place to tell you who to date. You just follow what you think is right and best wishes to you and your boyfriend. :-)
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Tell her that hes an awsome guy and he wuold never think of hurtin you..tell her to meet his parents if it makes her more comfortable with the fact of them bein good people
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