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my dad and my mom..
when i was in 4th grade my dad came to my school and told me he was leaving forever. My dad is a very abusive person and threatend a lot of stuff on my family. Its been 5 years and hes back. My mom is afraid she wont meet any guys again. So my dad is living at my house and he yells at me a lot when my moms not home. Im scared of him bcuz he might still be abusive. My mom doesnt understand and i dotn know what to do. i get in a fight with him every day. Please help.
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I would personaly talk to a counseler or go to the cops if he is abuseing you pyhsicly or even mentally or work out a plan like when your mom goes to work you can go to a friends house or go to another ralitive until she. I hope my advice will help you out a lil but avoid him as much as possible until you turn 18
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Well I would report that because he may someday just totally flip a duck and hurt you or a family member-trix
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You should notify a teacher and/or school counselor immediately. This is a very serious situation and your mom may not be thinking straight.
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u got to tell ur mom he cood hurt u badly.of he tris to hurt u then call the cops and he cood get arrested.he has to get help.tell ur mom to call the cops or sumone to help u.
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tell someone you need to get it out that u are uncomfortable in ur our house. Your mother should be more understanding take her and make her listen to everything you have to say u shouldn't have to deal with it
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well u need to tell ur mom that ur frekin serious and if she doesn't belivie u than go and tell ur grandma or unclr or aunt or someone okay?
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well in 2 or 3 weeks when skool starts up again, unless u live sumwhere like up north when it starts in september, then go see ur skool counsiler
tell her your afraid to be at home because your dad is abusive, or your scared that he mite pick up his old ways and beat you or sumthin like that
or you can call up a grand parent or an aunt and/or uncle and see if u can stay with them
or if u have friends that would let u stay
(i have friends that have stayed with other friends for yrs at a tyme)
Good Luck, and I'm Sorry that this is happenin to you!!
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i'm so sorry. try to avoid him. and remember- dont be afraid to call the cops if you need them. they are here to help you. best wishes , and please send me a message or im me if you need more help!
xox-- Kristen
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Most women stay in abusive relationships because they feel they diserve it, or feel they cannot do any better, therefore I don't think that directly talking to your mom will do any good at first, beacuse this probably seems right to her. My suggestion is similar to the others, contact a counsler of some kind, and try to let them understand the severity of the situation. Do your best to get your mother to your school or a counsling ofice to have a meeting with the three of you (the counsler, your mother, and you). If you can't get her out of the house without your father's knowing then do Everything you can to get the both of you to a counsler, including lie to him. The reason for this is that usually adults will not listen to children, they need the opinion of a responsible adult, and if she doesn't get that I promise you the situation will progress and become physically abusive.
I have been dealing with abusive family situations for quite some time now, and have lived in them, and this has Always been the best solution. Until you can do this, STEER CLEAR of your father, and let him win arguments in as gentle a way as possible.
Also remember, this has nothing to do with you, both your father and your mother have serious functionality issues, and that is NOT your fault.
Please, for your sake, get an adult to privately talk to your mom.
If you want, IM me, and I will look up abuse counslers in your state. You may feel very scared and as though nothing will help, but trying is absolutely necessary.
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u should talk to someone about this nd tell them about how hes bothering u and u are afraid of him. u should tell someone u trust nd believe will help u out. hope i helped and i hope things get better for u
~Keryn
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im very sorry to hear that but i think that u should stay away from him as much as u can until he gets some help! u need to talk to someone other than ur mom about this...mayb grandmother aunt or whatever! but if u talk to someone about the situation mayb they can get him some help n u will b happy in the comfort of ur own home AND ur dad again! hope everything gets better! tell me how it goes! good luck! -angie
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TO: my dad and my mom..
i think thah you mite wanna just stay clear of him fer a wile and tell your mom wats going on...i mean you wouldnt wanna wait and find out if hes still abusive er not...the sooner you talk to your mom about it and make her understand thah your definitely not comfortable with you dad and thah you fite with him and things are just not good between you two the better...you wouldnt want to turn yelling at each other into sumthin worse..ya noe
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Tell your mom, you may not think she understands but she too suffered that mans abuse at one time too, so she probably understands better than anyone else. She probably thinks hes changed, but abusive people never really change, they will always be that way. Tell your mom you are afraid. If she still doesn't understand than tell another family member, like a sibling of your mothers who you trust or a grandparent (preferably one of your moms parents).
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hey.. im sorry you have 2 go threw this stuff.. but thers always a way 2 work this out. you have 2 tell your mom tht he yells at you and she can handel it or you can try talking to an adult tht is closer to you and knows about your past. you can even try talking to your father about it. hopefully i could help if you need me im- me [[paradiisex019]]
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00ok im really sry 4 wat you r goin through! All there really is,is sit ur mom down n tell her wats goin on n tell her how u feel about him. Also go sumwhere to lyke your friends house or tha park. Sumwhere away from ur house.
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I'm really sorry about all of that, it's not a fun situation to be in =/. I guess, when your mom's not home, try to get to a friend's house or go to a park or somewhere, just to get out of the house. If that's not possible, just go in your room + close the door, and hopefully he'll leave you alone. Good luck!
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Tell your mom.. explain to her what your going through so you have some support cuz that's what you need! Rate me plz and hope everything works out xoxox love ya!
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