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What should I do?
Okay my boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months now. One of his really good friends is a girl and she and I don't get along. I dislike her because she has talked trash about him behind his back early on in our relationship telling me that I shouldn't like him, that he's a horrible person and he's a bad kisser and all this mean stuff. She used the fact that she dated hima s an excuse as well. She and I never were really good friends but she and he always have be like good friends. I now realize how hard it is for him. Because we dont like each other. He's told me how she'd make a comment when he would say he was with me or something about me and sometimes I'll admit I would roll my eyes and maybe make a comment when he talked about her. I've realized this is hard for him. I'm not sure if I want to be her friend but I do want to make things easier for him and easier for our relationship because at one point this situationw as a big factor and reason for our fights. And after our last big fight it came up again after it wasnt for like 2 months. I don't know if I should set aside my differences with her or if I should just ignore it? help please!
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Hey hunny I think you should fa sho talk to him and tell him what she was saying and if he doesnt believe you then you need to sit them both down she cant lie to him when you are sitting right there and know the whole truth. Also you should talk to him and tell him how much you don't want it to end because of a girl and even if its your bestfriend tell him that maybe you guys should nit all hang out and it should be you and him and her and him not all together. sorry if this is really cofusing it understand and if it doesnt help but if it does I am really glad and hope everything works out!
*~*Crystal*~*
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Ok no matter what you wont be able to ignore her and maybe shes kind of out to make you jealous or piss you off, a lot of girls are like that. But I think you 3 should talk online in like a chat or all go to someones house and just let each other know that its hard on all the relationships. and he should lay down the law as a friend to her that she shouldnt be trash talking you to him. Let her know that you dont have a problem with her and you want to set aside your differences and clear things up. If she is a good enough friend to him she will step back and realize that shes blowing it out of porpotion *Sorry cant spell worth beans!* he does need to let her know about his feelings and how its putting him into a hard situation because he likes you and has been dating you for a long time and hes good friends with her and you both dont like him. If shes a good friend she'll try and clear things up with you and stop being a total bitch about things, and you'll try and stand her... Good luck with everything and i hope it all works out for the best!!!
-Holly-
Hope I helped
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I think you should talk to her about how hard this is for your guy. You want to fix it, and suggest that maybe you could agree to disagree, or just not be mean at each other...
Give it a shot, though. Try to talk things out and find out exactly why you two have these differences. Clear it up - it'll help everything, I think. Good luck!
-Siren =)
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Well i would try and talk it out with her as hard as it may be because you dont want things to be hard on your bf by any means so try and work things out with her and tell him what you think and hopefully everything will turn out fine. Tell her you know that you and her have your differences you just dont understand why you guys cant be friends in the first place. And it would make things to so much easier then bickering back and forth and talking behind each others backs. As for your boyfriend everytime one of you make a mean comment about each other he should stick up for you guys and back you up and not tell each other what the one other said. I guess yeah its a good part on your behalf but if he tells her what you say that only makes matters worse-trix
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Same thing happened to me. And actually it was before me and my Baybi James went out. See me And Josh this other boy went out and James always flirted with me and I did back..And Josh told my parents James talked about me and stuff because he didnt like James likin me..And ever since then..Me n Josh worked it out and decided to be friends..So you should tell him str8 up that she was talkin trash..And stuff...
-Stephanie
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hi, well i think that you should tell ur baby boy why u dont like her...you should talk to him n tell him that b4 she use to tell u how much she desliked him n how horrible person he was...n from that moment on u just didnt click wit her...see wut he is gonna say bout that...also tell him not to tell his friend b/c u dont want them to ruin their friendship...i think he'll understand better y u dont like her as much as he does...(as a friend) bout his friend just try to ignore her and avoid her as much as possible...(not in a mean way though)...i hope i helped this is a hard case i would feel confused if i was in ur shoes 2 =/...xoxo effy
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Alrighty. What I would do is try talking to your boyfriend and tell him why you don't like his friend. Try to tell him the things she has said about him in the past. Try not to be so harsh on it though because it may be hard for him to hear all the things she is saying about him behind his back. Then he might understand why you act the way you do. And when you are around him and he brings her up, try to hear what he is trying to say. Don't show any "bad" signs that you don't like what he is talking about. With his friend you might want to talk to her about the way she acts too. It sounds to me as if she is still in love with him and she just wants you to break up with him so that she can have him back all to herself. Good Luck!!
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