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Step Dad
Ok well my parents divorced when I was only 2 years old. I don't see my real dad a lot. Maybe once a year at the most. My mom remarried and has been with this guy (my new step-dad) for about 12 years. He is never nice to me and I don't know how to act around him. At points he is very nice and I can get along with him really well. Other times I think about running away and just never coming back to him. I don't know what I should do to tell him that I need him to be nicer to me and to stop favoring my two little brothers who are his and my mom's children. HELP ME!!
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well one reason he is mean to you is because your not his child and he dosent know how to react around you so thats one reason
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I am very sorry about your parents divorce. My mother was also remarried but my father had died when I was seven. Never run away it is the worst thing to do. have a nice talk with your mother and step-dad and tell them how you feel and would like to be treated. Or you can talk to just one of them ,but it would be best if you talk to both so they both know whats going on. Act normal when your around him and if he can't exept you for who you are then just talk to your mom about that one. It took me a couple of years to get used to him but know I love him and he loves me. I hope it works out for you like it did for me. If you need more advice go to my column.
Hope it helps! Sincerely,
**Bridgette**
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You can either try talking to your mom first and telling her how you feel or telling your step-dad how you feel. Or you can sit both of them down because then you're mom will be right there next to you. Just tell him how you feel, that you don't like how you get treated, that you like it when you two get along you don't like it when he's not nice to you and that you just want to be treated equally to your two brothers. Just tell him stuff like that and how you feel.
xoxo Kourtney
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u need to talk to ur mom! she can tlak to ur step dad and she can tell him to try to be nice to u! please dont run away...its not going to solve ne thing...its just goning to make ur step dad pissed off! hope i helped!
~jen~
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omg so sorry hunn!
That sounds like a sticky (and sad) situation=( My friend had the same problem, but hers was that her father only liked her wife, and hated the kids (he didnt talk to them or even aknowledge their precence) Well, you need to talk to your step-father, see what you can work out. find out what makes him tick, are you a wild child? maybe he wasnt too happy when you cracked your moms vase running through the house, whatever the matter, there's a reason, maybe even his past! like i said, talking is the key to finding out about and how ot change your stepdad. maybe he feels offended because you were born from your real father, and ur brothers werent. When you do talk tho, DON'T b a smartass. thisll make the situation worser.
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Tell him you know that your not his but you would like to be treated just as your 2 lil brothers because thats not something that you wanted to be treated differently-trix
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<span style="background: url([Link](Mouse over link to see full location); Aw babe, if there is a time when as you said " I don't know how to act around him" you are probably insecure. So, it's been 12 years and you feel uncomfortable around him? That's not so good. If I were you I would talk to both your mother and him. You don't want to feel insecure at home, that's unhealthy. And it's good to have a bond with your parents and family. You could start out by telling your step dad that you think that you don't please him but you would like to. And ask if you did anything wrong and maybe you two can talk some things out. Tell him you would rather have more of the good times when you can get along with him. He could also be stressed. If he is a hard working guy, he probably has a lot going on at a short period of time. But maybe if you told him these things and that since he already knows his kids well, he should get to spend some free time with you. Then you can talk to him and try to sort things out. I hope all turns out well! Love you! -Mandee</span>
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You shouldnt run away because thats leaves you all alone and Guys and people these days dont think about there actions they just do what they do. So running away isnt a good idea. You should like Effy said talk to your mom and tell her how you feel!
-Stephanie
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hi, well i see that ur going through something tough there...i'm sorry...well, wut i think is that the idea of running away is not so good...b/c if u run away anything could happen...u can even get raped from someone for gods sake...u never know...so i wouldnt recomend that...wut i would recoman to you is to talk to your mom n tell her how u feel...tell her that sometimes he is not so nice to you...n tell her that you want to get along but u cant see anyway how?!?! tell her that sometimes you feel left out b/c he favors ur 2 lil brothers but not u! so my advice to u is talk to your mom n tell her how u feel...i bet ur mom will talk to him n things will change ;) xoxo effy *best wishes*
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I think you need to speak with your mother about this. There is always hope that your step dad can change. You should talk to your mom first because she knows your step dad the very best and can let you know the kind of reaction he might have, she also might know how to help the situation. If you dont want to talk to your mom about it then go straight to your step dad. Be serious and tell him that the way he treats you sometimes really hurts you.
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