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annoying friend
My friend is really annoying. She's always complaining about everything. Her grandma spoils her rotten, so I know her life is not that bad. I want to tell her o shut up, but I don't want to hurt her feelings. What should I do?
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i think you should sit down and talk to her about it
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yes my daughter is this way she complains all the time she is 16 and spolied rotten by grandparents they do everything for her you just have to wait til they fall flat on their faces and it will happen one day i hope you get to see it take care be patient with your friend as i am with my daughter
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First and foremost, I'd have to ask myself if this person is really a "Friend". I know friends can have their moments, and if she is a true friend perhaps letting her know in a respectful way that she is annoying you would be a good idea. If she isn't a "true" friend, I'd sorta keep my distance and possibly let her know that you find her somewhat annoying (respectfully) and that you don't need a friend like that. We do have a right to choose who are friends are...and we are who we associate with.
Secondly, I'd ask myself why it is I find her annoying...you mentioned her grandma spoils her...perhaps, in all honesty, you are feeling a little envious or jealous? If you are, that's ok. Everyone gets those feelings. Maybe letting her know this could not only stop her from annoying you, but might help you understand your own feelings and why you feel them a little better.
Hope it helps...
Remember...when we point a finger at another person, there are still 3 fingers pointing back at us...perhaps understanding ourselves better can help us deal with the annoying things in others. :)
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Well friends should be able to tell each other anything. And just tell her that she is getting annoying, not that she is annoying
Cspinoza1
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ouch that must be very hard. i think that you should go talk to her and tell her how you feel, she may not realize how annoying she is being. let her know that you aren't going to put up with this and if she continues to do it, you'll move on. and stay to your word
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If you find something that's worst than what she complains about, tell it to her after she finishes.
Or just tell her there are worse things and that she should think about it before she complains about whatever she complains about.
Tell her that it irks you and that she should cut back a little.
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I had a situation like that a while back. I just said "lets compare, shall we?" then go through a list of things that happen in your life that are bad and things in her life that are bad.
if she's that spoiled, your list will be 20 times longer. if theyre the same length, then I suppose the Freud principle is at work here.
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Just sit down and talk to her. Be nice and say something like, "I think you need to stop complaining about everything. Your grandmother treats you good and you have everythign you want. So instead of complaining, lets go down to the [homeless center, Old peoples' place, etc.] and help the less fortunete."
So be gentle.
*Annoying people...sometimes you wanna shoot them*
Abby
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I suggest talking to your friend in a nice way. When she starts complaining, start off light. Tell her that it's not as bad as she thinks, that she's got it good compared to some people. Understand that there may be a deeper problem she can't admit to, and she might be complaining about the superficial things because she can't deal with the larger problem.
Also, some people are just like that. I suggest you just talking to her about it. Tell her that she is complaining too much, and though you care about her as a friend, she is really bringing you down, and you feel she's taking advantage of your friendship. It might not hurt to tell her you need some breathing room. Hang out with your other friends some more, and she might come around.
~AlexiaJayn
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