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Orlando
I like this kid named Orlando...I just look at him and I melt. But the thing is, I've never ever talked to him before, and he's never talked to me before and I'm so confused because I don't think it's just a crush, and he is just so cute and funny from what I've seen from him.
In the beginning of the day at school all the students have to go into the cafeteria because classes didn't start yet...and usually I walk in and only him and his friend are there and he looks at who came into the caferteria and I feel like I'm gonna trip or something because his stare catches me off guard....
As you can tell...I like this kid, and my mom works for the Board Of Ed in that particular city, and she lets me do some extra help with her work and she pays me for it. Well, since he goes to the school in the city my mom works for, one day when i was doing a job I came across his address. So my question is, do you think it would be like I'm stalking him or something if I write him a letter just saying how I felt about it...because I'm only going to write it when this school year is over so if anything happens I'm not there. (I know..but I'm shy and I feel like this is the only way I could do it) If I explain to him in the letter that I'm that girl (because he's seen me before, and noticed me) then do you think this is a good idea? Please help me...I really want him to know, but I'm extremely shy.
I'm very sorry for the length, but Im desperate.
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I know this is going to be hard, but I would suggest you try and talk to him instead of writing a letter. The fact that you make use of something so personal as someone's address without their permission COULD give him the worng impression. You asked if it would be "like stalking". That tells you that if YOU could think that way, then maybe he could, as well. Talking to him may have to be something you may have to work up to, and that's understandable. But, keep in mind that you don't have to tell him your feelings right away. Why don't you try to ask his opinion on something or simply ask him to help you do something and let it go from there. You might find that the conversation flows alot easier than you thought. Good luck. It's going to be hard, but I think you can....and will do it.
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Do you know much about him? Find out about the guy first. Maybe if one of your friend's is friend's with him, she could casualy slip you into conversation, or introduce you. Maybe you could even persuade her to invite you all to a group outing. Take the chance to talk with him, get to know him. I would say, no, don't send him a letter. He would probably be a little creeped out or feel tricked or something.
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I think it would be better for both you and this boy for you to just introduce yourself in person. In the movies a letter would be a romantic way to introduce yourself, but in reality he'd more likely be weirded out. There's also an issue about taking confidential information (this boy's address) from the workplace. I highly doubt anything would come of it in this situation, but it's not something I'd encourage as it could technically get either you or your mother in trouble if the boy or his parents complained he was being harassed. It's tempting, I know, because it seems like the easy option, but the chances of it working out as you'd like are very low. You are much more likely to make a favourable impression just by smiling at him and saying hi one day in the cafeteria. As hard as that might sound, there are very few things that can go wrong with it. Good luck. :)
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Ok... thats coming off a bit creepy. He will definitely wonder where you got his address from and it would probably be 600 times better if you simply approached him. Clearly you are shy but if you really believe he is worth it then you will work up the courage.
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Well, I can't honestly say that I agree with you about this not being a crush. I mean, you've never talked to him. You've just observed him. He could be a real ass. And you know that saying, "You shouldn't judge a book by its cover." I think that fits well here. Have you tried making eye contact? Or smiling at him? I would do that first. I mean, if he's watched you walk into your cafeteria, then he's definently noticing you. But, anywho..start out small. And I wouldn't write him a letter and send it to his house. That's way to corny, and if I were you, I wouldn't want to take the chance of coming off as crazy. Try making small talk. I know that seems stupid, but saying "Hi" when you pass him will get you far. And if you really feel the need to write him a letter, put it in his locker or somewhere in school where he can get it. I would NOT give it to a friend to give to him, though. That to me, would just seem so juvenile. Good luck!!
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Ok, you might just be infatuated. But if you truly think there is something there, send him a little secret admirer note, but one thing, don't tell him who you are and try to catch him while he's reading it, look at his face, see if he appreciates what you like, get a friend to be over his house when he receives the mail and have them tell you his reaction. Good Luck hon
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Writing a letter wouldnt be like staliking, but he may think your totally crazy. Writing a letter to him will make him wonder how you got his adress and he may think you are stalking him. After he reads a letter writen from someone he doesnt even know will also freak him out. Just try to get to know him without expressing your feelings. Like when you go to the cafeteria sit by him and say, "Can I sit here I hate to sit alone". Then talk to him!
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dont worry about the length, its the most interesting thing ive read so far. first, im not sure you know that you like him if you never spoke to him, but if you really think you do, dont write yet. i bet he would think it would be kind of strange if he got a letter from a girl he never talked to. Strike up a conversation with him and after a while, tell him how you feel. Im ssoooooooooooooo sorry if this doesnt work for you, but it probably will. Hope it does! GL!
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Well to begin with, what makes you think this is more then just a crush? It could possibly be just major infatuation (trust me, happened to me a lot lol). But anyway, if only his friend and he are sitting at a table in the morning, why not just walk up and start a conversation? Get over your fear of being shy! What could happen if you do that? His friend will make fun of you? For what? Liking some guy? Everyone likes someone else, so there's nothing to worry about there. Find his locker number and slip him a note, but maybe mailing him might go a little bit too far, because if you do he might think you're some type of stalker and be really scared of you. So I suggest just introducing yourself either by A) walking up to him or B) slip a note in his locker. Or my favorite! Drop your books infront of him "accidentally" *wink wink* to see if he picks them up for you, then start a conversation from there like "Thank you so much!! I can be so stupid sometimes" Then be like "By the way, my name is..." and introduce yourself that way! Good Luck! :)
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Why not write a letter and put it in his locker or something, sending to his house might freak him out a bit...you could also try and talk to him... you never know he could be a real jerk... trying to actually get to know him before you tell him you like him might be a good idea... but really mailing him is not a good idea...
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