Hey. I'm Amanda. I like giving advice about anything I can. If I think you're asking something ridiculous, I'll tell you. But, even though I think you're a moron, I'll try to give you good advice. Anywho, I'm under a lot of stress right now, and I think helping other people and realizing I'm not the only one with problems is helping some. So, please feel free to ask me for advice. I'll try to respond nicely and sarcasm free, but I wouldn't hold your breath.
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I'm 5'8, blonde hair, green eyes. I'm usually on the high honor roll, although math sometimes prevents it. I'm a Junior. Uh..I haven't gotten my license yet, because of parallel parking. Curse it. Um, and I love Pandas. I don't eat them. It was just an inside joke last year (Pandabalism, I mean.) Alright, that's enough of this. Now..go, scamper, type. I want to read your problems and try to help you. And maybe even laugh my ass off at the same time. Har har.
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my ex bf has a gf now. but he has recently agreed with my friend that i am beautiful (he didnt even say that when we were going out) and he ends emails with luv ya. and he sent me a lovesick smiley. i am sure he likes me but i dont wanna break up his gf and him. and his sister is gonna kill me if i go back out with him. she thinks im gonna cry over him. even though i havnt cried over him the last 2 times he broke up with me. but i still really really like him. i dont know what to do! what do u think? (link)
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Well, if you really like him, date him. You've dated him before, and should know what to expect. But, I would be aware of the fact, that you shouldn't get too attatched. Besides, if you do, you might make him feel like he's being suffocated, and he might break up with you. I guess, you could sort of play hard to get. That way, you don't find your life is revolving around him, and he'll feel like you're somewhat of a challenge. And, who knows, he might like that.
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I will try it. I think the way they treat me has become a habit, and they just don't realise it. I've talked to my friends about this, and they basically said the same thing. "Stand up for yourself." "Make them listen to you." I think I kind of got used to being bullied when I was younger because I was shy and got picked on at school, so being picked on by my family just added to my low self-esteem. I'm kinda over that now, but not completely. Their opinion of me still means a lot to me. As for fat-cat, she has some serious issues. I don't take attempting suicide lightly. She may have just said that to be dramatic, but I answered her question out of concern, and it kind of offended me for her to reply to mine like she did. But maybe she didn't realize I was the one who answered hers, or hadn't read it yet. I told her that even if her question had been long, I would've still answered her, and that when she was older, she would understand. I told her I had faith that someone would answer me, and then you did. Thanks again for being so caring. I'll let you know how I'm doing. Peace. (link)
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You're quite welcome. I imagine fatcat as being a 12 year old little girl, and doesn't know what she's talking about. Best of luck with your problem. :)
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At school no guy likes me!!every time i ask one out they say no .what do i do??
please help
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You seem like me when I was in 7th grade. I bet you're really insecure, too. Ok, but here's what I think...and well, what I know and have experienced...you can't love someone else, until you love yourself. And maybe love it too strong of a word, so replace that with happy. You can't make someone else happy, until you are. And, guys like happy, self confident girls. So, learn to be happy with yourself, and not so obsessed with finding a boyfriend. I'm pretty sure the obsessiveness scares them. Have fun with your friends, and live life. Guys will start coming around when you're really ready for them, to. Good luck.
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I have this friend. Well, he's not exactly my friend, but we hang out at school and stuff. Awhile back, I used to like him and I told some people. One day, someone told him. Then he started avoiding me. Now he's talking to me, like all the time. He always wants my advice on something and always sticks up for me. Does anyone know why he's acting like this?
Thanks!
Confused (link)
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Hey! You know what? I had this problem before. A lot of people told me they thought the guy liked me. I never asked him if he did, because at the time I wasn't interested. But, if you are, I say talk to him about it. Cause, it sounds like he likes you. Good luck.
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I have been struggling with this issue for years, especially with my parents and sister. I am an adult now, married, with one child, and I still feel I'm treated as if I'm a "second-class citizen" by my immediate family and my in-laws as well. I still don't know if it's something about me that makes people treat me differently, or if it's "their problem. " Basically, I feel misunderstood and disrespected. For example, someone in my family accuses me of some doing something wrong, let's say "insulting them" and I'm 100% positive I did no such thing, or that they took something I said the wrong way, and I try to explain my side of it, but the more I try to explain, the angrier they get because they just don't seem to care about the truth and want to go on thinking "wrong" about me, and they just don't respect me enough to listen to anything I have to say. Well, that's how it feels to me. If the shoe were on the other foot, and I thought someone did something wrong to me, and they tried to explain to me that they didn't I would at least have the decency to hear them out, especially my own family. Does any of this makes sense? Basically, I feel like the rules of common courtesy apply to everyone else but me in the eyes of my family. They are constantly hurting me and half the time they don't even realise it, or if they do, they dismiss my feelings as insignificant because they think I am too sensitive. I don't think so. Why do I feel like an outsider in my own family? Why can't they respect my feelings and points of view, even if they don't agree with them. I am constantly told things like "That's enough, " "I don't care" "I don't want to hear it, " or just plain "Shut up!" Is that the way to talk to a grown adult, or anybody for that matter? Let alone someone in your own family that you are supposed to love and care about? If a stranger treated me this way, I would be ofended, but it hurts a lot more coming from someone in your own family. Is there anything that I can do to get more respect from my family? I try to stand up for myself, but they don't "let" me. They snap at me if I ever say anything in my defense or tell them they are being rude, which I don't hesitate to do. I'm fed up, and I don't want to have this tension between me and my family anymore. I almost dread family get-togethers anymore, because I'm afraid someone is going to treat me bad in front of all my other relatives, and I won't be able to truly enjoy myself because I'll be dwelling on it the whole time. Can anybody relate to this at all? I know I can't be the only one, but sometimes I feel that way. Does anybody ever watch "Everybody loves Raymond?" Well, sometimes I feel like Raymond's brother Robert, and my sister is like Raymond. She is the one with the interesting career and is more financially sucessful, so I feel sometimes, she is the "favorite" and I am looked at as "the baby". (Even though I was the first to get married and have a child.) Well, feel free to offer any advice you can. I'm really hoping someone has some insight they can share. Thanks in advance. :-) (link)
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First of all..What the hell fatcat or whatever your thing is? Grow up. This woman has come to this website for help with a problem, that for once isn't about sex or some stupid boyfriend. I applaud her. Anywho, the only advice I can give is, to try and talk to your family. My guess is, they think that it doesn't really bother you as much as it does. And, they don't even realize what they say or do affects you that much. It tends to happen because, everyone has their own seperate lives and they get wrapped up in their own problems and feelings and emotions. I would try to shrugg a lot of it off as well. Don't take things so seriously. Try to be as neutral as possible. When something they say or do upsets you, just remind yourself that you are a good person and they love you very much, they're just consumed with their own thoughts and feelings right now, and they're just venting. But, if there comes a time, when you can't do that, it's ok. It's hard to hold back some times. This is when you need to sit down, and wear your heart on your sleeve. Tell them all of your feelings. Just tell them gently, it might come as a shock to them. And, remind them of how much their thoughts and opinions mean to you; how much you love them. I hope that has helped. Good luck.
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PLEASE HELP ME I LOVE THIS GUY SO MUCH AND HE IS THE AIR I BREETH HE IS MY ONE SOMEONE BUT HE LEFT ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! HOW CAN I GET MY LOVE BACK? HE IS SO NICE AND I HAD MY FIRST KISS WITH HIM AND I LOVE HIM SO MUCH I ALMOST KILLED MY SELF WITH A KITCHAN KNIFE!!!!!! I WANT HIM BACK BUT HE MOVED AND I DONT THINK HE HAS A PHONE.and he does not go to my school any more SO HOW CAN I WIN HIS LOVE AGEN?
E-MAIL ME!!! fatcat10002000@yahoo.com
o god please help me!!!PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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Did you ask for advice before? Because, the boyfriend moving away and the capital letters are ringing a bell. Anywho, stop being crazy!! I'm sure your life will go back to normal eventually. And, I bet money you're only like 14; trust me when I say he's not your last love. You will find an even more suitable person for you. This guy was a learning experience, to help you when the right guy comes along. Things like this happen, it's just how things work. It really blows hard now, but it will get better. Don't forget about this guy, don't stop loving him. But, if he's moved away, it's time for you to move on. Be happy that you are who you are, and that you had the time you did with him. Go out with your friends, talk to them about it. Talk to your mom, or someone close. Talking about it helps, trust me I know. EVERYTHING WILL BE FINE!!!!!!
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years ago i met a man here on line we were good friends both of us married we talked on line and on the phone almost everyday. OK one day while iming he says that we should be together and hes leaving his wife and he wanted to be with me he thought i was his soul mate and the romance??? grew into love letters through usps until one day he stopped all communication. I tried to find him but nothing and i gave up. at the beginning of last yr he contacted me said he was divorced and the reason that he stopped contact was cuz he was getting his life together wait.... theres more :) so we started the relationship again and i thought it had grown deeper so i arranged to meet w him in person and he thought this was a good idea he said no little feat cuz im still married now to make this shorter i will just say my last e mail from him was on May the day before my b day he wrote that he had started a site for his business would i check it out and tell him what i thought of his site and that he was going to a wedding out of town with his ex and he would write when he got back and never did i have heard nothing from him since then what do you think??? Im a stupid to be devistated by this???? (link)
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Let's see...since you say you're married, I'm going to make the assumption that you are an adult? If so, please use punctuation marks. It would have made this monstrosity of words, a lot easier to read. Now, on to the advice..Let me tell you a story..
..my next door neighbor's ex wife, was talking to a guy online and a few weeks ago she went to meet him, and she was murdered. No, I'm not making this up. Now, her 2 sons are left to live their live's without their mom. Online relationships can work for some people, but please be careful. And, if I were you, I'd just forget about him. Focus on your relationship with your husband, and figure out what's going on between you two. You must have loved him at one point, you did marry him!! Marriage is suppose to be something sacred and charished and beautiful. Don't throw it all away for some guy you don't even know. Most importantly, get out of the house and away from the computer. Don't get me wrong, computers are fun. But, there is so much more to life than talking to people you don't know over the internet. I hope that helped some!! Good luck!!
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Currently, I have been single for one month, but I still love that guy. We broke up becuase he said he needed time. But to all that there is this other girl with two kid and she is only 18 years old. She work with him and on New Years, I went to Cali for vacations, when I come back I heard that he picked her up becuase they are friends. I know he cares and loves me too but I feel so betrayed. What should I do?
Sincerly, Beautiful in Love (link)
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Well, it took me months to get over my ex. And, to be completely honest, I still love him. But, that's ok. 'Cause I realized, I don't need him. There's more to life than just sitting around, waiting for somebody to come back to you. And, he found someone else, to. I like to think he still has feelings for me. And, I think maybe he does. But, he's happy where he's at. If your ex is happy with the way thing's are, let him go. If he's truly yours, he'll come back to you. And, I wouldn't expect it to be any time soon. Just, go on with your life. Be happy, and prove to YOURSELF that you don't need him. It'll make you a stronger person, and it might even make him realize what he's lost. Good luck. :)
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I love this guy, Jace, but he is going out with my so called best friend..... I really want to tell him how i feel.... but i'm really shy about these things....what do i do? (link)
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Have you ever dated him? I doubt it. I wouldn't say that you love him. I mean, well, I guess it's possible. But, you don't know what he's like in a relationship. You could date him and find out he's not right for you. I would consider how much your best friend means to you, before you go and ruin their relationship.
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I am 14 turning 15 soon and I am an actress, and I went to a world tour audition called The Lion King On Broadway. Well, at the audition my mom and I were in line, and in front of us was this one mother and her son. And the mother showed my mom and I pictures of her son because he did modeling. I remember he kept on starring at me and flirted with me and I thought he was cute as well. But this was 2 years ago. Well this year 2004 I saw the movie Peter Pan. And after the movie my mom and I said to each other, that boy (Jeremy Sumpter, the boy who played Peter Pan) looks vagely familiar...so later I looked him up and it turns out that he was a model. Do you think I really did meet him??? My other question is...well later in the week I kept on dreaming about him and thinking about him, so, I have four of the Sixth Sences so I can communicate to the angels and I made a bet with myself..."if the light goes on then that means I will someday date Jeremy Sumpter if not..." then the light turned on before I finished my sentence which was (if not the light will not turn on). What do you think that ment? Do you think I did met him, and will someday date him??
Sincerely,
Peter Pan Fan of the Man (link)
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Hahahaha. Talking to angels, eh? You're crazy. Anywho, if you met him, hoorah for you. But, he's on the big screen now, dear, and you're not. I'd say your chances of dating him are slim to none. I think you should find someone that you actually have a chance with. Good day to you.
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Sorry, this is so long but please take the time
to read it.We'll call my friend Trea (not her name)Ok, now Trea is the kind of girl who always tries to do the right thing. This boy hit me(we're still under age so it's not against the law.) He put a bruise on my arm Friday. So on Tuesday I (i'm a girl) tried to get him back. He is a lot quicker and stronger so when I went to hit him he pushed me downand I have a sint arm. Wednesday, (today) I went after him again because he had pushed me down Tuesday. I didn't expect to have everything happen that did. Trea, tried to stop me because he pushed me down and I scraped my elbow Wednesday. I was going after him again. I told her to leave me alone (I was mad) and not to tell anyone.My other friend told her the same thing. I went after him because my friend held Trea back. She secretly went and told the teacher on meand the boy. I had almost caught up with him and Trea grabbed my shirt from behind. I couldn't get loose because I was hurting and didn't bother to fight back. She took me to the teacher and they kept asking me questions. I answered as many as I could. They asked me why I hadn't told anyone about the fights. I didn't want to because they usually don't do anything. I can't talk to the boy or his friend (I like his friend but that's not the point) because the teachers won't let us. I don't usually cause trouble. This is my first time. My real question is, is Trea my true friend or not? (link)
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Uh, excuse me for sounding rude, but DUH. Of course she is. She just didn't want you to get hurt AGAIN. And quit going after this guy, I mean, obviously he's stronger than you if he keeps hurting you. And remember, violence is not the answer, my friend.
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I think I'm going to ask the kid I like out...in a note? He was just so cute today...it was like a movie...and he's not that average heartthrob boy either. He's a ghetto white boy. But he's just...i dont know...should I? What should I say? He doesn't know me but it's worth a shot right?
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Whoa. He doesn't know you? Let's be a little mature, shall we? You don't go and ask someone out who doesn't know you. Try talking to him, and becoming his friend first. Geeze.
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Is it possible to love a boy who failed kindergarden? I LOVE a boy who failed kindergaden. I just found out. He is soooo cute, though. He's my age and evything. I do't know what to do. it isn't that I don't like him and it isn't because I'm afraid my friends will tease me. I go out with him now. He moved and now he goes to my school again. The only problem is... when do I get to see him? PLEASE HELP! THANKS,
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Dump him. He's a loser.
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Alright advice columnists, listen up I NEED ADVICE!
When someone posts a question and the way a guy acts about you and you guys sometimes say that I, You love him but then when someone admits she loves a guy you say "you just had deep feelings for him" WELL!!!! whats the difference? i mean "DEEP" feelings are 'posed to be love right because whats the difference then? im lost i need advice!
signed
comfused (link)
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When someone asks for advice about people they've never dated, and they say that they love them, that's stupid. I'm sorry, but it is. How do you know if you love them if you've never been in a relationship with them? You don't. If someone gets on here and says "I was dating so and so for months or years and we broke up and I love him, I don't know what to do." Then I can honestly believe that they might love the person. But, even then it might not be love. The only person who can know whether it's love or not, is the person asking for advice. As advice columnists we can only make assumptions, and give advice based on our own life experiences and what we know. And, I'm sure when one of us says that it's just seems like deep feelings, a lot of other people would agree. I'm not saying it isn't possible to love someone you're not in a relationship with, but really sit down and think about it. If all you've ever said to a person is "Hi" and you're telling yourself and others that you love them or you're in love, I don't think you have experienced true love yet. Because, love is more than just saying "Hi" to a person. SO much more. And, my personal opinion is if you think like that, then you're still at grade school level "puppy love". Eh, but whatever. I hope that helped.
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Hey umm... I asked a question before if I should tell a guy i liked him.... well I did and he thinks im a total freak well im ok but the problem is i think i still like him and am afraid to say i do. i have pain and want to forget him but i think i was REALLY in love with him. how do i forget him?
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I wouldn't say you were in love with him. Just had deep feelings of like towards him. If you want to forget about him, it might take time. Go out and have fun. Do things with your friends. Just have fun. Someone better suited for you will come along. And just ignore him. He's a loser if he's calling you names, he needs to grow up.
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Well, the category isn't actually right. He was more than just my boyfriend, he was a really good friend. And today, he moved and transferred schools. He said he still wanted to go out with me, but it will just be so hard. I may get to see him on the weekends and stuff like that, and we'll e-mail eachother, of course. But it will be hard not being able to see him everyday as usual. So, do you think we should break up? Because I know for a fact that other guys like me and want to go out with me...What do I do? (link)
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Do you love him? Ask yourself that. Then think about it some more, then make a decision. If you don't love him, and feel as though you might be happier with someone else because of the distance between you two, then let him down easy. But, if you do love him, I think that the time apart might do you some good. It might make your relationship stronger.
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My live in gives me a preset amount of money every other week to help with expenses. He indicated the company he works for had not given him his overtime. After thinking about it, it occurred to me that he doesn't always get OT and he still gives me the preset amount. This bothered me so I looked in his pockets for his pay stub. Well, they did pay his overtime. His take home was considerably more than he said. Why would he lie about this? I didn't ask how much he got paid, he went out of his way to tell me. If he needed the money for something else, he should have just said he needed it and couldn't give me the usual amount. I never question him about his check. In fact he set the amount he wanted to give me and told me when we started to live together that if he couldn't pay that amount he would let me know, whatever the reason. I feel the only reason he would lie is he was doing something he shouldn't be. How do I approach this? I am really bothered. (link)
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Maybe he's using his money to pay for drugs, so that his ass doesn't get capped. I say talk to him about it. But, don't tell him you were snooping through his things, he might think you're looking for his secret stash of cocaine or something, and cap your ass.
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Okay, lately in school I've been kinda failing. But within the past week I've brought some of my grades from an "F" to a "C" or "D". But, my mom says that if I have any "F"s on my next grade report I can't go on to high school next year. Even though I still have 1 more trimester left. I have 1 "F" and there is no possible way to bring it up because my next grade report comes out next week and the teachers had to turn their grades in yesterday. I really want to go on to high school but I won't be able to with this "F". What should I do?
Grades (link)
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Summer school?
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When at school, sometimes I kinda go crazy by taking the seagulls from off the grass and eating them, and then I throw rocks and berries at my friends. Just yesterday, I went streaking and painted myself in tiger stripes through math class. In the computer lab I take all the cds and break them. I've broken a computer one time too. Also I eat pages of textbooks when teachers don't watch. I burned some of the books in the library and then ate them. (Actually, they're pretty tasty with some ketchup.) Last week I jumped on a lunch table and pissed on a yard duty. I am 26 years old and I am still in the 8th grade. Is this normal?
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Very.
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ok i was having sex with this one guy tony and i couldnt stop. but finnaly it was time u know to take off my thong and put on a condom (on him of course) and so my thong wouldnt come off (it was one of the ones that u r supose to tie) and so he ripped it off and when i was putting the condom on him the door bell rang so i had to get up u know and i was like oh damn we have to stop but he was like oh let it ring we need to do it anyways i hope i am going to do it all night and i was like oh u bet ur luckie ass on that and i couldnt stop and we were burning rubber (when u go really fast and it starts to burn) then i had to go pee so i told him i had to stop so i did then when i came back i saw his friends looking and they have been looking since we started! so i told them they can come in in 10 mins so they were still looking and i was yelling oh tony oh tony and he was like oh jenny oh jenny and then i told his friends to come in. then i got drunk then i was having a three sum and then another guy came in and so in was like a 4 sum. and then they had to go home but i told tony to stay and we were doing it all night. then the next day was school and everyone was staring at me and i was asking the guys i did it with wut wuz going on and they told the whole school and i turned around and 3 guys were humping me so i told them to come to my house so when we went to my house i grabed a whip and everything so i was doing it all night with them! but i took a pregnantcy test and it said i was pregnant but i didnt know whos baby!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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Hahahahahahahahahahahahaha. Ok, I'm sorry, but that is the funniest thing I've read all day. Now for the advice: Get some morals, although I think it might be too late. Some how start to respect yourself more, however, after all of that, I don't know how you could. And secondly, you're ruining your baby's(and not to mention YOUR life)life already. If I were you, I'd get an abortion or give it up for adoption, but that's just me. Personally, I think you deserve what you're dealing with, because you are obviously one of the most stupid people to ever walk the face of the earth. I mean, ok...you're having all of this sex, and not putting the condom on first, and having three sums and four sums. I mean, HELLO? Where was your fucking brains when you were doing this? Pffffft. hahahahahahahahaha. Sorry, just thought of that saying, "I want to hump your brains out." Anywho, back to the advice....sounds to me like you're screwed. I would definetely talk to your parents about all of this, and for the love of God, start using your head, and quit spreading your legs. And the added information? I don't get it. If you loved any of those guys, or any guy...you wouldn't being doing all of that stuff.
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