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I NEED ADVICE ASAP
Alright advice columnists, listen up I NEED ADVICE!
When someone posts a question and the way a guy acts about you and you guys sometimes say that I, You love him but then when someone admits she loves a guy you say "you just had deep feelings for him" WELL!!!! whats the difference? i mean "DEEP" feelings are 'posed to be love right because whats the difference then? im lost i need advice!
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Feelings are always confused.
You can't even define what is love. I have loved 3 different men in 3 totally different ways, till now. Excluding friends and family that I love, also.
No matter what you feel, it's hard to describe. I think the best way to know if someone loves you or has deep feelings or whatever is to see if they care about you, they do things for you and they spend their time with you / thinking of you / doing things for you like writing an e-mail or something.
Not simple and not plain! :)
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Well Ive never said that before. I dont even recall reading an answer like that. But I do know that deep feelings doesnt necessarily mean that you love that person. It just means that you care for them and want them to do wel etc.
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Deep feelings don't mean love. Its like I have deep feelings for my girlfriend right now because we have been together for 5 months and I've known her for 5 years. But I love my bestfriend Jessica because I have known her since I was a baby. Im in love with my x-girlfriend because I know we belong together and will be together in the future. DO you see what I mean its a feeling Deep is just a way of saying the feeling is really strong.
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When someone asks for advice about people they've never dated, and they say that they love them, that's stupid. I'm sorry, but it is. How do you know if you love them if you've never been in a relationship with them? You don't. If someone gets on here and says "I was dating so and so for months or years and we broke up and I love him, I don't know what to do." Then I can honestly believe that they might love the person. But, even then it might not be love. The only person who can know whether it's love or not, is the person asking for advice. As advice columnists we can only make assumptions, and give advice based on our own life experiences and what we know. And, I'm sure when one of us says that it's just seems like deep feelings, a lot of other people would agree. I'm not saying it isn't possible to love someone you're not in a relationship with, but really sit down and think about it. If all you've ever said to a person is "Hi" and you're telling yourself and others that you love them or you're in love, I don't think you have experienced true love yet. Because, love is more than just saying "Hi" to a person. SO much more. And, my personal opinion is if you think like that, then you're still at grade school level "puppy love". Eh, but whatever. I hope that helped.
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