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I don't want to have sex... I would rather adopt a baby. Is that weird?
13/f
Is it weird not to want sex? Other people have it before they are married, but I want it after. If even then. I always said I would adopt my children. How I see it children are like puppies. Puppies are sent to pounds because they were not able to be taken care of, or not wanted. (Same as children sent to adoption agencies.) And the reason puppies, and children, are not being adopted is because dogs, and women, keep having babies. Then when the puppies owners can't find good homes for them they are sent to the pound, which just keeps on growing. So why would we want children when there are several at adoption aggencies waiting for a good family to arrive and take them home? Plus there is all that pain, and blood. But because I don't want to do it are people gonna try to make me later on? Thanks in advance.
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♥I feel the same way. I'm scared to have a baby and I don't want to have sex.
Personally, I think its gross LOL. But when I tell people they're always like " You'll change, you'll see"
But maybe they're right. Once we're older ( like maybe 17, or 18) we'll want to.
But i'm like you, i'll probobly adopt instead, because of all the unwanted children in the world. Plus i'd love to have a multicultural family. :]
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Lauren
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No, its definetely normal. And even though hormones do play a part, a 20-year-old who doesn't want to have sex is normal too. I think it's great that you want to adopt children, and I hope you don't change your views because of anyone else.
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That's how I used to be. I swore to myself I was always gonna stay a virgin and I didn't want to have sex. As you grow up a little more and your hormones start to develop your views will probably change. No you might not want to be ontop of every guy ahhaha but you'll probably want to have sex earlier & it'll become more natural. If you don't want to have sex after a few years; don't worry about it. People may pressure you into it, but it's your own personal decision. As for adopting-I told myself I was gonna adopt kids instead of having them tooo because I thought that having a kid would be sick and gross :] hahah, but after talking to a family friend about her daughter [she tried having a baby for a longlong time and finally had one] I realized that having your own child is pretty much a gift and I'm assuming that when you're old enough and ready you'll probably want to have your own childdd. And all of the moms I know say that the pains is worth it. but don't get me wrong; there's absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to adopt a kid. haha sorry this was so long ; but yeah your feelings right now for everything is completely normal for your agee. hope I helped :]
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It's normal for someone your age to feel that way, so it's not weird at all. Eventually, within the next several years, your opinion will [most likely] change. You will see sex as something that's natural, painless, & wonderful. Honestly, I believe that half the people who get knocked up these days just couldn't keep their legs closed or just couldn't take the extra step of being protected. On the other hand, people want to have & raise their own kids. You can say you don't want to do it now, but later on, your hormones will react & you'll crave for sex. But if it's not something you want to do, then that's perfectly fine. It's your choice.
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You know when I was 13, I said I was never gonna have sex. It was my biggest fear. But by the time I got to high school, my biggest fear was to die a virgin. It takes time. And NO, no one in your life should ever make you have sex. If your not ready, simply say no. Never let someone peer pressure you into sex, or force you to have sex with them. Also, sex is not only about making babies. It is about love. It is a true intimate experience to be held onto with the one that you love and you know that you are going to spend the rest of your life with. Sex is pleasure. Just give it time girl, you are only 13...
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noo its not weird! right now at this age your not ready and you realize that but you also dont think you will be later on. but when you find someone that you love it will bring you two closer together and you will share something special when you have sex ♥ but its not bad to wait after marriage! because then you dont have to worry about all the consquences you may have to face later on. you COULD look into adoption but personally i wouldnt reccommend it. just give it time and everything will fall into place and whatever happens, happens ♥
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well first off it's really really hard to adopt a baby. it usually takes around 8-10 years and up to $20,000 dollors so yea its not very easy to adopt a baby just in case u didnt now
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It's not weird to not want sex right now. Just wait a couple years, that all might change.
I wouldnt compare children to puppies though. For one..when people dont adopt the dogs they put them down..they dont do that with babies. There are LOTS of people who are on waiting lists for adopting children.
You are probably going to change your mind when you are older and find someone you really care about. Its just that now you dont have anyone so you dont see the point have having sex, but when you find that certain person that you love, your mind WILL change completely.
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ok i'd just like to say to the person saying you are one of the few "Sane and healthy 13 year olds" that it is not at all insane to want, or deny sex. its part of growing up.
but i agree with you, why overpopulate the Earth when there are plenty of babies that need help and are being neglected? i'm going to wait till after marrage to have sex, and when i find out i'm engaged im getting my tubes tied as a personal choice. i dont want to have a child, i just have no wanting of my own, i'd rather take in those who nobody cares about.
this is your own personal decision though, those were my ideas (not trying to influence you) but you can think and do whatever you want.
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Well first of all,
I dont think its weird at all not to want sex,
but in a relationship its something that does bring people together, more closer than ever, not neccasarily meaning children.
But Adoption, I wouldnt compare people humans, to animals. The circumstances are different.
But I mean having kids isnt for everyone, like you, thats why there are people giving their kids up for adoption, so people like you can adopt them. Your young, you could change your mind later. Also remember despite all the pain and blood, another life comes. And think, someone else did that, if you adopt a child.
People cant make you do anything you dont want to do. Its all up to you, its personal. And its your choice.
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I can't say weather or not anybody will want you to have a baby later on. Just make sure you have everything sorted out with your boyfriend before you get married. You need to be sure your husband is able to love an adopted child just as he would love a child that stemmed from him.
If, when you get older, you decide you want to have sex before marriage, but still don't want a baby, I strongly encourage you to get your tubes tied so that you will not accidentally get pregnant.
It's really cool that you want to adopt and I wish the best for you.
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It's perfectly fine. Actually it's great that you believe in being a virgin when you're married. And adopting, that's a great thought. I haven't thought of it that way. But erm a little early to be thinking about kids, no?
And guys will pressure you into having sex with them later on...not all guys. Just be sensible, make good friends and you won't have to collide with that problem. If you don't wanna have sex later on, don't. It's your decision and not theirs. If they do force you to have sex, that's called rape and yea...jail or juvie time for them
Just don't give into the pressure and stand up for what you believe in.
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No it's not weird not to want sex. You are probably one of the few sane and healthy thirteen year old girls. While your analogy was a bit confusing, I know what you mean. I really hope you stay that way and do wait until marriage - it will be worth it.
I think people will, actually in particular I think guys will. Should you give in? Nah. So many girls throw themselves into sex just because 'they love him.' Probably the worst idea that has hit our generation. While a majority of teenage girls see sex as an expression of deep love, a majority of teenage guys do not. And there goes another story about two teens that had sex, girl got pregnant, guy left her, and girl went into depression because she thought 'they loved each other'. While I don't mean to condemn all, I do realize that some are in fact innocent victims and taken advantage of. But I also realize that some willingly throw themselves into any situation without thinking about it. Sorry to ramble on like that, but I really hope people your age do take a few seconds to read that. I'd be glad if you did too. So to answer your question: yes they might, but of course, do not give in and stick to what you have. Hope that helped and good luck.
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it's not weird of you to think that way. plus, you're 13. sex shouldn't be something everyone just goes out & does. it isn't meant for that. it is expressing love for each other, but i believe it should be done after marriage, but hey thats just my opinion. there's nothing wrong with adopting a child. it's basically the same as having one, because you still have to raise it. plus, you're helping the children you do adopt. your feelings may change once your older & get married though.
-hope that helped!♥
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