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Am I too overprotective?
well im 13 and my sister is 15 but for some reason, evertime a guy likes her or she goes out with someone, i get really pissed off and scare the guy away. ( I even gave a guy a black eye) I know that shes gonna go out with guys, but i dont want anybody to hurt her or take advantage of her. last summer, we went to the same summer camp, and a guy liked her and thats where i punched a kid. we tell each other everything so she knows about the gfs ive had (only 2) and she didnt like my gfs either. should i give a guy a chance, and am i being too overprotective?
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I think you're being a little overprotective ; I mean I understand that you care about you're sister and want her to be safe and stuff but I don't think black eyes are gonna help her dating life. Haha just get to know the guy first, and then if you don't like him, talk to you're sister about it.. and then maybe hook her up with guys that you already know. Like friends brother ; guys you just know in general.. cause then you alreay know them and like them...but if the guy is being a major jerk ; then I can understand a black eye. Haha.. hope I helped!!
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MELii
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you should give the guy a chance and i'm sorry but you are being overprotective i mean your 13 and your making your older sister's decides which isnt excatly right..... i hoped i helped good luck
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yes you are being a little over protective but thats a good thing you care about your sister but if she likes a guy then let her go for it if she tells you somthing bad that the guy did like you said she tells you everthing then you can go and talk to that guy and ask him some serious questions trust me your sister probally knows how to take care of her self and if a guy does anything to her then she will probally do somthing about it trust me I am nine teen years old and all teenagers know how to take care of them selfs they are real smart...hahahah
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You really need to give the guy a chance see how he is around you ask him questions about himself,etc but when she wants to date someone just dont be so protective . Shes older than you and she knows how to take care of herself.Let her enjoy her teenage years.
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It's nice that you care about your sister so much but yes you are being too overprotective. You should give your sister's new bf a chance and if you have a good reason not to like him then you should talk to your sister about it and tell her how you feel.
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To answer your first qustion yes.If you do that to every guy your sister dates then she wont have a chance to end up with the guy she loves.And to anwer your second qustion no.Your like a dad tring to protect his daughter.And your sister is like a mom tring to protect her son.You two just wont to protect each other.But you have to give each other chances to be with someone you realy love.Mabe for a change try to get to know her bfs.And she should try to get to know your gfs.Just give each other a chance.
*Good luck*
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i think that is really sweet, for looking out for your sister, i look out for my sister too. but i do think you need to get to no hte ugy a little before you judge him, because he might be a nice guy.
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i think that you are doing the right thing
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well your a boy right? ok i think that you really should give a guy a chance cause if you go off hurting more people they could sue you. just see how they are and if youy dont like them tell your sister before you punch them. also find a gf that she likes too. hope i helped *Kelley*
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It's natural to be protective of a brother or sister... it's what we do. I have an older sister and when she dated... i got kinda protective and mad because i didn't want her to get hurt and didn't like her spending all of her time with him. You have to realize that you aren't going to like every boy that she goes out with. You have to just realize that someday she will go out with someone and marry them. She'll be happy and you have to realize that.. now if the guys a jerk.. then you do have the power to tell her your opinion, but don't punch anyone else. you're just looking out for her.
Hope i helped
GOd Bless
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I'm about 3.5 years younger than my sister, and I was about the same way. I think you need to get to know the guy first. You should also tell her that you would like to get to know the guys she dates.
Eventually one of two things will happen - you'll get to know one of the guys and like that he's dating your sister (at least instead of other guys dating her), or you'll stop worrying about it because you figure either she's gonna date who she wants to regardless of you or that she has to learn the hard way.
For the time being, though, I say keep doing what you're doing, for about 2 years, unless one of the guys turns out to be one such that you like that he's dating your sister.
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i think that you should get to know the guy she is going out with before you punch him in the eye. your sister is going to go out with a lot of guys, that just happens. and you don't necessarily have to like him.
i do think that you need to back off a little and let her make the decision whether to keep the dude. but make sure that she knows that you are always there if she needs you.
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You are being over protective but its only because you love your sister. Its a good thing that you dont want her to get hurt but you have to. She will get her heart broken once and you cant always try to save her from it. Give her boyfriend a chance and acually get to know him before you start getting angry and punch him int he eye! L0L. ♥// xOo`
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ok look you love your sister but sometimes you have to let her go out on a date i mean its ok if she gets her heart broken sometimes i mean that normal but if you have a bad feeling about one of her boyfriends than you should talk to her and tell that you do not like her current boyfriend
i hoped i helped
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you are being too overprotective, she needs to get hurtr and date lots of guys so she can see what she truly wants in a guy and find the right one
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I think you are having trouble letting your sister go. You guys have such a tight bond, and you don't want any guy to tear that apart. But you know what? The love you guys have for eachother is amazing and other siblings badly want that, so there is no way she'll let a guy come between you two. But don't you think that she is smart enough to not let a guy walk all over her? She understands you really care about her, but you need to let her go because she is 15 and you are not her father. Let her go, nothing will come in between you two.
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Give them a chance ... Even though you giving someone a black eye is always funny.I think you should give a guy seh truely likes a chance.I mean you can hang out with him to see if he is worth the trouble.
xoxo~*~Ashley~*~xoxo
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whoa there my 13 yr question asker! Methinks you are. Just wait til the guy actually does anything to hurt your sister's feelings (or body) to start beaten faces. Your sister will thankyou for it, it's not easy having a relationship when the boys are all scared of your brother.
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Hello!!! You can't keep running her guys off because at some point she will begin to resent you. It's not your job to protect her. Being that possessive is not healthy at all. She is probably going to get hurt and there is nothing you can do about it. It will help her grow and figure out what she wants. You are not helping her. Now, if there was a real problem with a guy - talk to her, not him. Eventually that type of behavior on your part will chase not only the boys away but your sister too.
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It's perfectly alright for you to want to protect your sister but you also need to give her some freedom. She is older that you and probably sensible enough to make her own choices.
If you think that her boyfriend is unsuitable in some way don't try and drive him off, just talk to your sister and tell her how you feel. Resorting to physical violence is extreme and unfair on the boys concerned.
It's great that the two of you are close and you should use your friendship to help each other.
Yours in honesty,
Girlwithamansname
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