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Me and my sister are about the same age,but i am a little taller then her,and weigh alot more then her.and this really bugs me,but i cant seem to stay on a diet or stay excerising so how can i lose weight and not have my sister say stuff about me and my weight?
((I heard you had good advice from one of my friends...so please help)) (link)
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You need to remind yourself of why you're trying to lose weight everyday.
Keep eating healthy and exercising, it all works out in the end.
Ask a friend or one of your parents to do it with you - its always easier when you're not alone.
Good luck
K-J
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ok...i have this anerexic friend name liz and she told me b4 i asked her to stop and she hasnt.now my other friend adam (her best friend) also knows bc she told us together...he wants her to stop too..and we r thinkin bout havin an intervention...we kinda want to have it soon but liz is always out....should i tell her mom...i think she knows though (she tells liz to buy food and all at lunch but i think she gives it to her friends)...
what should i do...
consered friend, (link)
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It's a stage in her life she needs to work through - and you can help her.
If you're impatient - wave food around and say how good it is. MAKE her food (bake cookies or something) and give them to her. If she says she doesn't want to eat them tell her how upset you are that she wont eat your food.
Eventually she'll realise how good food is and give up her anorexic stage.
Good luck K-J
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Ok, well...A friend of mine has an obsession with always being with a guy. No, it is not me. My friend. She says that she always needs a boyfriend all the time. The longest she's been single for 2 years has been around one week long or so. I myself couldn't care. Sure I like guys and all but I'm only Fifteen and so is my friend. Why do it all now when I have a whole life ahead of me. But, I'm justing wondering what I should do. It's kind of making me a bit angery at her. She doesn't get it that you DON'T need to alwyas have a man in her life. How should I tell her this? She doesn't seem to be listening. (link)
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You can't convince her.
It's a stage in her life and eventually she'll realise what you're tying to tell her and get over it.
But I'm afraid you'll just have to wait it out.
Don't end the friendship, it's not worth it.
As long as she knows you're there for her when this stage of her life is over.
She'll come back, don't worry
(my best friend used to be like that, she's 17 now and much more sensible and has been single for about a year now)
Good luck!
K-J
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okay well im 18 years old and ive ALWAYS had my period on time every single month the same time ever since i first got it when i was about 11. it was NEVER and i mean NEVER irregular and never ever missed it.
well, this past november it just completely STOPPED! out of nowhere! :( and then in February it came again but now its july and havent had it at all.
i do not get any signs of pms or ANYTHING no cramping nothing wrong at all
i am NOT on birth control and NOT sexually active..AT ALL.
i am on NO MEDS
and i dont have any eating disorders such as anorexia
please help.
btw..dont say anything like..go see the gyno..go see your doc! because i know already and im going too make an appt first i just have some insurance issues i need too work out
pleasee helpp me
and thanks (link)
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Periods can stop for an number of reasons
-changed diet
-changed exercise
-changed environment
It is normal for a period to stop or become irregular.
Mine has stopped once for 3 months and again for 6 months.
It is normal - it can take up to 10 years for your period to 'decide' on a pattern.
This usually happens in the early stages of getting your period but it is not uncommon - I've heard of it happening to 40 year old women.
Don't stress, I'm sure nothing it wrong.
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have always been a person who suffers from depression and anxiety i have tried many counsleors , psychologists and nothing seems to help , does anyone know of any natural remedies that might help me? thank you so much (link)
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I can't help unless I understand the causes of your depression and anxiety.
If counselling does not help perhaps you might need to talk to a doctor about putting you on medication.
There are some over the counter anxiety sprays (medication you spray on your tongue) to relieve the effects of anxiety.
One of my friends uses anxiety spray when she has to go on a plane. It works for her.
Hope you're feeling better soon
K-J
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I have a very true phobia of cotton. It's called Bambakophobia. I have such a huge problem with it. I've had it for many years and it makes doing certain things very difficult. I just can't stand the feeling. It makes me get shivers, feel sick, and freak out.
Not many people believe me when they hear this.
My question is, Is there anything I can do to cure this phobia at all?
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Good question.
I'm afraid you'll need to see a psychiatrist regularly if you want to cure yourself of a phobia.
The process is known as systematic desensitisation.
Basically, it's gradual exposure to cotton and cotton related things until, eventually, you get used to it and are no longer bothered by it.
This could take a long time though, depending how severe your phobia is. Be prepared for a long journey.
Good luck
K-J
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recently this group of immigrants from africa came over and i was to show them around school...a couple of them were girls and i ended up dating and having lots of unprotected sex with them...they were about 17 so theyve deffinetly have had sex in africa...i always puilled out in time but do u think i might have AIDS or HIV? what should i do i dont want my parents or anyone else to know. (link)
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Ask the girls if they have AIDS.
Failing that, go to a doctor and have some tests done.
You do not need to ejaculate to contract an STD.
Hope this helped.
K-J
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theres this kid that i've been hanging out with recently. (i posted a question about him about a month ago about whether he liked me or not. things have changed since then. we met in like the beginning of june when we went to a lake with mutual friends. he was flirting with me and held my hand when we went through the woods, and afterwards he told our friend he was interested and wanted to hang out soon. i was so exited because he's a year older than me and i never even thought i would get to know him, he always seemed unattainable. we hung out a few times after that, but he seemed to put less effort into talking to me or whatever, but i was really starting to like him.
but when i saw him last night at this carnival. at first when he drove by i waved to him and he smiled then his friend looked back at me then at him then like raised his eyebrows and nodded which seemed to be a good sign. later he was being friendly and flirting with me, complimenting me and stuff. then we hung out tonight with more people and he barely even talked to me. he seemed so uninterested. my sister's friends with him and she said he's really unreliable and is ADD with like, everything in his life and to forget about him. it's not that easy though, because i really like him and want things to work out but it's not going anywhere. ughh he keeps sending me mixed signals and i'm getting so aggrivated. i rarely find a guy that i actually like, so it's really hard to just forget about him because there's no other guy right now that i'm even romotely interested in. i really don't get many chances to meet new guys for some reason. it sucks soo bad because i think about how exited i was when i found out he liked me and i had hopes that it would work out, and now it's basically gone to shit. adfjb whattt do i do? (link)
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Maybe you should tell him directly that you like him.
Maybe he's really the one that's unsure.
Don't believe that he's interested in you just because your friend said so - ask him straight up.
Don't spend too much time dwelling on it, you're only 15 and you'll have plently more chances when you're older.
Sometime being friends for a long time first makes for a very strong relationsip later - I had been friends with my current boyfriend for about 2 years when we decided to take it further, and now we've been together for almost 14 months and have no interest in anyone else and no plans to end the relationship anytime soon.
Hope it works out for you
K-J
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OK so me and my boyfriend have been together for a month and a half...i think...And he said he loves me. and i said it back. But then, i started to like him less and less. But when i told him i didnt love him but i liked him alot. He started crieing and telling me how bad i hurt him and that i crashed his heart and stuff. And i asked if he was going to break up with me. He said i lied to him and broke his heart...well i want to break up with him because i just dont think things are working out. And im scared he may do something. Because he gets over stuff fast. Because after that huge fight we had, the next day he acted as tho nothing happened. So what do i say..... (link)
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Sounds like you're pressuring yourself into making a quick decision.
See him a little bit less for a few days at least and take time out to really think about what you want, what he wants and what will ultimately be better for the both of you in this situation.
A relationship is about 2 people, not 1, so if you're not happy, you have every right to get out of it. Don't let him presuade you not to leave if you want to.
Remember - DON'T MAKE A HASTY DECISION!
Good luck, hope it works out the best for you.
K-J
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I have been an advice coloumnist on this site for almost three years. I am very happy that I have helped so many people and yet I am unhappy as a person. I have an empathy level for people that is off the charts. It makes me literally sick to my stomach when I see someone in absolute pain. I care more about a strangers well-being than my own. I am successful as a writer and college student but I can't figuare out why I am not happy with myself. I had many boyfriends since the sixth grade, alot of which I savotaged even though they were really great guys and some that were not. I find myself at a crossroad unable to decipher my own feelings. Why am I so unhappy? When I look at my life, I should be thrilled, not unhappy. (link)
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Perhaps you need some time off.
Do things you like doing, and don't do them because you feel other people want/need you to.
When someone ask you to go somewhere don't go unless you really want to and believe you'll have fun.
Start exercising (you feel better after a long walk) perhaps go on a holiday somewhere not to far away but anywhere thats not home.
Be single - it's fun and exciting.
You just need some time to sort out whats in your own head, not other peoples.
Hope this helped, hope you're feeling better soon.
K-J
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I'm 22 weeks & four days pregnant to be exact.
Before I got pregnant, I only weighed 94 pounds & I was around 5'2.
I'm now 116 pounds, I've gained a total of 22 pounds since I've been pregnant which isn't good. All my weight has gone straight to my butt, back & my hips.
Its really scaring me into thinking I'll be really big after I have the baby.
I need to know what I can do to lose some weight, My doctor also believes I need to go on a no card diet.
The average woman only gains 25 to 35 pounds through out the whole pregnancy, None of this is baby weight.
It's the weight I'm going to keep after the baby, If I don't lose it.
My baby weighs right at a pound right now, according to my appointment before last.
Any Ideas?
Thanks much.
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4-5 small meals a day made up of alot of fuit, vegetables, some starch (potatoes, pasta etc) and once a day or every 2 days, have some red meat about the size of your palm.
Only have wholemeal and grainy bread or if you have white bread pair it with tuna or chicken as if will quicken the digestion of the white bread.
Snack on unsalted nuts, strawberries, raspberries or blueberries. Drink lots or water.
Go for a brisk walk for about 45 minutes every day.
You can do 20 minutes in the morning and 35 in the evening if you like, to break it up.
As long as you work off more calories than you ate, you will lose weight.
Perhaps you should start counting calories but DO NOT cut calories out of your diet, exercise is key.
Hope this helped
K-J
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My bf and i went to have sex for our first time and i rolled a condom onto his penis and it broke i put another on and it broke he said it felt a little tight is there a certain way to put a condom on are there a few different sized ones? (link)
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Yes, there are several sizes, you might need to check the box you were using and go for a larger size.
You need to hold onto this tip of the condom, holding it in polace and roll it down gently so as to not tear the condom. Sounds like you were doing it almost right the first time. Perhaps you could ask him to help you next time, once you've purchased ones of a larger size.
Hope this helped
K-J
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i have been hooking up with a guy from college every night we go out...say once a month, but thats as far as it goes..every time i see him were both so embarsed.he txt me few times and i got so sick of it goin nowhere i asked him 4 coffee,,, we went and it was fine but he hasnt got in touch since...his mates make it really awkward slaggin us...i dont know if i should jus forget him and end it...i know hes shy but does it sound like he doesnt care... well be goin out next wk again how do i find out wat he thinks? (link)
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Are you confident and outgoing? If so, ask him directly where he thinks this is going or how he feels about you.
If you're shy too, make some subtle hints and see how he responds. (make some sneaky stares at him, smiling, try to hold his hand, put your head on his shoulder etc) if he lets you, he proably likes you more than a friend.
You can also ask him "Are you interested in anyone?" and if he says yes but wont tell you who, chances are its probably you.
Tell him you like someone too but say you wont tell him until he tells you, potentially driving him insane until he tells you.
Hope this helped
K-J
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-you dating someone you don't like
-someone liking you when you don't like them
-not wanting to hurt someone but you think you will
something along those lines (link)
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I don't know of anything directly along those lines.
But there's Lipgloss and Letdown by A Static Lullaby
"Why did I laugh so hard baby, I never meant to hurt you. (but I did) I'm sorry that you cried so hard darling, I'll never hurt you again. Take this time to find you're tongue, a sorry excuse to stop your lies for the best 30 seconds of my life"
Sorry I don't know anything more.
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ok most of the time me and my mom get along fairly well, but whenever im around my grandma, the whole world goes CRAZY. she acts like shes my mom all the time. i cant say anything about her to my mom or i get a big lecture about how shes my grandma and she wont be here for much longer. but sometimes i really dont care cause when my grandma comes over to our house she really acts like my mom,"clean this up, pick that up" its driving me crazy anyone wanna help me out here?? (link)
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All I can suggest is trying to talk calmly to your mom about it.
Don't get angry and don't whine, just try your best to have a mature conversation and mention that you don't like it and ask your mom kindly if she could suggest anything to help.
Your Grandma is similar to your mom and she does have partial right to tell you what needs to be done but she shouldn't be taking over, that's your mom's job.
Perhaps she's a naturally bossy person.
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Are there ne ways to get rid of hunger pains? Like besides eating, that's obvious. I heard chewing gum makes your body think u r eating so u aren't hunger. Is that true? Let me know. Thanks. (link)
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Actually, I've recently been studying the brain and have learnt that chewing anything - including gum relieves hunger pains.
Your brain has no direct link to the stomach therefore the brain does not know when you are experiencing hunger pains.
It does know, however, when the last time you ate was. The brain, believe it or not, counts the amount of times you chew something (chewing food alot makes you full faster)
Hope this helped
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