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Hey ya'll. My name is Candace..but most people call me Candy. I live in Dallas..but am going to UCLA in the fall :)! Now..some of the advice I give may seem harsh, but believe me, its just exaclty what most of you need to hear. Oh. And another thing..I am completely open to you guys sending me questions personally, but the stupid ones have to stop. I will no longer answer back to the ones bitching me around! Okay..thank!

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Im wondering if my period should be coming soon. I've done some reading and I found out that I have most of the "signals" *Pubic hair, boobs are growing, growth spurt, underarm hair, discharge etc.* But its been this way for almost a month and nothing coming? Should it be coming soon? *Btw im 13*

everybody gets it at different times..(i didnt get mine till i was 16!! :0!) haha but yea weight also plays a role in it..the thiner you are the later your gonna get it (dont worry im not anorexic!) lol..just wait it out and if you really feel like its coming just wear a panty-liner to make you feel more comforatable! hope i helped!
~Candace

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see the thing is i have alot of friends but not one best friend i can do everything with. i want my one friend to be my bff but i dunno how, its really confusing and even tho i have friends i feel so alone.....help please

one best friend = TROUBLE! please do not do this! whats gonna happen is your gonna pick one bff and then your other friends are gonna get jealous and think your ditching them! just stay friends with a bunch of people and do things with all of them and once in a while just invite like one mof them over and have all of them as your bff's! hope i helped!!
~Candace

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well i need some advice because i've been wearin a thong for about a year now and i've kept it a secret from mi mom but yesterday she found 1 ov them and she didnt really care and wen she asked if it waz mine i said it was my friends. and my problem is i really don't wanna tell her tha truth... :( ( sould i stop wearin them??) i don't know wat 2 do if she brings up tha subject again? thanx ur advice would mean a lot to me....

NO PANTIE LINES! keep wearin them! this actually happened to me too! what i did is like a few weeks after she found the thong (i kept wearin them of coarse) i sat down with her and asked if i could start wearing thongs because i was "mature" enough (hah..yea right!! lol) but then she said.."i guess" and its that easy! keep in mind..do you really want those hideous pantie lines?! haha hope i helped!
~Candace

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If you go to the Doctor's and get tested to see if you are a virgin or not, could it come up posotive even if you haven't had sex?

anything is possible..but that is highly unlikely
~Candace

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do you play on tejanos?

uh..no

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well about 2 wks ago, i started dating a guy who is 19, ( im 16)lets call him... jeff. anyway, hes very sweet, and would give me the world if i wanted it. you could basically say hes my "prince charming" that i always dreamed of, well until a couple days ago. i met this guy from my friend...lets call him... andrew. ok so andrew, is also very sweet, and i've been talking to him on the phone lately, i refuse to see him, because i kind of do have feels for him, but im not sure if i want things to happen. and my friend told me that andrew likes me too. sooo.... the only reason im hesitating, is i really do like, jeff. but jeff gets pretty annoying at times, and hes... im not sure... he tends to make things, all about himself. and andrew wants to know what i think, everything. the weird thing is, i can talk to andrew about things i dont talk to my bf, jeff about. im not sure if i should move on, and go with andrew, or stay with jeff. another thing is, jeff's friend, is sick... (cancer)and hes really nice *(staying a friend, only think of him as that)* but, i know if i break things off with jeff, i'll regret it because of his friend, and i know i'll lose his friend if i do break things off. sooo what should i do?

girl...your heart decides who it likes and you cant change that. if you're really fallin for andrew then TELL HIM!! tell jeff that you want to stay friends with him but you just dont like him like a bf anymore..he should understand. hope i helped!
~Candace

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well i met my best friend cici this year and we were like unseperatable and we always had the best times together. but there was this girl who doesnt like me and never really did and she was my cicis friend. her name was emily. everytime i went to talk to cici emily would like roll her eyes. and if she was talking to cici at that time and i went up she would leave or say something and interupt. emily was always trying to be best friends with cici and now they are best friends! and cici like whenever we are together she tells me that we should hang out more cause she misses me and its all emilys fault that we never hang out cause she always wants to do sometime with cici. and cici is like tired of her cause she is constently trying to get her attention. what do i do. do i tell cici that i miss her and im tired of emily always trying to take her away or what?

im sorry this is long but i need help i really do.

sounds like you have the right idea, there. you need to tell cici exactly how you feel! (btw..make sure emily isnt around..lol) and if cici is tired of emily..then now is the time to tell her! hope i helped!
~Candace

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this year i have lost alot of friends for things that are confusing me. 1) i lost 2 frinds because of the way i eat (i put ketchup on chick'n) and because they said i talked alot about my family.
2) i lost a friend because her friend walked all over me and she never did anything to stop her/because she keept secrets from me about cutting herself but told everyone else and mad them promise not to tell me even though i was her best friend(at least thats what she said) 3) i lost 2 friends because of something someone else did! they blamed me even though i appologized for what happened. isnt that alot of friends to lose in such a sort period of time? what am i doing that is driving away all my friends? should i change myself? please help!!! ill tell u everything that happened!!

don't change yourself. they are obviously really sucky friends. the kind of friends you want are the kind who are honest, forgiving and dont care how you eat your chicken! my advice is to can these people who you call "friends" and get a new group..that may sound really tough after you've been in this group for so long..but i did it in 8th grade. i had a group of friends (about 6) and there was kinda a leader of the group (nina) and she would cause fights about the stupidist things and i got sick of it so i told her off and none of my so-called "friends" would back me off so i told them to never talk to me again and i left. now i had always been friendly with another group of people but not best friends(like i thought i had been with nina) so i went into that group and they were the funniest, nicest, people EVER! and they are now my best friends because they know exactly how i feel. and i have never been happier!!!!!!!!!! hope i helped!
~Candace

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(14/f)

My friend, Lisa, means a lot to me, & we've been through everything together. Recently, I've been drinking a lot, & my life has been all over the place & whatnot. She called me during one of these "intoxicated spells" & we kind of got in a fight about something or another.

I don't even know how to approach appologizing for what I've done, because I barely know WHAT I did. The hardest part is that she seems to want nothing to do with me any longer.

Should I just let her go, or what should I do? Please help.

dont let her go! is she has been through alot with you..dont ruin that! i can tell you exactly what you did...uh, ya went and got drunk! my advice is to enroll in some kind of program that will help you get over your drinking problem. then go to Lisa and tell her you're sorry for whatever you did (considering you dont know)and just see how it goes from there, kay?
~Candace

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i am 5'4 im tall skinny and have long legs and i can never find any clothes that fit me they are either to long or too fat and i want hot clother where do i look? please help me out.



i rate high

i have the same exact problem! i usually shop at holister-abercrombie & fitch-angel's...ok i hope i helped!
~Candy

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For MYSPACE, I want a Spice Girls song to play on my profile...It could be just the song or even better a music video.Does anyone know of a specific site that has Spice Girl songs on it? I need it to be a code so I can just copy and paste it into my profile without much complications.Thanks you!

try www.musicvideocodes.com

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I'm moving soon and I want to give something to my friends to remember me by, like pictures and stuff. Do any of you have any ideas? Thanks.

make a slide show! or a scrap book with tons of pics of when you guys were little till now and put in songs like the theme song from "Friends" and "Thats what friends are for" (for the slide show) the slide show is really easy if you have microsoft powerpoint! kay? hope i helped!
~Candy

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I have a dog named Smokey. It's a girl. She was suposed to have leg surgery because she tore a legiment or something, but now she is walking better. Should she still have surgery?

take her back to the vet. they know best! i would probably say no because if she is getting better there is no use in making her go through the surgery. but just to be sure..i would ask the vet! kay? hope i helped!
~Candace

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Okay , this girl moved from another part of the town to the part i live in around last year . I was quite popular in school. I became friends with her because i thought she was sweet and friendly. But since last month ( or maybe even before that ,who knows?) she started backstabbing me , but still acted nice and sweet and oh-so-innocent in front of me .I have been busy for some time because of some commitments i have , so i didn't realise this until last week . None of my old friends talk to me as much as before , and now even when i sms my best guy friend , he'll talk about her smsing him at the same time .And it seems as though all of them like her more than they like me , and my best guy friend ( former ? ) he'll say stuff like :" oh , me and her and ___ and ___ and ___ are real close man " Without even including ME ! And if he wants to go somewhere he'll say :"if she goes , i'll go . " It turns out she's been saying stuff behind my back , and now , SHE'S where i used to be , with MY friends , and MY popularity .Even my crush seems to sorta like her , and pay attention to her like how he used to do with me . WHAT SHOULD I DO ?

if those friends you talk about are really your friends then they will believe you when you tell them everything (and you WILL tell them!)if they dont...talk to that little bitch and tell her exactly how you feel. if that doesnt work then give her a taste of her own medicine (:P) start spreading rumors about her (i know, i know it sounds harsh but this is high school ((?)) and only the strong survive!!)
GOOD LUCK!
~Candace

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Wasnt really sure what to put this under but here it goes. I just got a new cell phone and the ring tones that came with it suck. I was wondering if anybody out there uses Jamster. How bad do they rip you, how much does it cost and how many downloads do you get? If you think Jamster sucks, where do you download your tones and how much does it cost? Thanks alot in advance :)

ok well i dont know what kind of phone you have, but if its a verizon phone (and im guessing you dont have Get It Now) there is this website with a bunch of ringtones and backrounds and stuff on it (www.vtext.com) what you do is enter all the required info and it will text the song or pic to your phone! Hope I helped!
~Candace

oh yea..it costs 99 cents

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uh this is gonna sound a tiny bit weird but what the heck does shank mean..

haha shank means pulling down somebody pants ;)

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Ive heard you can dye your hair with lemon juice..is this true? does it work? does it look good? how do you do it? i mean do you just squeeze a lemon over your head? Does it work if you have dark hair?? like really dark..
and can you get it out??

Yea this works! In the summer time when you want to give yourself highlights. And no..its not an actual lemon. In any grocery store you can find this lemon juice stuff. I actually did this once and the lemon juice came in a little green containor. Anyway..its the sun that makes your hair lighter (some chemical reaction with the lemon juice...idk) so where ever you put the lemon juice..your hair will get lighter! and yes..in time the streakes will wear out. Hope I helped!!

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I'm thinking about using Veet (the hair removing stuff). Is it bad for your skin?

Absolutely not! I use veet and it works wonderfully! The only downside of it is having to use it more often than you would use a
razor. (AND it wont give you razor burn :) !!)
Hope I helped!

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can you swim when you are on your period?

Of coarse ya can! Just use a tampon! The question is do you really feel like swimming when you have your period...lol. Hope I helped!

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well after my gf dumped me, we became "friends with benifits." we still make out and ive touched her boobs and she's given me a hj. is this a bad thing? she's the one who dumped me for another guy (whose ass i kicked). does this mean that she still likes me???

Yea. Well..kinda. "Friends with benifits" basically means that she wants to get it on with you, but she doesn't want to be completely commited to you. She obviously still has feelings for you because if she didn't.."friends with benefits" would have been out of the question. Hope I helped!

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