Hey everyone,
my name is Devan, I'm 19 years old and a sophmore at Arizona State University. Go Devils!! I moved here from Kingston Springs, TN (20 min. out of Nashville). If any of my friends have a problem of any sort whether girl/guy problems, school issues, social issues or anything of the sort, I'm always the one that they come to. I think the reason that my friends feel comfortable coming to me is because they know that whatever is discussed between the two of us stays between the two of us. I do that for my friends and all though I don't know any of you I will do the same for you as well. I'm trustworthy and I can guarantee that I've personally been in or have had a friend go through just about any situation you can come up with. Whatever you've got for me feel free to ask cause I'm down right honest and will help you the best way I can!
Gender: Female
Location: I moved from TN and I live in Arizona.
Occupation: student
Age: 19
AIM: blndbarbie18
Member Since: June 27, 2005
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is there any way to speed up my period? because it always comes at a really bad time like it did right now. (link)
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Ok, I don't know how old you are and this option really depends on your age. If you're not old enough think about this for the future. Birth control, it isn't used just for the obvious reason. My period use to be extremely irregular, I would get it about every two months. Birth control helps you regulate it. If you have usually heavy periods it lightens it up also. When you start if you count right you can determine when you want to start. So if you don't want to have it on the weekend you don't have to, you can get it over with during the week. Like I said before, that's only if you count right and if you're old enough.
Birth control actually helps clear skin as well. I hope that helps!
~Devan~
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♥ hey.
i have a Question. At night I exfoliate and use moisturizer and i sue stridex pads. Should I use my stridex pads after i moisturize? or will that be to much? and i also have a cleanser and Do u think i should use an exfoliater then cleanse? Im so confused because I want to do all of that but it might be too much for my face. what do you think? -THANKSS-xoxo I RATE HIGH! And also if I should ue all of that..then in what order? (link)
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Hey, I'm 19 and i've lived with a skin care professional my entire life so I know a good deal about skin care myself. I also doubled checked with her on this just to make sure. What you need to do is cleanse your face twice. Once is to get the makeup and anything else off that may be on your face from the day. The second time is to really cleanse your face. Then you need to exfoliate, don't feel like you have to rub to hard because you don't want to over exfoliate your skin and sensitize it. Then you need to moisturize. I honestly don't think you really need to use the stridex pads, but if you do do it right before you moisturize. To get exceptionally clear skin it really depends on what cleanser your using. I can give you a full list of what you should look for on labels to stay away from and I can do the same for your makeup, cause that also makes a big difference. IM me or email me and I will get back to you asap!
~Devan~
AIM: blndbarbie18
email:devan_vollmert@hotmail.com
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I am trying to get in shape over the summer...any ideas? And i am trying to eat healthy. thanks (link)
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Here are the steps I suggest you take and why:
1. Join a gym: While at they gym you can start out by doing minimum 30 minutes of cardio. Then you lift weights, because after doing cardio you need to tone up your body (that's what really makes you look in shape). Whether you do free weights or the equipment you should start out doing 2 sets of 10-15 then once you get use to it move it to 3 sets of 10. Also, gyms always have classes you can take like yoga or aerobics to make it fun, most times you don't have to pay extra but every gym is different.
2. Eat healthy: if you like sushi then that is an excellent choice to make, no more crap food (icecream, cookies, chips, fastfood, soda), people say to stop eating carbs and it's actually not good to stop eating carbs all together(you need some) just cut down on them
3. Try to get a friend to join the gym with you, someone who's motivated and won't be lazy. That way you will have someone to talk to throughout the process and it will be more enjoyable!
Well, I sure hope I helped and please let me know how you do and what you think of my advice!
~Devan~
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I'm a 13 year old female. Almost a year ago I became friends with a boy, also 13. We have always been very close, we have gone out at some points and up until last Friday we would hug and kiss all the time and we were close. Then on Monday night, he told me that he didn't think we should be so close anymore and that he wanted to stop. We weren't a proper couple so he wasn't breaking up with me but it felt like that. Now he wont hug me and he barely talks to me. He's suddenly got very close to another girl and I have no idea why he's suddenly changed. I really miss his friendship and I miss our closeness. I have tried talking to him about it but he tells me I'm being pathetic etc. Next week I am going on a school trip to France and I am so scared that he will get closer with the other girl I mentioned. I know I'm being posessive but he was my best friend and I miss him, I have no idea what to do. (link)
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You're not going to like this part of what I have to say, but it's really difficult to carry on any type of relationship at your age. What I want you to remember is that people go through life and will get "broken up with" or do the breaking up themselves several times throughout life. A lot of times you won't understand why, and yes it will hurt, but sometimes you just need to except it and move on. Now, losing a friend is much harder. In order to at least keep him as a friend you have to first except that he doesn't want to be intimate with you anymore. I'm sure the reason for that is because he's found someone new, I know this sounds harsh and I'm sorry. You need to let him know that you support his decision and you support him being with this girl because if it makes him happy that's all you want. That shows a good friend. Explain to him that you still hope that you two can try to go back to being friends as you were before. Now I want you to think about your trip in a completely different light. Instead of thinking of it as a way for him to get closer to some girl, think of it as a way for you to take your first big step in getting over him. I think it will be an excellent way for you to get your mind off things. Just think about all those cute French boys who are just waiting to see you! I hope this helps and let me know how you do!
~Devan~
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im a girl is it bad to finger urself? i guess its called masturbating
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Yes, you're correct, it is called masturbation. It's not necessarily a bad thing. There are several women out there who do it and there are several women who don't. It really depends on how comfortable you are with your body. It's completely natural to explore your body because it's actually a good thing to know yourself pretty well that way if anything foreign may show up you can take care of it. Just make sure if you do it you are doing it because you want to and not because "everyone" else is. I won't go into that whole lecture though because I know everyone hates to sit through that. Well, I hope I helped you out and if you have any other questions at all please feel free to ask.
~Devan~
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do anyone wear mary kay makeup?
is it good or bad i heared it was for old people (link)
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I come from a backround growing up with skincare professionals. So not only do I live with people who know all about skincare, I know a great deal myself. I'm not going to bash Mary Kay makeup and tell you it's horrible for your skin. What I'm going to do is tell you what to look for in all different types of makeup to see for yourself if it's good or bad. To maintain clear skin you MUST have a makeup that is non-comedogenic (that means it doens't clog your pores). When shopping for makeup look for these ingredients and DON'T use them: mineral oil, lanolin, artificial colors, artificial fragrances, formaldehyde, isopropylmyristate. All of these ingredients are either comedogenic (clogs your pores) or irritants to the skin. I suggest looking into mineral based makeup (it doesn't contain mineral oil). I use Bare Essentials and I have very healthy, clear skin. Please leave me a comment and let me know how you do or what you think of my advice! I sure hope I helped!
~Devan~
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I have a college induction day tomorrow, where they go through your subject choices and you get to meet people at the college... it's a private college (there was a test to get in and it costs alot to go there) and the dress for the day is "smart casual"... would it be okay to wear jeans? A pair that arn't ripped ect... lol I don't have trousers! But if it's not a good idea I can borrow something off my mum :S
What do you think?
16/f/UK (link)
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I would think jeans would be okay. However, if you do wear the jeans make sure you wear a pretty dressy top and nice shoes (heels or something) to balance it out. If you're still uncertain I would go with a semi-dressy knee length skirt with more of a casual top. Either way I'm sure you'll be fine. I promise no one will probably even remember what you had on once you start school. I hope this helps!
~Devan~
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sometimes i can not tell the difference between capital and lowercase letters,and sometime i look at words and they are backwards or flipped,also i get confused with the letters "d" and "b" or "y" and "g" or "m" and "w"
Why does this happen? (link)
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I'm a speech and hearing science major at ASU. I'm studying to be a speech pathologist so we learn about situations like this all the time. What may be happing is you could possbily be suffering from something called dyslexia. It's nothing to be concerned about. Basically people with dyslexia have trouble with reversing words, writing letters back to front, not being able to remember the sequence of letters in a word or sometimes reading from right to left. This may not be you but I suggest you speak to your parents about this issue because sometimes it can keep you behind in school. Talk to your parents about seeing a doctor about the situation and ask if seeing a speech pathologist may be necessary. Once you see a speech pathologist I guarantee they will help you fix this in no time! I hope I've helped out!
~Devan~
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I noticed that people are asking questions about the day after pill. Can you get the day after pill at planned parenthood without your parents knowing? especially if youre under 18. I'm 16 and a virgin, but im just wondering if it DOES ever happen, could i just drive up to planned parenthood and get the pill and no one would find out? cause my parents would kill me. thanks (link)
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Planned Parenthood is completely confidential and yes you can get it if you're under 18. What would happen is you would call and make an appointment to see one of the doctors. They will ask you a lot of questions and you do need to be prepared for them to explain to you the risks of sex. They will then give you a prescription, it's usually about $18 and then if you ever are in that position again you would just need to call in and ask for it and you don't have to go through the whole doctor thing again. They take good care of you, that's where I would send my friends if they ever needed help. I hope this helps!
~Devan~
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anyone kno about the day after pill? can u get it over the counter? (link)
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I know one of the major issues is getting it and not letting the whole world know about it. Most girls prefer Planned Parenthood. They take good care of you. You go in and see one of the doctors and they give you the prescription and then if you're ever in this situation again you just call in and tell them you need one and you don't need to go through the whole doctor thing again. Just a worning the pill does have some effects to it. It will make you a bit nauseated and sometimes headaches. It will also make you start your period early, so be prepared for that. I hope this helps and good luck!
~Devan~
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does anyone kno of really good techno songs? i rate 5's. thanks. (link)
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I don't have the names of specific songs but I can give you some really good artists who do techno. Try dj bizerk, dj caffiene, dj tiesto, or maybe dj funk. Hope that helps!
~Devan~
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im 14/f and ive never really had a true relationship. i think its because people just see me as the nice girl. plus, im not the prettiest thing in the world. what should i do to get guys to notice me?
MizzNiceGirl (link)
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Alright, I can relate to where your coming from. In high school I didn't have my first date until I was 15(a sophmore). I was always considered the nice girl. When it comes to getting guys to notice you...whatever you do don't feel like you need to sleeze yourself up just for attention. You may want attention, but you want it from the right people, I promise. Don't feel intimidated to talk to the guys and let your personality come out. A lot of times what will first get you noticed in a different light is personaltiy and CONFIDENCE!! Confidence is the key, not cocky but confident. For you to stand out, you have to show that you want to stand out. Hope that helps!
~Devan~
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does anybody know that website where you can learn how to type i thought it was typingpal.com but its not and does anyone know online where theres like makeup and hair tips? (link)
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I'm sure if you went on google.com and put in learn how to type you will be able to find something. As for hair and makeup, really any fashion magazine website will have a link. Try glamour.com, cosmopolitan.com, seventeen.com, elle.com, or even vogue.com. I know your looking for things online, but you should also look into the hair magazines they sell at grocery stores. Hope this helps!
~Devan~
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Im applying for a new job and it asks me my reason for leaving my last job. The reason I left was because I wanted to move onto something else, possibly higher paying and something better. How would I word that? (link)
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I hate that question on job applications! What I usually say is "Decided to pursue different and better opportunites". Sometimes I put the better in there, but sometimes I leave it out. It's entirely up to you. Hope that helps!
~Devan~
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my sister has been going out with this guy mike for longer thn a year and my whole family has loved him like a son/brother ect. but my stupid sister broke up with him for this druggie that our whole family despises. I know mike still loves her. I really don't want this Chris guy over at my house everyday. i was happy with mike. what should i do? i'll rate 5's for anyone who doesn't say it's your sisters life and let her do whatever she wants cuz i kno this guy is so wrong for her or anybody else. please help. (link)
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I dated this guy in high school for about 2 years. My family really started to not like him after a while and my friends didn't like him from the beginning. My mom and my dad would constantly have conversations with me about it saying how they didn't think he was right for me and he's doing this and that wrong. My friends would point out little things as well. I have to say that it was one of the most stressful periods of my life. It was constantly uncomfortable around my family and him because neither one liked the other which put me in a very difficult position. I suggest that you and your family sit your sister down and calmly have a discussion with her about how you all feel. Make sure you inform her that you understand it's her life and she has the right to date who she wants, but she needs to know that you and your family are not fully supportive. It will be a very difficult conversation to have, I promise you that. After she goes through enough time with her family not behind her the stress will be to much to bare and she will let one or the other go. Yes I said one or the other, bringing me to my next point. Although you don't support her in this, you still need to let her know that you all lover her and care about her so she doesn't feel abandoned. It worked on me so I hope it works on her. I hope this takes you where you want to go!
~Devan~
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so what do you do when you break up with your girlfriend, who was also your best friend before that, and now you've been replaced completely by some other guy....well ya that happened to me....she doesn't even talk to me anymore, but she's not visibly mad at me or anything...i've just been replaced entirely by this kid...any suggestions on 1) how to win her back atleast to best friend level or if not 2) how to deal with the fact that you've been replaced entirely.....any help would be great, thanks guys. (link)
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Well a lot on how to properly answer this would be for me to know who broke up with who, but I'll do my best. Unfortunatly throughout your life you will go through relationships that may not always end how you would like them to. Sometimes things change and you just need to except that, this is coming from personal experiece. First of all you don't need to try and immediatly win her back as a girlfriend. Show her that you respect her wishes and want her to be happy even if it's with this other guy. One of the most attractive qualities in a guy is when there genuinly sincere about wanting you to be happy. If you don't want to talk to her in person then try writing her a letter so she can read it in private and take some time to think. Dealing with being replaced is hard and there's really nothing that anyone can say to lift your spirits. It just takes time. Yes it may hurt, and yes you may feel like you will never recover, but I promise you will, everyone does cause everyone has been where you are. I hope this helps!
~Devan~
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im a 13/f. i have been getting this white werid stuff in my underwear for ALONG TIME NOW AND I HAVE NO CLUE WHAT IT IS. shouldnt i have go my period by now? (link)
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This is a question that every girl your age asks herself at some point. Your not alone I promise, this is completely normal! Excuse me for using certain terms but for you to understand I feel I must. About 6 months to 1 year before a girl starts her period she will get what's called a white discharge. This is caused by changing levels of hormones in a girl's body and increase secretions in the vagina. All it does is help to keep that area healthy. Just be prepared that it is a definite sign of getting close to starting your period. Hope that helps!
~Devan~
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