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UrsulaX
E-mail: piratical_ursh@mugglenet.com
Gender: Female
Location: West Midlands, UK
Age: 15
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you know how people say big feet you know what they say about big feet? well yeah i dont know what it means (link)
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Big feet means big socks... or so I've been told!
Or if you want me to be blunt, it *supposedly* means a big penis...
Hope that helped! ;-)
UrsulaX
(...please don't take it seriously...! )
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how.. (13/f)
1) do you get yourself to masterbate and what happens?
2)does a guy do oral on a girl? and what happens?
3) does a girl do a bj on herself? and what happens?
just a few curios questions. (link)
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1) You said you're femail, so: You use your hands to stimulate your clitoris, etc, to simulate sex and you will get pleasurable feelings.
2)A guy does oral on a girl by using his tongue and mouth to stimulate her clitoris.
3)A girl CANNOT physically perform a BJ on herself, unless she is rather deformed. A 'BJ' means oral. I think you see my point now.
I hope this was helpful, and if I was you I wouldn't listen to whoever told you about point number three.
UrsulaX
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i can't seem to find a deoderant that keeps me dry enough i know this is disgusting but can anyone help me??? (link)
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Don't worry, I also have this problem.
There are probably a variety of factors causing this, and they could include nervous tension, wearing synthetic materials and possibly even using a skin-irritating soap under-your arms.
For the tension try this breathing excersize-
Breathe in deeply for the count of three, hold that breath for the count of three and then exhale slowly for a count of six. Continue to do this for at least five minutes and you will start to relax. Try using it at least twice a day and you will begin to breathe more deeply naturally (it worked for me! And it works brilliantly for tons of other stuff as well!)
Now, for the clothing, if at all possible, wear natural fibres- like cotton. These will let skin breathe. If this is not possible, ie. you have a school uniform, try to wear little restrictive clothing as possible. For example, try wearing then t-shirts. I know this can be embarressing when people notice that you have patches, but even though it is tempting to hide under thick woolies, etc, this is not the best thing to do in the long term.
Try experimenting with different soaps and look for ones that are made out of natural products. A really good deoderant which is made for men (but can be used by women) is Rok, a crystal deoderant which you wet and rub on. It may not keep you dry, but you won't smell and you won't have rashes in you arm-pits :-P.
The best all-round deoderant is Mitchum.
One very, very drastic answer to this problem is to have botox injections in your under-arms. These paralyse the overactive sweat glands. Though I wouldn't recomend it if your problem is only moderate.
I hope this helped you,
UrsulaX
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what does orgy mean? (link)
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'Orgy' is short for 'orgasm'. This is the point durin sex where you reach you peak of excitement.
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ok things have gotten really stressfull in my life right now and i need soem help. the only way i have found to handle my stress is smoking. i have smoked for 4 years offa nd on. but never as much as i smoke now. about a year ago a pack would last me almost a week. now it barely lasts me over a day! i want to slow down, but i tend to get grumpy and really super stressed when i do. any ways i can either cut down with out freakign out or just take away some of my stress? i know smoking so much is only harming my body not helping, but i dont know any other ways to handle my stress (link)
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When you get grumpy and stressed, this is the first sign of your withdrawl.
Though I understand that you are extremely stressed at the moment, smoking is not the way to cope with it. If you are serious about giving up smoking (there is no such thing as cutting down) then I suggest that you do it now, stress or no stress, because if you put it off it will never happen.
If you want to quit entirely on will-power alone it will be hard but it is possible if you are strong enough. Next time you want a cigarrette, find something that will occupy your hands and your mind. Break old patterns which lead to smoking, ie. instead of your morning cup of coffee and cigarette, get straight into the shower or take out the bins or read a book for fifteen minutes. Remember that it will get easier as time goes by and you will find that your stress levels go down drastically.
If you want to make quitting easier, buy some nicotene patches or nicotene gum or take yourself to the doctor and have them prescribe you some medication which will help you.
This is as much advice as I can give you- the only person who can stop you smoking is you.
UrsulaX
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okay well my friend is kindof a eater i mean when were at lunch she eats alot plus everyone elses food i dont want to tell her she should stop eating cause shes fat but like how do i tell her cause shes my friend and i dont want her to regret it when she gets older for being a lil big and ya know i dont want to hurt her feelings (link)
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I know it can be hard when you're worried about a friend a what they could be doing to themselves, but I'm sure that she's aware that she's a little overweight.
If your friend confides in you about her weight then it is your duty as a good friend to help her in whatever she decides to do. If she doesn't, all you can do is encourage her to eat well (be tactful, please) and be there for her if she does want to confide.
If your friend is happy with her weight and it is not a health issue then it really should not be a concern for you either.
I hope this was helpful,
UrsulaX
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Umm this is kind of hard to ask but... why does it feel like I'm peeing razor blades? I heard this could be either connected to a bladder infection or an STD. I've never really had sex except with these guys that kind of dress up like girls, because I heard you can get STD's from having sex with women. But you can't get STD's from anal/oral sex right? Well what I'm trying to say is does anyone know what I can do to make the pain go away, short of chopping off my own penis with a butcher's cleaver. 13/m if that helps. (link)
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I would like to clarify something here: you CAN most definately get STD's from anal and oral sex.
The Hep.A, B and HIV virus are passed along through contact with bodily fluids, which include the 'mucus membrane' a thin layer inside the rectum which becomes broken durin anal sex. Other STDs are passed along similarly, though these are the most serious that I know of.
Many, many STDs can be passed on through oral sex, including the 'herpes simplex' virus- thrush and others.
It seems very likely that you HAVE contracted a sexual infection.
I hope that you consider the risks you are taking by having sex, especially when you are young and not fully grown. You will not be fully grown, physically, until you are 17-18 yrs old.
I suggest you go to your doctors who can refer you to your nearest sexual health clinic.
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Sometimes i feel like i want to die, i dont feel like miserable or anything and i dont want to die just for a way out, i feel kind of excited about death, like when i die i will be at peace with everything. isnt that what everyone wants inner peace and to live in eternal paradise? thats what i want? what are we waiting for? (link)
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Why die when you can find peace here on this earth?
When you are in harmony with the world around you and at harmony with yourself you will have peace.
Please, if this gets to the point of actually carrying out suicide, speak to a professional who will be able to create a safe environment in which you can work stuff out.
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Okay my question is long. This is something I am so confused on. Some people say demons do not exsist, but how can they not? We have reports of actual exorcisms and demon possession. Some people have their doubts and still say it's some sort of mental illness and an exocism drives thaty out of them. I believe demons are real, and if I believe demonic possession is real could a possession happen to myself? Now, I am trying to be rational in all and I know there hasn't been a possession/exorcism reported since the late 1940s. But the cases I have read throughly, they sound like real demonic possession and not just a mental illness. In the cases there was supernatural things going on such as levatation, sexual obsenities, foreign languages going on, self-mutilation, vomitting, moving of furniture, etc etc...now how can that be catagorized as a mental illness? But initially some people still believe it is. As for myself, Im really intrested in this sort of thing, I am also wondering if learning too much and sort of becomming obsessed with this sort of thing could open me up to possession? Sometime possession can occur differently for other people, people say the devil is always with you, and filling your mind with thoughts you can't control. Lately I have been having many of those thoughts, evil thoughts. Contemplating suicide, self-mutilation, alot of anger, could I be getting into this too far or could it be something else like depression etc, I know none of you can give me a straight answer but I would like input on what your beliefs are about this whole thing, it's very very hard to understand and complicated. (link)
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It's good that you are trying to think rationally about this subject and of course I am, in no way, trying to deny you your right to your oppinions, but I would like you to think very carefully about these reported 'possessions'. You say that the last reported possessions were in the 1940's? Was the evidence at the time properly certified? It couldn't have been without the use of proper scientific equipment. There is always the possibility that witnesses are unreliable, or as you mentioned, mentally ill.
None of these facts have been properly verified, and though there is room for speculation, I feel that it would be unwise to believe everything you read.
From what you said in your question, it could be that you have been looking a little to deeply into this idea and could indeed be developing an obsession. The fact that you have acknowledged that you may well be developing an obsession is a good sign. If you can identify when you are becoming too deeply immersed for your own safety and draw back for a while you would have completed another positive step.
Self-harm, contemplating suicide are quite commonly known symptoms of depression, and anger is a lesser known one. Could it be possible that depression and lack of motivation in life is causing you to obsess to heavily over this particular subject? Take a few steps back, speak to someone you trust or a hired shrink of some description, and re-asses.
I would urge you to think as rationally as possible over the idea of demons.
I tend to think that demons/the Devil are just metaphors for our darker emotions and thoughts, though I wouldn't go quite so far as to say that an excorism could drive them out.
I hope this helped.
UrsulaX
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I care to much about what people think of me. I know I do this, and it holds me back from alot.
I know I'm a cool person inside, but I'm scared to talk to anyone (besides people I'm already friends with). How can I stop this? (link)
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Wow- you must have a strong sense of self to recongnise yourself for being cool. You're way ahead of most people in this respect.
To over come your shyness just free yourself from all ideas of being judged. Get out there and remember that you can be friends with any one on this planet. Make friends with people you really enjoy being with and you'll have no problems with coming out and being yourself.
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Hi. I'm not on a diet, but whenever I talk to friends who follow a 'healthier diet' than myself, they always, always mention fruit smoothies as a great big help. And they mean it as in home made smoothies. They mention something about a blender fruits, milk and no sugar but I have nooo idea how to make them. Does anyone know how to? And are you supposed to add sugar?
And the evil question: does chocolate cause facial skin irritation? (link)
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I have no idea about the smoothies, but I can categorically tell you that, no, chocolate does not cause facial skin irrition. Sure, the sugar and few hundred aditives probably aren't doing much good for your over-all health, but eating chocolate actually releases seratonin, a pleasure hormone which cannot be bad for the way you look.
Besides, why deny yourself something if you love it? Just do it in moderation.
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i think and over-analyze everything way too much. it makes me paranoid. how can i stop this?
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Don't worry. I over analyze things alot. Including myself, relationships withfriends, other peoples personalities/behaviours... and so the list goes on.
And I have found that it generally never goes any where productive.
My mum is a far blown case. She comes home from work, sits down... and talks about people from her work, their lives, their behaviour, why she thinks they behave a certain way, how their behaviour could affect children they might possibly have in the future... She also talks about her childhood alot.
If you find that your over-analyzation is taking you to places you'd really rather not go until you have the strength to face your ugly bits and love them, I suggest that you try to live in the present as much as possible and to value things for what they are/who they are, etc. When ever you find yourself agonizing over a past mistake or someone elses behaviour towards you or a relationship, just take a moment and focus on how much you love the world around you and the people in it. Remember that you cannot grow unless you make mistakes and experience the world.
YOu will slowly find that you become more mellow about your analyzing and that it can potentially become a positive, constructive habit. Love yourself.
I hope this helped you, even if it didn't make so much sense.
UrsulaX
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Ok 4 about 2 weeks I have been loosing alot of weight! I mean like I have lost 7 or 8lbs in that time period. What I have been doing is not eating ANYTHING from 7:00am to 3:30pm and I have pratacly been starving my self. When I think of Food I get so hungray. But I don't feel like eating. I weighted 220lbs and now I weigh about 212. Is this healthy. I eat when I get home. No Smartasses please. Thanxs (link)
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This is not healthy at all.
Please don't think that I'm lecturing, or being a smart-arse because I've been there and it isn't a nice place. I also have one friend who has been hospitalised with anorexia.
Losing that amount of weight in the time-period you described is extremely unhealthy. Your body is lacking the energy that it needs to renew the cells in your body and fuel you through out your day to day activities.
Your body has begun to use its reserves of energy- fat. I suggest that you start eating again, because once all the fat is gone, the body will begin to use muscle tissue as energy. Yeah. Your muscles will be eaten up and you will waste away.
It is a really dangerous mind set to have where you are afraid to eat and I really hope you will speak to some-one about this.
Remember that you are beautiful as you are and you should never change for anybody other than yourself.
UrsulaX
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Do you think if I cut out all sodas would I lose about 5-7 lbs in 2 weeks? I usually drink about 1-2 sodas a day, but I am not overweight or anything I am 5'5 and 110 lbs. I would just like to lose about 5 lbs or so. Also I hear people say to even cut diet soda out? I thought diet soda was okay to drink b/c it has no calories, how could I benefit from not drinking diet either? (link)
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Giving up sodas is an excellent idea, however I doubt that you will be able to loose 5-7 Ibs.
Soda tends to have the effect of bloating (as does excess salt), so they effects of cutting out soda should be fairly immediate though they will not be particuarly noticeable.
Though diet and 'light' drinks have very low/no calories, they often have high levels of sugar derivatives and sweetners in which are damaging to your health. All sodas and fizzy drinks contain huge amounts of e-numbers, preservatives and additives. You would probably feel an all round benefit from cutting these out of your diet.
However, if you are looking to loose weight then cutting sodas out of your diet will do very little good.
I hope this was useful to you,
UrsulaX
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I'm horribly apprehensive about my up soming Bat Mitzvah!! I have prepared a very long speech about what i learned in hebrew school. Thats not what im nervous about though. I'm nervous about the hebrew reading (which is actually written in transliteration). I get nervous and start shaking. Sometimes I get so nervous that I talk really fast and slur my words. I don't want to mess up a day that is all about me!! How can I gain some CONFIDENCE in myself!! I'm so gunna screw up!! (link)
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I'm not Jewish, so have no experience of Bat Mitzbahs, though I can give you some general confidence boosters and tips.
Firstly- this is a brilliant breathing technique which will hopefully help with your nervous shake.
Simply, breath in for a count of three. Hold on to your breath for a count of three. Exhale slowly for a count of six. Repeat this for five minutes or so and you will find that you gradually become more relaxed and it may also help your concentration for the reading.
Secondly- I recommend that you practice as much as possible before hand. When you are confident that you know what you're doing and you know the text you will be able to concentrate fully on the reading, instead of becoming distracted by your nerves.
Thirdly- remember that everyone is willing you on to do your very best and that every one wishes you success.
Fourthly- if all else fails, imagine everybody naked! I'm not sure whether or not this actually works, but if all else has failed you won't have anything to lose by it.
I have done some public speaking in the past and I found these techniques helpful. I hope you do too.
UrsulaX
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Alright there is this girl i really like her she is funny and beautiful and all that good stuff but i don't know if she likes me to. Well i want to know what is the best way to go on about this. (link)
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The best way to go about this, in my oppinion, is just to really get to know this girl. Really, really get to know this girl.
Once you do this, everything else will fall into place and if it's right, it's right.
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okay i need yalls help. My friend is having a costume/birthday party on the 29th of October. I need some costume ideas...i'm 14 and im female. So nothing too trashy! Um i thought of being a paparazzi (or however its spelled) you know..the people who hound celebrities and take their pix. The only reason i thought of that is because I have a digital camera and it'd give me an excuse to take pix LOL. so if anyone has some costume ideas or how i could dress like a paparazzi plz help! thnkx a mil also..a few more things I am not looking to go out and spend alot of money...if possible i'd like to work with what i've got or if i must buy something i want it cheap. At home i've got a feather mask (black and white) a green feather boa, yellow and purple weave (i'm white and no one in my family knows how to braid so yeah), walking sticks, umm i've got a variety of pants and colors...although if it involes pants i'd like to wear blue jeans..umm anything else i dont have i can buy cheap so anything is welcome...I'd just prefer not to go as something like little red riding hood or something like that. Thnkx a mil! Please be descriptive with your costume ideas! thnkx! (link)
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I suggest you go as a pirate, though I know that it's kind of cliched.
Or you could go as a rock star or old style movie star, alla Audrey Hepburn, Marylin Monroe (I'm thinking of this boa you've got...) or you could do something 'period-masquerade' ball with that mask... think big flouncy dress (of your Mum's/other female relative/friend) with lots of frills, a cheap fan and a really big up-do.
Or how about a detective/paparazi type character- big duffel coat, deer-hunter cap, magnigying glass and cammera?
I hoped this helped,
UrshX
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hello my name is ally and i am 23 and married for last 4 month.
i would like to know if a women does not gets her mensuration (monthly periods)in any of the month then how many days does it takes to know her that she is pregnant.....n whats is the measure to confirm that she is pregnant.
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If a woman misses her monthly period there could be a variety of possible causes, and as well as pregnancy these include over-excersise, under-eating or problems ovulating.
If you want to be completely sure I suggest that you buy a pregnancy testing kit from a supermarket or pharmacy.
UrsulaX
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Is it bad to like people shorter than you?
i like this guy, but im like at least a head and a half taller than him...we're like bffs and i dunno...would it be akward to date someone shorter than me? im 5' 5" and im only 12. hes like a month younger and like i said about a head and half shorter.
please tell me what you think! i will rate high if u at least try to answer! (link)
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Do you really like this guy? Really think he could be the one? Because if you do and if you have entirely compatible personalities than a little thing like height shouldn't get in the way.
If, on the other hand, you're not soul-mates it all comes down to the question of whether you're willing to be laughed at for a few weeks or so until people realise that you don't care what they think and you're staying together.
Hope that helped.
UrshX
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