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Horribly Apprehensive!
I'm horribly apprehensive about my up soming Bat Mitzvah!! I have prepared a very long speech about what i learned in hebrew school. Thats not what im nervous about though. I'm nervous about the hebrew reading (which is actually written in transliteration). I get nervous and start shaking. Sometimes I get so nervous that I talk really fast and slur my words. I don't want to mess up a day that is all about me!! How can I gain some CONFIDENCE in myself!! I'm so gunna screw up!!
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tell yourself that you know you can do it. if you know in your heart that you can.. u can accomplish anything!
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You are not going to screw up. Trust me. I went through the same thing. You have prepared for years, you know it sooo well. You'll be perfect, trust me.
And feel lucky that it's in transliteration, I had to read mine completely in hebrew. =P
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You won't screw up-you are going to do great! I remember with mine (that was a while ago, but I never forgot this) I totally forgot one of the tunes for the chants. I FROZE. but i took a deep breath, and the rabbi hummed it a bit quietly next to me and i went along and did fine. The thing is everyone there is there because they are your family or friend and loves you, and is rooting for you no matter what. And if you make a mistake, big deal, just keep going and try not to let it get to you, it will still be your parents proudest moment and you should be proud too with all the work you did for it. Mazel and keep me posted.
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It may be a celebration with you as the honored guest, but if I understand correctly, a Bat Mitzvah is about becoming a man. If that is true, being a real man is not about you, but rather about responsibility and sacrifice - about serving God.
There are practical things you can do regarding your speech, and they have been mentioned, but your focus seems to be on fear of people instead of what God wants. That is what needs to change first and everything else will fall into place.
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What I suggest is for you to practice what you have to read in front of an audience so that you can get a feel for speaking in front of people. I took an entire course in Public Speaking and that was one of the things that helped me do really well on my speeches. Try to practice at least once a week if you can manage that. It'll get easier to do with more practice. Try your hardest not to get frustrated if you mess up a word or two. Just take a deep breath and keep on going. If you do end up messing up on something, it's not like you'll be the first who's ever done it.. and if you do decide to practice your readings, the chances of you messing up something major aren't very good.
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well if you need some hebrew help then i can help you cuz i speak fluently, so if ya have a ? then you can inbox me, i'll answer anytime..
For your confidence, just concentrate rele hard and practice a few times, but not too many times cuz then it'll get you rele confused...
if i din't rele answer your ? then inbox me!
mwazz!
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look confidence is a horrible thing but the girl that i like gives me confidence which is really bad cause she doesnt like me back so after i use the confidence i become depressed ugh thats not good but umm
remind yourself why you are doing this and what is your goal in life or in w/e so umm use your goals because that is the best way to use confidence i mean parents sometimes just make things worse so dont use that because well they might be annoying about it
umm and boys/girls dont do that either becuase then you might start like dazing off about the girl/boy that you like
but remind yourself why you are doing this and where you will get by doing it
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Here is a website that just may have some tips that you can use. Good luck and enjoy your day! :)
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hey yeah im jewish and im getting for my bat mitzvah right now too and im real nervous too but like just dont think about anything while ur doing it just like pretend everyone is in their underwear and if u mess up a little no one will care just think happy thoughts and dont worry hope that helped
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I'm not Jewish, so have no experience of Bat Mitzbahs, though I can give you some general confidence boosters and tips.
Firstly- this is a brilliant breathing technique which will hopefully help with your nervous shake.
Simply, breath in for a count of three. Hold on to your breath for a count of three. Exhale slowly for a count of six. Repeat this for five minutes or so and you will find that you gradually become more relaxed and it may also help your concentration for the reading.
Secondly- I recommend that you practice as much as possible before hand. When you are confident that you know what you're doing and you know the text you will be able to concentrate fully on the reading, instead of becoming distracted by your nerves.
Thirdly- remember that everyone is willing you on to do your very best and that every one wishes you success.
Fourthly- if all else fails, imagine everybody naked! I'm not sure whether or not this actually works, but if all else has failed you won't have anything to lose by it.
I have done some public speaking in the past and I found these techniques helpful. I hope you do too.
UrsulaX
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First off you saying you're going to screw up isn't helping you that's only putting more pressure and worry on oyu. Stop thinking that it's going to go bad because I'm pretty sure it won't. Think positively and ultimately that will give you more self confidence.
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